mm_oohz
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Many people think attraction is just looks( while that is a big part of it), I have noticed that personality is also a pretty big thing in each person's social life, looks get you to a certain point but personality is also something not to get overlooked.
I made this post because I want to talk about my struggles with being socially stupid, It's really hard to fit it in groups( you get called weird, awkward and all those kind of things), needing to play the whole convo before talking someone, and js feeling like you dont fit in. I missed out on alot of stuff js bc i am scared of socializing with people.
An actual story that happened to me
The whole year I never talked to this girl, never even tried sparking a convo( even though I found her attractive, I never had the thought of talking to her bc of my personality). Until the last 4 weeks of school, randomly we started making eye contact and having small talk and it progressed little by little, now she is a really popular girl and I always had the thought that ofc she talks with alot of guys and I am js one of them. Back to the story, I usually go to the library and hang out with my friends and she started doing that aswell, and after a bit of time she started inviting me over to sit with her, we used to talk abt all kinds of stuff we made jokes and had our own banter u could say, and atp I started developing feelings for her. But sadly all of this was at the end of the school year, but I did get her socials and we talked on a daily basis, some stuff happened and we stopped talking for abit( this is in the summer break), but i js thought it was some bullshit that girls do, and waited till we start skl. Skl started and we had some students join the classes but didnt have any new ones in our grade at all. And there is some guy who joined hes the same height as her( hes abt 168-170cm)face wise he isnt the best looking, but has a lot of confidence in him and rlly social. And in a span of 1 week from starting skl I see them always hanging out and always talking, and she even reposted abt him. I had to work my ass off to js spark a convo with her and he js did it effortlessly, was rlly sad at this but couldn't do anything about it
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Now ofc after this I tried looking up how to improve personality and all this shit, but came to nothing, js some fuckass tips saying do these and u will improve. I tried to put myself out there and socialize with ppl but i js got called awkward and weird, genuinely cant find another way to actually improve my social skills, If any1 has tips js leave a comment or add me on discord(mm_33z this is my user)
There has to be some other guy with the same problem right
I made this post because I want to talk about my struggles with being socially stupid, It's really hard to fit it in groups( you get called weird, awkward and all those kind of things), needing to play the whole convo before talking someone, and js feeling like you dont fit in. I missed out on alot of stuff js bc i am scared of socializing with people.
An actual story that happened to me
The whole year I never talked to this girl, never even tried sparking a convo( even though I found her attractive, I never had the thought of talking to her bc of my personality). Until the last 4 weeks of school, randomly we started making eye contact and having small talk and it progressed little by little, now she is a really popular girl and I always had the thought that ofc she talks with alot of guys and I am js one of them. Back to the story, I usually go to the library and hang out with my friends and she started doing that aswell, and after a bit of time she started inviting me over to sit with her, we used to talk abt all kinds of stuff we made jokes and had our own banter u could say, and atp I started developing feelings for her. But sadly all of this was at the end of the school year, but I did get her socials and we talked on a daily basis, some stuff happened and we stopped talking for abit( this is in the summer break), but i js thought it was some bullshit that girls do, and waited till we start skl. Skl started and we had some students join the classes but didnt have any new ones in our grade at all. And there is some guy who joined hes the same height as her( hes abt 168-170cm)face wise he isnt the best looking, but has a lot of confidence in him and rlly social. And in a span of 1 week from starting skl I see them always hanging out and always talking, and she even reposted abt him. I had to work my ass off to js spark a convo with her and he js did it effortlessly, was rlly sad at this but couldn't do anything about it
.Now ofc after this I tried looking up how to improve personality and all this shit, but came to nothing, js some fuckass tips saying do these and u will improve. I tried to put myself out there and socialize with ppl but i js got called awkward and weird, genuinely cant find another way to actually improve my social skills, If any1 has tips js leave a comment or add me on discord(mm_33z this is my user)
There has to be some other guy with the same problem right
