MoggerGaston
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From my times when I was socialmaxxing before lockdowns, I remember this very clearly.
You would end up meeting someone interesting, interested in you, get invited to an event. Where you would meet new interesting people and set-up new dates for events from things they shared.
(Oh you like that type of music? There's a concert from XX with that music here in 3 weeks! U should come with us.)
That kinda vibe.
Within a few months you would have more social events/contacts wanting to meet-up with you than you could manage. Never before did I have to make decisions between parties/people, because I had multiple things planned on the same day. Now I did. This is what you truly want, because usually there's events you go to 'because you have nothing better to do', and theres people you actually like chilling with.
Having multiple events planned on the same day will allow you to learn yourself what you really like and dislike tbh.
Anyways the reverse is also true. When you have little to no social events planned, you will stay in this 0 social action state for extended periods of times.
Worst is that the people you do meet, tend to be other loners/low social-life people that you will not easily allow you to get into more and more social actions. But instead make you feel low-energy, down like you're wasting your time by being with them.
Exactly because the people you do want to meet with the interesting social lives, already have packed social schedules and arent interesting in meeting new people, you.
It's brutal ngl. I lost contact with that social circle where I was quickly developing from, already before the lockdowns but it was solidified during lockdowns and essentially ended them tbh.
Getting back into such an atmosphere seems like an impossible task now.
You would end up meeting someone interesting, interested in you, get invited to an event. Where you would meet new interesting people and set-up new dates for events from things they shared.
(Oh you like that type of music? There's a concert from XX with that music here in 3 weeks! U should come with us.)
That kinda vibe.
Within a few months you would have more social events/contacts wanting to meet-up with you than you could manage. Never before did I have to make decisions between parties/people, because I had multiple things planned on the same day. Now I did. This is what you truly want, because usually there's events you go to 'because you have nothing better to do', and theres people you actually like chilling with.
Having multiple events planned on the same day will allow you to learn yourself what you really like and dislike tbh.
Anyways the reverse is also true. When you have little to no social events planned, you will stay in this 0 social action state for extended periods of times.
Worst is that the people you do meet, tend to be other loners/low social-life people that you will not easily allow you to get into more and more social actions. But instead make you feel low-energy, down like you're wasting your time by being with them.
Exactly because the people you do want to meet with the interesting social lives, already have packed social schedules and arent interesting in meeting new people, you.
It's brutal ngl. I lost contact with that social circle where I was quickly developing from, already before the lockdowns but it was solidified during lockdowns and essentially ended them tbh.
Getting back into such an atmosphere seems like an impossible task now.
