Socializing is easy, the difficult part is feeling connected

[AlexAP]

It's important to be able to talk to strangers, find a group, etc., but the thing is even if you have that, to really feel good you have to feel connected to others. This is the difficult part, I still always feel like the third wheel, never fit in really, it makes me go crazy.

I don't know how to overcome this. Maybe I should follow Normie advice and talk to a therapist, but last time I was forced as a kid and hate therapists because of this experience. But I don't know anymore, I have to find a way to get my brain to feel connected, fucking brutal. The only explanation I have is my brain genetics and that my father never hugged me or said he's proud of me, I guess I need to reprogram my brain.

 

[looksmaxxed]

i have already accepted that i am a superior 1 in a billion specimen incapable of relating to primitive creatures. gives me a whole new perspective when interacting with these ant forms. such cute adorable little jokes hehe

 

[Deleted member 23772]

Man same. I do still have my homeboys though but just cant connect with new people properly. I am low inhib but not NT enough or socially extroverted to the point where i can socialise for hours. I lose social energy after just 10 min of talking

 

[AlexAP]

i have already accepted that i am a superior 1 in a billion specimen incapable of relating to primitive creatures. gives me a whole new perspective when interacting with these ant forms. such cute adorable little jokes hehe

Yeah won't work for me, I feel superior in some aspects but not in all, so I don't see mankind as a whole beneath me.

 

[Deleted member 19846]

It's not hard to appear normal, or even confident and extroverted. I mean for me it is, because I have extremely low dopamine and I'm braindead from rotting. So while I know not to say weird or dumb shit, I don't have the ability to come up with charming or funny shit to say. 90% of the things I say are empty obligatory preprogrammed responses.

Either way, the problem is that if you're autistic, masking is very draining. If you're schizoid, you simply don't get anything out of socializing. If you're NT with a personality that is just innately unappealing, faking a different one results in never feeling genuinely connected to anyone.

 

[autistic_tendencies]

Rich people have therapists
Poor people have friends

 

[Deleted member 25059]

and this guy calls himself a coach. what a joke

 

[AlexAP]

and this guy calls himself a coach. what a joke

So funny.