South Asian don't have life skills once the career checklist is done

[Jason Voorhees]

I've been thinking about this for a while, and I feel like a lot of South Asian men silently go through the same thing:

We were raised to chase grades to college to job.

That was the entire blueprint.

I've lived through it grinded for years and landed myself in a comfy place but after that I had no idea what to do and had to teach myself a lot of things from scratch. Growing up my parents did everything for me, for cooking, cleaning, laundry evrything just so I could focus on my studies which was great but I skipped on many crucial stepping stones growing up into an adult.

I know many South Asians and East Asians that crush the career checklist by their mid-late 20s IIT/IIM/Stanford. FAANG level job, 7-figure salary, proud parents posting on WhatsApp groups and then nothing. The script just ends. We were never taught what comes after ""You've made it''.


No one showed us how to build a body, how to talk to women without sounding like a resume or how to spend a Sunday that isn't recovery from Excel sheets. The result is Quiet depression in expensive apartments,doom scrolling at 2 AM, wondering why the "success" feels like a trap. I know so many people like this. Senior Devs, Consultants and people working in top firms living the LinkedIn success story but still sad from the inside.

Our parents fought a different war. Their priority was survival and job security. For them, getting a stable job was the dream. Because that was the reality of it and how the conditions were

But for us. We were raised in better conditions, with more opportunities so our needs are different. We crave purpose, relationships, confidence, mental well being, independence, self expression. All completely foreign concepts to curry parents

 

[Jason Voorhees]

@Swarthy Knight @aladdinmaxxer @browncurrycel @SecularIslamist

 

[zeref74]

This is why a lot of them smell like shit bc they don't know how to take care of themselves in a foreign nation

 

[ranierean]

You're not "asian", you're subcontinental
Nobody thinks of the Balkans or Turkey and screams EVROPA, there are only like 3 countries that are actually "Asian"

 

[Jason Voorhees]

@SplashJuice @Chadeep @idealistsynth

 

[Jason Voorhees]

@Water Bomb

 

[Water Bomb]

Seeing a job title as the end goal is the issue.

The only purpose of a job in my mind is to make money.

After all a job title is arbitrary, and while money is too it can be used to obtain physical things.

 

[GonorrhoeaGobbler]

Korean schools filter every non submissive who is smart and will work for cheap to work jobs at Samsung or wtv
The rest ldar

 

[FredoEstelar]

idc about chinks

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

I've been thinking about this for a while, and I feel like a lot of South Asian men silently go through the same thing:

We were raised to chase grades to college to job.

That was the entire blueprint.

I've lived through it grinded for years and landed myself in a comfy place but after that I had no idea what to do and had to teach myself a lot of things from scratch. Growing up my parents did everything for me, for cooking, cleaning, laundry evrything just so I could focus on my studies which was great but I skipped on many crucial stepping stones growing up into an adult.

I know many South Asians and East Asians that crush the career checklist by their mid-late 20s IIT/IIM/Stanford. FAANG level job, 7-figure salary, proud parents posting on WhatsApp groups and then nothing. The script just ends. We were never taught what comes after ""You've made it''.


No one showed us how to build a body, how to talk to women without sounding like a resume or how to spend a Sunday that isn't recovery from Excel sheets. The result is Quiet depression in expensive apartments,doom scrolling at 2 AM, wondering why the "success" feels like a trap. I know so many people like this. Senior Devs, Consultants and people working in top firms living the LinkedIn success story but still sad from the inside.

Our parents fought a different war. Their priority was survival and job security. For them, getting a stable job was the dream. Because that was the reality of it and how the conditions were

But for us. We were raised in better conditions, with more opportunities so our needs are different. We crave purpose, relationships, confidence, mental well being, independence, self expression. All completely foreign concepts to curry parents

This is so retarded.

I’d rather have these issues than be broke etc but be able to speak to women

Your issues are so fucking minor it’s laughable. You have money go pay a bitch and she’ll be Your wife forever you don’t need to get a body or whatever to get a girl once you have cash.

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

Seeing a job title as the end goal is the issue.

The only purpose of a job in my mind is to make money.

After all a job title is arbitrary, and while money is too it can be used to obtain physical things.

Money is tangible

Money is the only thing that matters in life everything else is second to money

 

[Water Bomb]

Money is tangible

Money is the only thing that matters in life everything else is second to money

Yes but only because you can use it to obtain physical things.

 

[Jason Voorhees]

@buddhistking @CorinthianLOX @BigBallsLarry @Klasik616

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

Yes but only because you can use it to obtain physical things.

I perosnally feel money is the only thing that matters and having connections I have no money and u feel the pain of this daily everyday I feel the pain

This is why this threads a fucking joke, the parents were right to make you get top job by grinding everything else is inferior you can buy courses on how to be social WITH MONEY, you can get a hot gigga Stacy WITH MONEY. The list goes on money in the only thing that matters everything else is bullshit cope. When you’re as broke as me it literally destroys your mind from speaking to girls I don’t even wanna talk to women anymore and it’s due to poverty. Op and other Jeets and chinks don’t get this so they make gay threads like this

I want a new coat but have no cash to afford it, if your a poojeet like OP you can just buy it and be relaxed because cash is the only thing that matters nothing else. Also connections

 

[buddhistking]

Yeah but I can't speak to women and I'm also not on track for a 7 figure income so I'd rather be curry

Although africans also kinda raise their kids like that, but the extreme problems of the black community usually hold them back as was the case with me, being black is hell

 

[buddhistking]

Literally I have always envied curries so much, like they are so much more respected than blacks despite the poojeet memes, they have senior positions in UK despite being colonised third world immigrants

If I was born curry my life in London would have been so much easier and I would be much better now, nothing about the black community works bro, there is hostility, divisions, violence, self hatred, gang politics, civil wars, poverty, fatherless homes, tons of racism, colourism, history of slavery, oppression, genocide, mocked by everyone even our own kind etc, at least curries have a future on this planet, Africans have nothing, Caribbeans have nothing, African Americans have nothing

Where is the Indian race gonna be in 100 years time, much better, where is the black race gonna be in 100 years time, still the lowest on the planet

My family friend was curry and they always lived in a better area than they and lived a better life and her their even gave me my first internship at a bank where she had a senior role, because blacks are so hated and inefficient that they cant create opportunities for themselves, its actually unfair

 

[Water Bomb]

they have senior positions in UK despite being colonised third world immigrants

Okay but they worked to make that happen.

 

[FutureExoticChad]

This is so retarded.

I’d rather have these issues than be broke etc but be able to speak to women

Your issues are so fucking minor it’s laughable. You have money go pay a bitch and she’ll be Your wife forever you don’t need to get a body or whatever to get a girl once you have cash.

Its almost inspiring how retarted you are

Just shut the fuck up please

 

[buddhistking]

Okay but they worked to make that happen.

Yes cus they are better than us blacks

 

[JohnDoe]

What comes after is you give them grandchildren so they can continue bragging and then comes house, car, business, and their retirement.

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

Its almost inspiring how retarted you are

Just shut the fuck up please

Irony of this coming from you

Welcome to my ignore all you do is have the worst takes and chimp out in me for MOGGING you into dirt, your an inferior insect hence your name “Futureexoticchad” no faggot you’ll never be Chad your a subhuman inferior insect lower than the shit I just took in the toilet learn your place faggot

 

[browncurrycel]

Real

 

[FutureExoticChad]

Irony of this coming from you

Welcome to my ignore all you do is have the worst takes and chimp out in me for MOGGING you into dirt, your an inferior insect hence your name “Futureexoticchad” no faggot you’ll never be Chad your a subhuman inferior insect lower than the shit I just took in the toilet learn your place faggot

Not reading your recycled insults

Just shut up nigga, literally shut up

All your good for is barking and parroting recycled shit that nobody needs to hear again

 

[lucifer88]

I've been thinking about this for a while, and I feel like a lot of South Asian men silently go through the same thing:

We were raised to chase grades to college to job.

That was the entire blueprint.

I've lived through it grinded for years and landed myself in a comfy place but after that I had no idea what to do and had to teach myself a lot of things from scratch. Growing up my parents did everything for me, for cooking, cleaning, laundry evrything just so I could focus on my studies which was great but I skipped on many crucial stepping stones growing up into an adult.

I know many South Asians and East Asians that crush the career checklist by their mid-late 20s IIT/IIM/Stanford. FAANG level job, 7-figure salary, proud parents posting on WhatsApp groups and then nothing. The script just ends. We were never taught what comes after ""You've made it''.


No one showed us how to build a body, how to talk to women without sounding like a resume or how to spend a Sunday that isn't recovery from Excel sheets. The result is Quiet depression in expensive apartments,doom scrolling at 2 AM, wondering why the "success" feels like a trap. I know so many people like this. Senior Devs, Consultants and people working in top firms living the LinkedIn success story but still sad from the inside.

Our parents fought a different war. Their priority was survival and job security. For them, getting a stable job was the dream. Because that was the reality of it and how the conditions were

But for us. We were raised in better conditions, with more opportunities so our needs are different. We crave purpose, relationships, confidence, mental well being, independence, self expression. All completely foreign concepts to curry parents

thanks for always giving this good ass threads jason i love you

 

[Jason Voorhees]

What comes after is you give them grandchildren so they can continue bragging and then comes house, car, business, and their retirement.

Grandchildren that young?

 

[Anjixss]

I've been thinking about this for a while, and I feel like a lot of South Asian men silently go through the same thing:

We were raised to chase grades to college to job.

That was the entire blueprint.

I've lived through it grinded for years and landed myself in a comfy place but after that I had no idea what to do and had to teach myself a lot of things from scratch. Growing up my parents did everything for me, for cooking, cleaning, laundry evrything just so I could focus on my studies which was great but I skipped on many crucial stepping stones growing up into an adult.

I know many South Asians and East Asians that crush the career checklist by their mid-late 20s IIT/IIM/Stanford. FAANG level job, 7-figure salary, proud parents posting on WhatsApp groups and then nothing. The script just ends. We were never taught what comes after ""You've made it''.


No one showed us how to build a body, how to talk to women without sounding like a resume or how to spend a Sunday that isn't recovery from Excel sheets. The result is Quiet depression in expensive apartments,doom scrolling at 2 AM, wondering why the "success" feels like a trap. I know so many people like this. Senior Devs, Consultants and people working in top firms living the LinkedIn success story but still sad from the inside.

Our parents fought a different war. Their priority was survival and job security. For them, getting a stable job was the dream. Because that was the reality of it and how the conditions were

But for us. We were raised in better conditions, with more opportunities so our needs are different. We crave purpose, relationships, confidence, mental well being, independence, self expression. All completely foreign concepts to curry parents

Not a problem at all if ur 120 iq+, plus u have the internet what are u doing

 

[Jason Voorhees]

@Eärendil

 

[JohnDoe]

Grandchildren that young?

grandchildren for your parents, childen for you

 

[gymceltard]

I've been thinking about this for a while, and I feel like a lot of South Asian men silently go through the same thing:

We were raised to chase grades to college to job.

That was the entire blueprint.

I've lived through it grinded for years and landed myself in a comfy place but after that I had no idea what to do and had to teach myself a lot of things from scratch. Growing up my parents did everything for me, for cooking, cleaning, laundry evrything just so I could focus on my studies which was great but I skipped on many crucial stepping stones growing up into an adult.

I know many South Asians and East Asians that crush the career checklist by their mid-late 20s IIT/IIM/Stanford. FAANG level job, 7-figure salary, proud parents posting on WhatsApp groups and then nothing. The script just ends. We were never taught what comes after ""You've made it''.


No one showed us how to build a body, how to talk to women without sounding like a resume or how to spend a Sunday that isn't recovery from Excel sheets. The result is Quiet depression in expensive apartments,doom scrolling at 2 AM, wondering why the "success" feels like a trap. I know so many people like this. Senior Devs, Consultants and people working in top firms living the LinkedIn success story but still sad from the inside.

Our parents fought a different war. Their priority was survival and job security. For them, getting a stable job was the dream. Because that was the reality of it and how the conditions were

But for us. We were raised in better conditions, with more opportunities so our needs are different. We crave purpose, relationships, confidence, mental well being, independence, self expression. All completely foreign concepts to curry parents

Bruh most western born Indians and Asians I knew growing up get pussy by their fellow nerds.

STEMcel ethnic guys date STEMcel ethnic females. If your incel you are a unique case from my experience.

 

[Jason Voorhees]

Bruh most western born Indians and Asians I knew growing up get pussy by their fellow nerds.

STEMcel ethnic guys date STEMcel ethnic females. If your incel you are a unique case from my experience.

This thread wasn't specifically talking about inceldom or dating just life in general.

 

[m0ss26]

The culture is just fucked up in that regard.

For example with Persians its all about who presents themselves as highest class and got the new BMW and who’s kid went to what school and is a rich doctor. We are more lookist than Indians but everything circle back to career and money, because to them thats all there is to live for

 

[gymceltard]

Literally I have always envied curries so much, like they are so much more respected than blacks despite the poojeet memes, they have senior positions in UK despite being colonised third world immigrants

If I was born curry my life in London would have been so much easier and I would be much better now, nothing about the black community works bro, there is hostility, divisions, violence, self hatred, gang politics, civil wars, poverty, fatherless homes, tons of racism, colourism, history of slavery, oppression, genocide, mocked by everyone even our own kind etc, at least curries have a future on this planet, Africans have nothing, Caribbeans have nothing, African Americans have nothing

Where is the Indian race gonna be in 100 years time, much better, where is the black race gonna be in 100 years time, still the lowest on the planet

My family friend was curry and they always lived in a better area than they and lived a better life and her their even gave me my first internship at a bank where she had a senior role, because blacks are so hated and inefficient that they cant create opportunities for themselves, its actually unfair

This. If your rich and incel just pay a high end escort to teach you sex. Pay a dating coach to teach you how to speak to women. It’s so easy, money is the only thing that matters in this world.

 

[ascension]

My parents always told me "get a good job and the girls will come running"

In fact, it went the opposite way, I got even less attention than I did when I worked in a warehouse.

Girls only really give a shit about your money/career when they hit 30. Up till then, you ain't getting shit just because of your good job. It is practically meaningless.

 

[m0ss26]

What i notice from south Asians though is that they are SO absolutely consumed with having “security” from a good paying job that everything else gets completely disregarded because its been drilled into them by their parents. And so the kids grow up with 0 idea how to actually live or socialize or be hygienic since all they were worried about is pleasing mommy and daddy and getting to that school and so on. Most south Asians at my school (coming from rich parents too btw) are social outcasts not just because of looks but because they almost willingly insert themselves into the “loser” cliques

 

[gymceltard]

This thread wasn't talking about specifically talking about inceldom or dating just life in general.

Well you talked about how you weren’t taught skills like talking to women. Usually parents don’t teach this stuff you learn it naturally IRL.

Every STEMcel manlet Asian guy from my highschool is dating a cute fellow STEMcel short Asian girl and they seem happy and successful.

I wish I focused more in school and tried harder, I’d probably have a cute nerdy hapa Asian gf and many friends in my high paying career. I don’t even like Stacey’s my type is nerdy STEMcel foids.

 

[optimisticzoomer]

What a joke
Muh good job

 

[m0ss26]

My parents always told me "get a good job and the girls will come running"

In fact, it went the opposite way, I got even less attention than I did when I worked in a warehouse.

Girls only really give a shit about your money/career when they hit 30. Up till then, you ain't getting shit just because of your good job. It is practically meaningless.

Right on the money son

 

[sub5outsider]

 

[Jason Voorhees]

The culture is just fucked up in that regard.

For example with Persians its all about who presents themselves as highest class and got the new BMW and who’s kid went to what school and is a rich doctor. We are more lookist than Indians but everything circle back to career and money, because to them thats all there is to live for

My parents always told me "get a good job and the girls will come running"

In fact, it went the opposite way, I got even less attention than I did when I worked in a warehouse.

Girls only really give a shit about your money/career when they hit 30. Up till then, you ain't getting shit just because of your good job. It is practically meaningless.

This kind of culture is a knee-jerk response to the kind of environment our parents grew up in.

They saw neighbours starve, relatives lose everything in Partition or the '71 war or the '91 liberalisation chaos, jobs disappear overnight, families go from middle class to homeless because one breadwinner got sick with no safety net. . A BMW or a doctor son or an NRI kid sending dollars home literally meant your family wouldn't be wiped out the next time the country sneezed. Survival PTSD got dressed up as "culture" and handed down.

 

[ascension]

What i notice from south Asians though is that they are SO absolutely consumed with having “security” from a good paying job that everything else gets completely disregarded because its been drilled into them by their parents. And so the kids grow up with 0 idea how to actually live or socialize or be hygienic since all they were worried about is pleasing mommy and daddy and getting to that school and so on. Most south Asians at my school (coming from rich parents too btw) are social outcasts not just because of looks but because they almost willingly insert themselves into the “loser” cliques

The expectations they have are so absurd it's crazy. I have literally been raised to make up for the mistakes of my parents - insane pressure and strictness since I was a baby, failure literally wasn't an option. If I didn't have a good job now, I would literally be disowned by them and kicked out of the house.

You're expected to perform just as well as an upper middle class child who's been sent to elite private school, whilst growing up poor and with hardly any backing or real world advice. I've had no one to give me any career advice, or how to talk to girls, how to make friends, nothing. Literally 0 life lessons outside of "muh study". My life's been a living hell for so long I'm surprised I'm even alive at this point.

 

[Jason Voorhees]

What a joke
Muh good job

I appreciate the lone jfl react to this thread

 

[ascension]

Don't even get me started on competing for top jobs while growing up ethnic in a white country. It's like trying to climb a mountain carrying a 50kg backpack while the others just walk past you easily. You have to stay focused on your studies whilst having 0 social life, 0 dating prospects and the stigma of being brown (which gets worse every year)

 

[m0ss26]

This kind of culture is a knee-jerk response to the kind of environment our parents grew up in.

They saw neighbours starve, relatives lose everything in Partition or the '71 war or the '91 liberalisation chaos, jobs disappear overnight, families go from middle class to homeless because one breadwinner got sick with no safety net. . A BMW or a doctor son or an NRI kid sending dollars home literally meant your family wouldn't be wiped out the next time the country sneezed. Survival PTSD got dressed up as "culture" and handed down.

100% thats why im glad my parents are so different from all the others, i really got blessed to grow up rich and without being helicoptered and having constant obsession over my grades. My parents realized i gotta be the one to want it or else it doesnt matter how much they force me. But i see everywhere else the other kids aren’t as lucky, even the parents that make it and get rich and get to America still carry that same mentality and Iranian culture from back when they were living in the home country.

The expectations they have are so absurd it's crazy. I have literally been raised to make up for the mistakes of my parents - insane pressure and strictness since I was a baby, failure literally wasn't an option. If I didn't have a good job now, I would literally be disowned by them and kicked out of the house.

You're expected to perform just as well as an upper middle class child who's been sent to elite private school, whilst growing up poor and with hardly any backing or real world advice. I've had no one to give me any career advice, or how to talk to girls, how to make friends, nothing. Literally 0 life lessons outside of "muh study". My life's been a living hell for so long I'm surprised I'm even alive at this point.

I see it all the time with south Asians man. I remember i knew this kid who’s mom was a doctor and friends with my mom and so i was forced to hang out with her kid a few times (jfl) and the dude was so autistic beyond belief, dude was 16 and couldn’t make an egg or do laundry if he had to and all he could talk about was Roblox and what was happening at school and in his classes. I mean what could you even expect when all he’s been told is to study his whole life and never made real friends. And thats a rich kid, I can’t even imagine coming from a poor background since the parents would probably drill in the importance of career 5x more out of fear. I’m glad you at least have that decent job now but I already know the suffering it took probably wasn’t even worth it. Family may “love” you but often times they have no clue what’s actually best for their kid, instead its like you said, youre made to make up for their mistakes.

 

[Glorious King]

My parents always told me "get a good job and the girls will come running"

In fact, it went the opposite way, I got even less attention than I did when I worked in a warehouse.

Girls only really give a shit about your money/career when they hit 30. Up till then, you ain't getting shit just because of your good job. It is practically meaningless.

LOL LEGIT

THE SAME COPE MY PARENTS SAY

BUT IRL , IT'S THE BROKE BAD BOYS TAKING ALL THE CUTIES

 

[Water Bomb]

My parents always told me "get a good job and the girls will come running"

In fact, it went the opposite way, I got even less attention than I did when I worked in a warehouse.

Girls only really give a shit about your money/career when they hit 30. Up till then, you ain't getting shit just because of your good job. It is practically meaningless.

Job is for money, not girls.

Money to buy a house or whatever you need.

The issue is seeing a job title or a girl as the end goal in the first place.

 

[gymceltard]

This kind of culture is a knee-jerk response to the kind of environment our parents grew up in.

They saw neighbours starve, relatives lose everything in Partition or the '71 war or the '91 liberalisation chaos, jobs disappear overnight, families go from middle class to homeless because one breadwinner got sick with no safety net. . A BMW or a doctor son or an NRI kid sending dollars home literally meant your family wouldn't be wiped out the next time the country sneezed. Survival PTSD got dressed up as "culture" and handed down.

I understand having this mentality in India, but western ethnic parents who are like this make no sense to me.

They look around and see a wealthy country and robust welfare state but somehow their mentality is they are still in the 3rd world on the edge of starvation. My mom was like this, I never understood it.

 

[nonntfreak]

Girls only really give a shit about your money/career when they hit 30. Up till then, you ain't getting shit just because of your good job. It is practically meaningless.

Modern day women don't care even after 30. The old school way of attracting women with your job, or with the cool car, or the cool watch is outdated. They know nerdy losers can also buy these things. Betabuxx game is dead now that women are more independent.

Money game was replaced by status game.

Popularity oriented things like being popular on social media will help you with girls way more than having a good job.

 

[Water Bomb]

Money game was replaced by status game.

Yeah exactly.

Anyone who is doing a career with women as the final goal is stupid.

Money is the final goal of a career, not women.

 

[SecularIslamist]

Our parents fought a different war. Their priority was survival and job security. For them, getting a stable job was the dream. Because that was the reality of it and how the conditions were

Yeah they're projecting their own struggles onto their children. It's normal. You expect your experiences to mirror your children. Their is some merit to some of this IRL in many different situations. But their is a huge overemphasis on grades / schooling - especially those nerdy subjects at the expense of almost everything else.

They were born into a culture where practices like arranged marriage meanr where this played a huge role in someone's SMV but this is not the case anymore.

 

[Swarthy Knight]

While I respect the curry culture of academic grinding to some extent, it's dumb how they push their kids to become mindless drones who only know how to studycel. Work ethic is important, but developing good social skills and other extra circular talent is just as essential if you want to become successful all around.

Also, must curries who studycel 24/7 just end up working under a kumskin/Joo who put in half the work and just coasted to a higher ranking position