Struggling with unresolved limbo and jealousy after ambiguous breakup need advice

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I’m stuck in a weird in-between phase after a breakup that wasn’t clearly defined. We stopped talking abruptly without agreeing on a real pause or closure which has left me feeling lost and confused. It’s like I’m waiting for something that’s never been promised.

She recently changed her social media. She unarchived old photos, updated her bio with a more confident and somewhat provocative vibe, and switched to a sexier profile picture. It feels like she’s moving on or at least signaling some kind of change which triggers intense jealousy and anxiety in me. I keep imagining that she might be with someone else already and it’s eating me alive.

I’m currently away from home and struggling to enjoy where I am because of these thoughts and insecurities. I want to break free from this mental trap and regain control of my emotions but it’s harder than I expected.

Has anyone dealt with a limbo like this? How do you process the lack of clear closure and handle jealousy over what ifs especially when the other person seems to be moving on publicly? Any advice on regaining mental peace and moving forward without obsessing?

Thanks in advance.
 
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You are idealising a version of her, the one, which says that you are the only one on her mind. It's the same old limerence you feel. And any simple movement you see as a sign. But she isn't there anymore, she isn't yours. She already found a new one. A new ring wrapped around her finger. I would buy a flask of whiskey and down it, if it helps you cope with that jealousy you are feeling. Time heals, just wait. Or try to find another oneities you can idealise which'll help you forget the other one in no time.
 
I’m stuck in a weird in-between phase after a breakup that wasn’t clearly defined. We stopped talking abruptly without agreeing on a real pause or closure which has left me feeling lost and confused. It’s like I’m waiting for something that’s never been promised.

She recently changed her social media. She unarchived old photos, updated her bio with a more confident and somewhat provocative vibe, and switched to a sexier profile picture. It feels like she’s moving on or at least signaling some kind of change which triggers intense jealousy and anxiety in me. I keep imagining that she might be with someone else already and it’s eating me alive.

I’m currently away from home and struggling to enjoy where I am because of these thoughts and insecurities. I want to break free from this mental trap and regain control of my emotions but it’s harder than I expected.

Has anyone dealt with a limbo like this? How do you process the lack of clear closure and handle jealousy over what ifs especially when the other person seems to be moving on publicly? Any advice on regaining mental peace and moving forward without obsessing?

Thanks in advance.
She is dalit food now. Move on
 
You are idealising a version of her, the one, which says that you are the only one on her mind. It's the same old limerence you feel. And any simple movement you see as a sign. But she isn't there anymore, she isn't yours. She already found a new one. A new ring wrapped around her finger. I would buy a flask of whiskey and down it, if it helps you cope with that jealousy you are feeling. Time heals, just wait. Or try to find another oneities you can idealise which'll help you forget the other one in no time.
Fuck.
 
I’m stuck in a weird in-between phase after a breakup that wasn’t clearly defined. We stopped talking abruptly without agreeing on a real pause or closure which has left me feeling lost and confused. It’s like I’m waiting for something that’s never been promised.

She recently changed her social media. She unarchived old photos, updated her bio with a more confident and somewhat provocative vibe, and switched to a sexier profile picture. It feels like she’s moving on or at least signaling some kind of change which triggers intense jealousy and anxiety in me. I keep imagining that she might be with someone else already and it’s eating me alive.

I’m currently away from home and struggling to enjoy where I am because of these thoughts and insecurities. I want to break free from this mental trap and regain control of my emotions but it’s harder than I expected.

Has anyone dealt with a limbo like this? How do you process the lack of clear closure and handle jealousy over what ifs especially when the other person seems to be moving on publicly? Any advice on regaining mental peace and moving forward without obsessing?

Thanks in advance.
Yeah it’s over, most likely she’s been fucked already. But you know that, the issue is deeper isn’t it? The solution is simple but not easy. Whatever thoughts, feelings of jealousy and pain and insecurity flood you, let it pass through you until it ends. Imagine it’s a flooding river and you are a rock in the middle of it. Don’t let the river carry you, be still, observe. Emotions come and go
 
Yeah it’s over, most likely she’s been fucked already. But you know that, the issue is deeper isn’t it? The solution is simple but not easy. Whatever thoughts, feelings of jealousy and pain and insecurity flood you, let it pass through you until it ends. Imagine it’s a flooding river and you are a rock in the middle of it. Don’t let the river carry you, be still, observe. Emotions come and go
Don’t mess with my brain.
 
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Why do you always post the same shit
 
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I’m stuck in a weird in-between phase after a breakup that wasn’t clearly defined. We stopped talking abruptly without agreeing on a real pause or closure which has left me feeling lost and confused. It’s like I’m waiting for something that’s never been promised.

She recently changed her social media. She unarchived old photos, updated her bio with a more confident and somewhat provocative vibe, and switched to a sexier profile picture. It feels like she’s moving on or at least signaling some kind of change which triggers intense jealousy and anxiety in me. I keep imagining that she might be with someone else already and it’s eating me alive.

I’m currently away from home and struggling to enjoy where I am because of these thoughts and insecurities. I want to break free from this mental trap and regain control of my emotions but it’s harder than I expected.

Has anyone dealt with a limbo like this? How do you process the lack of clear closure and handle jealousy over what ifs especially when the other person seems to be moving on publicly? Any advice on regaining mental peace and moving forward without obsessing?

Thanks in advance.
You’re mtn it’s over for u
 

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