Terrible self confidence problem

[mewzilla]

Yeah I definitely get that lol. I literally deleted my instagram account cause at the time I had like 80 followers and I didn't want her to think I was a anti social mf . Only time I was really able to talk to her was at a party when I was drunk af. She kept trying to talk to me after that and I just ghosted her like a dumbass

No but really I think the problem is that people try to find things to attach their moral value to. Whether that's your looks, physique, grades in school, most people try to use these things to prove their value to others. The sooner you understand that makes no sense the better. You should work on improving yourself as a whole obviously there is no denying that's gonna help. I second the advice of the other dude of going to a therapist. I think even just talking with someone like your parents can help but I understand that you might not want to do that.

Also don't try to impress other people when talking with them. Just be genuine and playful. Trying to make others perceive you in a certain way will make conversations more artificial. The reason you don't have that much problems with talking to your friends is that they are already your friends, so you don't need to try and give a good first impression.

80 followers is normal for a private account is it not?
i have a hundred or so i think 120 and its all people i either know irl or people in my school

 

[Peco]

80 followers is normal for a private account is it not?
i have a hundred or so i think 120 and its all people i either know irl or people in my school

Yeah it is, but I was just really self conscious like I said. Even if I had 800 I would have probably had a similar reaction lol

 

[antrax]

I have a huge problem with my self confidence and idk what to do. Im “scared” to even put a pfp with me in it on social media bcz i think others will judge me negatively. I dont post any pictures of myself. I cant talk to women when im out if im completely sober. I can never make the “first move” when it comes to meeting anyone. I cant even message the girls that i know they like me. But irl around my friends i wouldnt say im shy, probably the complete opposite. Alc and drugs help sometimes but i cant always rely on being drunk. Idk what i should do. My friends and some of them are uglier dont have these problems. Do i just need to grow some balls and thats it?

my brotha just another me

 

[n3vio]

if you tie your confidence solely to how you look then you'll never truly be confident in yourself
only analogy i could think of that fits basically the same description and a similar category is steroid addicts. "one cycle" turns into lifelong ped abuse bcus they cant stand how they look when they arent juiced. even tho initially they were 20% bodyfat and now theyre 7% and built like a contender for mr olympia, they still arent satisfied

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You're a goated user bro icl

 

[ineedmommy123]

be a chud and accept it's over

 

[mewzilla]

You're a goated user bro icl

thanks bro

 

[6foot3Mediterranean]

you will gain more confidence over time if you are willing to truly improve that
this is an ESSENTIAL skill for lifemaxxing so get that taken care of while you are still young

talking to people and especially women is unironically a skill that one must be at least in the average level in order to not be perceived as a weirdo or to be able to climb up the steps of life
not to impress others, but to print out who you are to those around you, whether they like it or not, that shit unironically attracts people. Personalitymaxxing gets little credibility here

things that might help: therapy, a bit of theory on human psychology so you can understand yourself better but most importantly practice,

improving your looks too of course which will naturally make you more confident

you must realize that the inner monologue is mostly negative and hinders you from meeting new people. Discerning what is the vicious cycle of bad thoughts and antecipation and what is YOU might help to internalize that better, you are not the THOUGHTS, you are the observer

your social anxiety probably stems from thinking too much, high test men don't have that.

Raising test is also an important step as men with higher test tend to care less about what other thinks. Think of all the male role models in modern society, athletes, actors, artists, entrepeneurs, the majority of them KNOW how to talk to people, that's for sure

 

[subtierjester]

you will gain more confidence over time if you are willing to truly improve that
this is an ESSENTIAL skill for lifemaxxing so get that taken care of while you are still young

talking to people and especially women is unironically a skill that one must be at least in the average level in order to not be perceived as a weirdo or to be able to climb up the steps of life
not to impress others, but to print out who you are to those around you, whether they like it or not, that shit unironically attracts people. Personalitymaxxing gets little credibility here

things that might help: therapy, a bit of theory on human psychology so you can understand yourself better but most importantly practice,

improving your looks too of course which will naturally make you more confident

you must realize that the inner monologue is mostly negative and hinders you from meeting new people. Discerning what is the vicious cycle of bad thoughts and antecipation and what is YOU might help to internalize that better, you are not the THOUGHTS, you are the observer

your social anxiety probably stems from thinking too much, high test men don't have that.

Raising test is also an important step as men with higher test tend to care less about what other thinks. Think of all the male role models in modern society, athletes, actors, artists, entrepeneurs, the majority of them KNOW how to talk to people, that's for sure

Thanks for the advice