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Imo.
A story about:
1. the halo effect;
2. Live on easy mode, due to good looks
3. blackpill
This Dude simltaniously bitching, but bragging abut being good looking. And also maybe giving a bit of an insight into that life, when good looking, by his stories.
Although I do kinda think:
This dude is good looking I guess? (reading it, he must be, have been)
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This dude is good looking I guess?
He says stuff like this. It sounds like life on easy mode:
"But it wasn’t long before I learned just how powerful appearances can be in our society, and that, although the subject remains largely taboo, it is not only women who benefit from what is being dubbed the ‘pretty privilege’. "
His school years
"Everyone fancied Maureen, the school nurse.
Over the course of one magical summer, Maureen chose to lavish her attentions on me. While she continued to wield authority over the 30 or so other boys under her charge, she treated me more like a friend, even calling me by my Christian name, which was strictly against the rules.
For the first, but far from the last, time in my life, I experienced the effects of my ‘pretty privilege’. "
Him proofing he was/is good looking
"This doesn’t surprise me. The extent of my own pretty privilege became clear years after I had left school. While writing a piece about dating apps and websites, I signed up to a couple myself.
One site featured a weekly ‘top 20’ chart where women could rate men in order of attractiveness. To my astonishment, I made it to the top spot within just a few days and stayed there for three weeks."
Carreer/work advantages
"I was already keenly aware of the influence looks can have on a person’s career. My agent had decided early on that I was ‘leading man material’. "
"But an endless round of commercial casting sessions soon showed me that having a buffed physique and the right kind of stubble usually took precedence over acting skills. "
"Even outside the shallow world of advertising, my looks were an advantage. Merchant Ivory were big at the time, and I remember reading for several winsomely handsome Rupert Everett-type characters with stiff collars and stiffer upper lips.
I can’t say that I welcomed all the attention. Early on in my career, I was invited to an industry party where I hoped to schmooze my way into entertainment’s inner circle.
An attractive producer in her 40s introduced herself and asked if I’d like to join her on the terrace for a cocktail. As we sipped cosmopolitans, she told me she was casting a major Hollywood movie and there might be a part for me.
Then came the caveat: ‘I can get you a meeting with the director, but you’d have to do something for me, of course.’
‘What would that entail?’ I asked naively. She shook her head and scoffed, ‘So, is that a yes or no? We could go back to my place right now.’ When I politely declined her offer, she gave me a withering stare, turned on her stilettos and left without so much as a ‘let’s stay in touch’."
Complaining about women likeing men to Beta-buxx
"Dating in mid-life, I found potential partners also had unrealistic expectations based on my looks. Some hoped for the Porsche/house in Chelsea/mega-career package and were disappointed when they discovered the truth: I was an arty actor-turned-writer living in a flat in Paddington. Others, such as my now-wife, assumed I must be a card-carrying cad and avoided me altogether. "
Him listing downsides:
A middle-aged woman I met at a dinner party recently confessed she had always made a point of turning down attractive men: ‘Because they can have any woman they want, they end up treating them like objects or prizes. Handsome men are often the most toxic.’
But I have encountered more hostility as a result of my looks from men. Studies from the UCL School of Management found that handsome men are often seen as more competent, so managers tend to hire attractive men over less good-looking ones.
No wonder, then, that those working in highly competitive jobs such as sales may be seen as a threat to other male colleagues.
During a brief period of working in an office, I remember being struck by how competitive men were. There appeared to be a pecking order of attractiveness, with the handsomest making all the noise and the least attractive desperate to impress with their bantering skills.
After I joined, there was a definite shift in the hierarchy. Some men later admitted they had been intimidated by my height, assuming I would be arrogant and over-confident.
For years he saw me as a direct rival, occasionally even blaming me for his lack of success with women. His overreaction felt so petty and spiteful, it very nearly destroyed our friendship.
Despite the stereotype that only women cattily compete for the attentions of the opposite sex, I’ve learned that rivalry over attracting female attention can sometimes make it hard for men to bond with each other.
Agepill
"After all, for ageing men who can still attract younger women, the pool of possibilities just keeps getting bigger. Until time catches up with you, of course. For even handsome men must lose their looks eventually.
As someone who has settled down with a woman 17 years younger, I worry about losing my looks before she does. I’m on a strict health regime — plenty of exercise and fresh vegetables. I’ve even started moisturising and using hair products again.
You see, I’m not ready to give up my pretty privilege quite yet."
A story about:
1. the halo effect;
2. Live on easy mode, due to good looks
3. blackpill
This Dude simltaniously bitching, but bragging abut being good looking. And also maybe giving a bit of an insight into that life, when good looking, by his stories.
Although I do kinda think:
This dude is good looking I guess? (reading it, he must be, have been)
'Pretty Privilege' is not just a female issue
James Innes-Smith claims he began to experience 'pretty privilege' after he hit puberty. He revealed the challenges of unwanted attention, rivalry and meeting expectations based on his looks.
This dude is good looking I guess?
He says stuff like this. It sounds like life on easy mode:
"But it wasn’t long before I learned just how powerful appearances can be in our society, and that, although the subject remains largely taboo, it is not only women who benefit from what is being dubbed the ‘pretty privilege’. "
His school years
"Everyone fancied Maureen, the school nurse.
Over the course of one magical summer, Maureen chose to lavish her attentions on me. While she continued to wield authority over the 30 or so other boys under her charge, she treated me more like a friend, even calling me by my Christian name, which was strictly against the rules.
For the first, but far from the last, time in my life, I experienced the effects of my ‘pretty privilege’. "
Him proofing he was/is good looking
"This doesn’t surprise me. The extent of my own pretty privilege became clear years after I had left school. While writing a piece about dating apps and websites, I signed up to a couple myself.
One site featured a weekly ‘top 20’ chart where women could rate men in order of attractiveness. To my astonishment, I made it to the top spot within just a few days and stayed there for three weeks."
Carreer/work advantages
"I was already keenly aware of the influence looks can have on a person’s career. My agent had decided early on that I was ‘leading man material’. "
"But an endless round of commercial casting sessions soon showed me that having a buffed physique and the right kind of stubble usually took precedence over acting skills. "
"Even outside the shallow world of advertising, my looks were an advantage. Merchant Ivory were big at the time, and I remember reading for several winsomely handsome Rupert Everett-type characters with stiff collars and stiffer upper lips.
I can’t say that I welcomed all the attention. Early on in my career, I was invited to an industry party where I hoped to schmooze my way into entertainment’s inner circle.
An attractive producer in her 40s introduced herself and asked if I’d like to join her on the terrace for a cocktail. As we sipped cosmopolitans, she told me she was casting a major Hollywood movie and there might be a part for me.
Then came the caveat: ‘I can get you a meeting with the director, but you’d have to do something for me, of course.’
‘What would that entail?’ I asked naively. She shook her head and scoffed, ‘So, is that a yes or no? We could go back to my place right now.’ When I politely declined her offer, she gave me a withering stare, turned on her stilettos and left without so much as a ‘let’s stay in touch’."
Complaining about women likeing men to Beta-buxx
"Dating in mid-life, I found potential partners also had unrealistic expectations based on my looks. Some hoped for the Porsche/house in Chelsea/mega-career package and were disappointed when they discovered the truth: I was an arty actor-turned-writer living in a flat in Paddington. Others, such as my now-wife, assumed I must be a card-carrying cad and avoided me altogether. "
Him listing downsides:
A middle-aged woman I met at a dinner party recently confessed she had always made a point of turning down attractive men: ‘Because they can have any woman they want, they end up treating them like objects or prizes. Handsome men are often the most toxic.’
But I have encountered more hostility as a result of my looks from men. Studies from the UCL School of Management found that handsome men are often seen as more competent, so managers tend to hire attractive men over less good-looking ones.
No wonder, then, that those working in highly competitive jobs such as sales may be seen as a threat to other male colleagues.
During a brief period of working in an office, I remember being struck by how competitive men were. There appeared to be a pecking order of attractiveness, with the handsomest making all the noise and the least attractive desperate to impress with their bantering skills.
After I joined, there was a definite shift in the hierarchy. Some men later admitted they had been intimidated by my height, assuming I would be arrogant and over-confident.
For years he saw me as a direct rival, occasionally even blaming me for his lack of success with women. His overreaction felt so petty and spiteful, it very nearly destroyed our friendship.
Despite the stereotype that only women cattily compete for the attentions of the opposite sex, I’ve learned that rivalry over attracting female attention can sometimes make it hard for men to bond with each other.
Agepill
"After all, for ageing men who can still attract younger women, the pool of possibilities just keeps getting bigger. Until time catches up with you, of course. For even handsome men must lose their looks eventually.
As someone who has settled down with a woman 17 years younger, I worry about losing my looks before she does. I’m on a strict health regime — plenty of exercise and fresh vegetables. I’ve even started moisturising and using hair products again.
You see, I’m not ready to give up my pretty privilege quite yet."
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