The duality and double standard of men and women when it comes to parental trauma

[Thodian]

When a man has "Mommy issues" it is perceived as a red flag and looked down upon.
Making it seem like the man will never be self sustaining due to the fact of not having a proper mother figure.

When a woman has "Daddy issues" it is perceived as some sort of kink and fetish.
And men are the blame. When a woman has "Daddy issues" shes prone to get more comfort by society.
Which is a given because she's a woman.

But the duality of how society sees parental issues when the man is the victim.
To when the woman is the victim is absurd.
I wish women didnt hold a generational grudge towards men.
It also goes the other way around.

Social media has truly ruined everything feeding both sides of the spectrum hate and resentment.
At the end of the day men and women are just mostly broken and dont know how to deal with it.
And as a result go towards hate and resentment.
Knowing they both really crave the same thing but dont know how to go about it.

 

[mangotimer]

men are opressed

 

[Thodian]

men are opressed

If you live in a first world country.
Nobody is oppressed.

 

[polarpop]

i dont think the issues with my mom are bad, it shaped me to be who i am now in a good way

 

[Thodian]

i dont think the issues with my mom are bad, it shaped me to be who i am now in a good way

Very good. Most people cannot process situational trauma like this.
They decide to push it to the side and let it turn into something far worse.

 

[pexy]

I have mommy issues tbh

my mother was evil

 

[Thodian]

I have mommy issues tbh

my mother was evil

Dont dwell on it negatively.
If you have not healed. Learn how to.
Its a long road but compared to a lifetime it does more for you than anything.

 

[pexy]

Dont dwell on it negatively.
If you have not healed. Learn how to.
Its a long road but compared to a lifetime it does more for you than anything.

idk how to tbh

too ugly for a girl to accept me with me mental flaws as well as my physical ones

just puffing copium everyday

 

[Thodian]

idk how to tbh

too ugly for a girl to accept me with me mental flaws as well as my physical ones

just puffing copium everyday

You dont heal by looking for a distraction with another woman.
Its a personal battle.
You need to really sit and acknowledge and accept everything.
Most people just go and distract themselves.
Nobody accepts what has happened in their lives.
First stage is acceptance to whatever has happened.

 

[pexy]

You dont heal by looking for a distraction with another woman.
Its a personal battle.
You need to really sit and acknowledge and accept everything.
Most people just go and distract themselves.
Nobody accepts what has happened in their lives.
First stage is acceptance to whatever has happened.

it’s tough to accept

acceptance isn’t what will heal me

I can’t live alone loving myself forever

need someone to love me

it’s all so brutal

but that’s the world

I guess at the end of the day it is what it is man

 

[Thodian]

it’s tough to accept

acceptance isn’t what will heal me

I can’t live alone loving myself forever

need someone to love me

it’s all so brutal

but that’s the world

I guess at the end of the day it is what it is man

Well do you do anything to try and fix this stump?
Have you tried?
And if so how?

 

[pexy]

Well do you do anything to try and fix this stump?
Have you tried?
And if so how?

I’m in a bad cycle

which feels impossible to break out of

ive tried to break out of it

and failed every time

I’m mega drunk rn tbh

trying to be happy for a bit

 

[moonx]

Water but men are still superior

 

[Thodian]

I’m in a bad cycle

which feels impossible to break out of

ive tried to break out of it

and failed every time

I’m mega drunk rn tbh

trying to be happy for a bit

You are simply suppressing yourself you aren't bettering yourself.
You cannot be on a consistent uphill without some hiccups.
Stop letting it keep u in the gutter. Acknowledge it and see how you can overcome it.
Suppressing yourself with temporary happiness will never end good.
Happiness isnt a consistent feeling. It was never meant to be.
Thats the beauty of it. The fact that its rare is beautiful.
Because when you do feel it makes it way more rewarding.

 

[pexy]

You are simply suppressing yourself you aren't bettering yourself.
You cannot be on a consistent uphill without some hiccups.
Stop letting it keep u in the gutter. Acknowledge it and see how you can overcome it.
Suppressing yourself with temporary happiness will never end good.
Happiness isnt a consistent feeling. It was never meant to be.
Thats the beauty of it. The fact that its rare is beautiful.
Because when you do feel it makes it way more rewarding.

I just can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel

even after I do ascend

the damage has been done

the scars are still there

I’ll still be blackpilled

I don’t think there’s truly any hope

I’m compromised beyond all reason

yet I still keep pushing forward for some reason

and I will continue to

I just think it’s lost all meaning

 

[Thodian]

I just can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel

even after I do ascend

the damage has been done

the scars are still there

I’ll still be blackpilled

I don’t think there’s truly any hope

I’m compromised beyond all reason

yet I still keep pushing forward for some reason

and I will continue to

I just think it’s lost all meaning

You cannot expect to see the light at the end of the tunnel if you haven't entered the tunnel.

 

[pexy]

You cannot expect to see the light at the end of the tunnel if you haven't entered the tunnel.

I have entered the tunnel

I just don’t think I’ll ever leave it haha

 

[Thodian]

I have entered the tunnel

I just don’t think I’ll ever leave it haha

Incorrect.
The tunnel isnt hurt and trauma.
The tunnel is the road to better.
Why is it a tunnel after all?
Has to lead somewhere right?
Cant expect to get out of it if you stay stagnant.

 

[scuderia]

When a man has "Mommy issues" it is perceived as a red flag and looked down upon.
Making it seem like the man will never be self sustaining due to the fact of not having a proper mother figure.

When a woman has "Daddy issues" it is perceived as some sort of kink and fetish.
And men are the blame. When a woman has "Daddy issues" shes prone to get more comfort by society.
Which is a given because she's a woman.

But the duality of how society sees parental issues when the man is the victim.
To when the woman is the victim is absurd.
I wish women didnt hold a generational grudge towards men.
It also goes the other way around.

Social media has truly ruined everything feeding both sides of the spectrum hate and resentment.
At the end of the day men and women are just mostly broken and dont know how to deal with it.
And as a result go towards hate and resentment.
Knowing they both really crave the same thing but dont know how to go about it.

True im scarred from my mom and whenever i bring it up im looked upon as some fool

 

[Thodian]

True im scarred from my mom and whenever i bring it up im looked upon as some fool

Some things can only be delt with on your own.
Talking to people you truly trust may help.
But the factor of actually overcoming traumas is all within yourself.

 

[pexy]

Incorrect.
The tunnel isnt hurt and trauma.
The tunnel is the road to better.
Why is it a tunnel after all?
Has to lead somewhere right?
Cant expect to get out of it if you stay stagnant.

true

I agree with your points

but the end goal I want

simply isn’t attainable

true, obsessive, real love

 

[Thodian]

true

I agree with your points

but the end goal I want

simply isn’t attainable

true, obsessive, real love

I thought the same
Then I started trying and found out it wasnt that out of reach as i thought

 

[pexy]

I thought the same
Then I started trying and found out it wasnt that out of reach as i thought

probably had a good base

and good luck

Two things I lack

 

[Thodian]

probably had a good base

and good luck

Two things I lack

Never know how within your reach it is until you try

 

[pexy]

Never know how within your reach it is until you try

I’m trying man

It’s tough

 

[scuderia]

Some things can only be delt with on your own.
Talking to people you truly trust may help.
But the factor of actually overcoming traumas is all within yourself.

I’m aware but it’s genuinely affected my life so much it feels impossible to get over with

Once I’m 18 and move out I’ll get therapy

Thx tho

 

[Thodian]

I’m aware but it’s genuinely affected my life so much it feels impossible to get over with

Once I’m 18 and move out I’ll get therapy

Thx tho

I understand it.
Ive gone through it myself.
It does seem impossible at first but at the end of the day what doesnt?

 

[scuderia]

I understand it.
Ive gone through it myself.
It does seem impossible at first but at the end of the day what doesnt?

You’ve got a point

No one will be a better motivation to change but yourself you are right