The idea that teen girls “look grown nowadays” is rooted in pedophilia

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The idea that teenage girls “look grown nowadays” is rooted in pedophilia

I've seen this *a lot* on social media and I've personally experienced this as a minor so I wanted to speak on it. I'll see a teenage girl on any of my social media platforms and her comments will be filled with people (often grown men) saying she looks way too old for her actual age, accuse her of "trying to be grown", and I've even seen comments calling these girls jailbait when they're literally doing nothing wrong. They're not wearing anything abnormal for their age nor do they look like grown women, they dress and look like a teenage girl and I can't help but notice the pattern of the only reason why these girls get treated like this is because they fit into the beauty standard.

I cannot stress this enough, just because a teenage is blessed with features that coincide with the beauty standard does NOT give you the right to sexualize her and force all these weird implications that these young girls somehow look like women because they're simply pretty. Stuff like this gets on my nerves because I can't help but think that people who push this idea that young girls "look so grown nowadays" are shaming young girls rather than addressing the jarring number of adult men who sexualize young girls and than blame the CHILD (because that's what they are) for said sexualization. As a minor myself who had to deal with this type of stuff I can't also help but notice I've only had this issue with men, not once has there been an adult woman who thought I was a grown woman and that's one of the main reasons why this whole narrative of teenage girls looking more adult just seems like an excuse men make for being attracted to minors despite themselves.

I as a teenage girl can tell the difference between a teenage boy and an adult man no matter how attractive that teen boy is because teenage boys and grown men do not look the same and the same applies with women and girls. At the end of the day we as a society have to move away from the notion that it is somehow a minor's responsibility for adults sexualizing them, (which not only legally speaking is wrong, it's wrong on a scientific basis. It's a fact that minors cannot give consent or even sexualize ourselves because to consent or to even sexualize one's self implies that the person understands what they are doing and the gravity of what's going on which minors aren't capable of because our brains are not developed to the point we cannot understand the whole reality that sexualization entails) minors can be sexual because teenagers experience sexual attraction but there is no legal or psychological basis where they sexualize themselves because we know minors are not mentally capable of understanding this, so it's on fully developed adults to not reciprocate because of the power dynamic.

The idea that teenage girls are somehow bringing sexualization onto themselves is just another aspect of victim shaming culture which excuses the predator while blaming the victim. There needs to be more conversations about how women are so sexualized by society that as soon as a girl hits puberty she's seen as a sexual object by men and we need to have the conversation about how men often get away with having a pedophilic mindset (and yes, even if you wouldn't personally sleep with a teenage girl doesn't mean you picking them apart based on sexual standards and giving a child autonomy they don't have isn't predatory behavior).

Teenagers should be free to be children, no matter the gender teenagers are, they should be allowed the savor their last years of childhood without dealing with this. If you're an adult with the "Teenagers look so grown nowadays" mindset I want you to seriously revaluate why you think that and *STOP*.
 
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jfl if you think I will read this
 
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Sounds like something for pinkwell to debate.
 
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being attracted to sexually mature/maturing females is normal jfl

what's unethical is manipulation, not consensual sex
 
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Attractions to teens is called Ephebophilia not pedophilia. Get your terminology straight. Also there is nothing wrong with Ephebophilia.
 
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Attractions to teens is called Ephebophilia not pedophilia. Get your terminology straight. Also there is nothing wrong with Ephebophilia.
fr though paedophilia is a far, far more serious issue
 
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The idea that teenage girls “look grown nowadays” is rooted in pedophilia

I've seen this *a lot* on social media and I've personally experienced this as a minor so I wanted to speak on it. I'll see a teenage girl on any of my social media platforms and her comments will be filled with people (often grown men) saying she looks way too old for her actual age, accuse her of "trying to be grown", and I've even seen comments calling these girls jailbait when they're literally doing nothing wrong. They're not wearing anything abnormal for their age nor do they look like grown women, they dress and look like a teenage girl and I can't help but notice the pattern of the only reason why these girls get treated like this is because they fit into the beauty standard.

I cannot stress this enough, just because a teenage is blessed with features that coincide with the beauty standard does NOT give you the right to sexualize her and force all these weird implications that these young girls somehow look like women because they're simply pretty. Stuff like this gets on my nerves because I can't help but think that people who push this idea that young girls "look so grown nowadays" are shaming young girls rather than addressing the jarring number of adult men who sexualize young girls and than blame the CHILD (because that's what they are) for said sexualization. As a minor myself who had to deal with this type of stuff I can't also help but notice I've only had this issue with men, not once has there been an adult woman who thought I was a grown woman and that's one of the main reasons why this whole narrative of teenage girls looking more adult just seems like an excuse men make for being attracted to minors despite themselves.

I as a teenage girl can tell the difference between a teenage boy and an adult man no matter how attractive that teen boy is because teenage boys and grown men do not look the same and the same applies with women and girls. At the end of the day we as a society have to move away from the notion that it is somehow a minor's responsibility for adults sexualizing them, (which not only legally speaking is wrong, it's wrong on a scientific basis. It's a fact that minors cannot give consent or even sexualize ourselves because to consent or to even sexualize one's self implies that the person understands what they are doing and the gravity of what's going on which minors aren't capable of because our brains are not developed to the point we cannot understand the whole reality that sexualization entails) minors can be sexual because teenagers experience sexual attraction but there is no legal or psychological basis where they sexualize themselves because we know minors are not mentally capable of understanding this, so it's on fully developed adults to not reciprocate because of the power dynamic.

The idea that teenage girls are somehow bringing sexualization onto themselves is just another aspect of victim shaming culture which excuses the predator while blaming the victim. There needs to be more conversations about how women are so sexualized by society that as soon as a girl hits puberty she's seen as a sexual object by men and we need to have the conversation about how men often get away with having a pedophilic mindset (and yes, even if you wouldn't personally sleep with a teenage girl doesn't mean you picking them apart based on sexual standards and giving a child autonomy they don't have isn't predatory behavior).

Teenagers should be free to be children, no matter the gender teenagers are, they should be allowed the savor their last years of childhood without dealing with this. If you're an adult with the "Teenagers look so grown nowadays" mindset I want you to seriously revaluate why you think that and *STOP*.
Wheres @personalityinkwell when you need em'.
 
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fr though paedophilia is a far, far more serious issue
Yeah true. If your attracted to prepubescent girls, there is something seriously wrong with you.
 
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Attractions to teens is called Ephebophilia not pedophilia. Get your terminology straight. Also there is nothing wrong with Ephebophilia.
Because the terms are essentially irrelevant unless you are trying to write academic papers or do clinical treatment. Pedophilia/hebephilia/ephebophilia are also part of sexual paraphilia. In the end if you are a grown adult over 20 and are still interested in dating minors under 18 that is a red flag of your mental health. Pedophilia is certainly worst out of the three but all three sexual preference are bad.
 
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Yeah true. If your attracted to prepubescent girls, there is something seriously wrong with you.
fr though paedophilia is a far, far more serious issue
I saw that there was another thread on here where the person thought ephebophilia is just pedophilia. I don't think that at all. My view is that pedophilia is a legit orientation. Based on what I've read and heard about exclusive pedophiles, they are only attracted to very young, pre-pubescent children. This precludes the possibility of being attracted to post-pubescents. I have a lot of respect for pedophiles who do not abuse children.

I've noticed that when ephebophiles defend their orientation, they will say "Oh, I'm not attracted to people who haven't hit puberty, I'm attracted to people who have" as if that makes it any less creepy. I think that "justification" makes it all the more creepy. If you're attracted to people who have already hit puberty, why not go for grown people instead? The reasons they give are really creepy, too: "purity", inexperience, the alleged ravages of age present on people who have not even lived a quarter of their life yet, and so on. It feels like an expression of male insecurity about having sex with and/or dating an equal who has a lot better sense than a pubescent child.

TL;DR I think that because ephebophilia is attraction to post-pubescents rather than pre-pubescents, it's can't really be an orientation. Adults are also post-pubescent, so the people who identify that way could go for adults instead of the underage.
 
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The idea that teenage girls “look grown nowadays” is rooted in pedophilia

I've seen this *a lot* on social media and I've personally experienced this as a minor so I wanted to speak on it. I'll see a teenage girl on any of my social media platforms and her comments will be filled with people (often grown men) saying she looks way too old for her actual age, accuse her of "trying to be grown", and I've even seen comments calling these girls jailbait when they're literally doing nothing wrong. They're not wearing anything abnormal for their age nor do they look like grown women, they dress and look like a teenage girl and I can't help but notice the pattern of the only reason why these girls get treated like this is because they fit into the beauty standard.

I cannot stress this enough, just because a teenage is blessed with features that coincide with the beauty standard does NOT give you the right to sexualize her and force all these weird implications that these young girls somehow look like women because they're simply pretty. Stuff like this gets on my nerves because I can't help but think that people who push this idea that young girls "look so grown nowadays" are shaming young girls rather than addressing the jarring number of adult men who sexualize young girls and than blame the CHILD (because that's what they are) for said sexualization. As a minor myself who had to deal with this type of stuff I can't also help but notice I've only had this issue with men, not once has there been an adult woman who thought I was a grown woman and that's one of the main reasons why this whole narrative of teenage girls looking more adult just seems like an excuse men make for being attracted to minors despite themselves.

I as a teenage girl can tell the difference between a teenage boy and an adult man no matter how attractive that teen boy is because teenage boys and grown men do not look the same and the same applies with women and girls. At the end of the day we as a society have to move away from the notion that it is somehow a minor's responsibility for adults sexualizing them, (which not only legally speaking is wrong, it's wrong on a scientific basis. It's a fact that minors cannot give consent or even sexualize ourselves because to consent or to even sexualize one's self implies that the person understands what they are doing and the gravity of what's going on which minors aren't capable of because our brains are not developed to the point we cannot understand the whole reality that sexualization entails) minors can be sexual because teenagers experience sexual attraction but there is no legal or psychological basis where they sexualize themselves because we know minors are not mentally capable of understanding this, so it's on fully developed adults to not reciprocate because of the power dynamic.

The idea that teenage girls are somehow bringing sexualization onto themselves is just another aspect of victim shaming culture which excuses the predator while blaming the victim. There needs to be more conversations about how women are so sexualized by society that as soon as a girl hits puberty she's seen as a sexual object by men and we need to have the conversation about how men often get away with having a pedophilic mindset (and yes, even if you wouldn't personally sleep with a teenage girl doesn't mean you picking them apart based on sexual standards and giving a child autonomy they don't have isn't predatory behavior).

Teenagers should be free to be children, no matter the gender teenagers are, they should be allowed the savor their last years of childhood without dealing with this. If you're an adult with the "Teenagers look so grown nowadays" mindset I want you to seriously revaluate why you think that and *STOP*.
Op is foid confirmed???
 
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Because the terms are essentially irrelevant unless you are trying to write academic papers or do clinical treatment. Pedophilia/hebephilia/ephebophilia are also part of sexual paraphilia. In the end if you are a grown adult over 20 and are still interested in dating minors under 18 that is a red flag of your mental health. Pedophilia is certainly worst out of the three but all three sexual preference are bad.
After the girl reaches puberty there is nothing wrong with it. If you look at history you will notice that up until 100 years ago, teens getting married to grown men was not seen as wrong. Notice how society is always changing what is deemed right and wrong. Before being gay was a crime and shunned but now what. Fuck society.
 
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chaos is what killed the dinosaurs darling
 
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After the girl reaches puberty there is nothing wrong with it. If you look at history you will notice that up until 100 years ago, teens getting married to grown men was not seen as wrong. Notice how society is always changing what is deemed right and wrong. Before being gay was a crime and shunned but now what. Fuck society.
My problem is that ephebophiles of the kind on Reddit don't seem to understand it's wrong to abuse children who are past the age of puberty. Over and over, I see justifications for it and of it by them. They seem to think that it's okay to do sexual things with someone who has hit puberty.
 
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The idea that teenage girls “look grown nowadays” is rooted in pedophilia

I've seen this *a lot* on social media and I've personally experienced this as a minor so I wanted to speak on it. I'll see a teenage girl on any of my social media platforms and her comments will be filled with people (often grown men) saying she looks way too old for her actual age, accuse her of "trying to be grown", and I've even seen comments calling these girls jailbait when they're literally doing nothing wrong. They're not wearing anything abnormal for their age nor do they look like grown women, they dress and look like a teenage girl and I can't help but notice the pattern of the only reason why these girls get treated like this is because they fit into the beauty standard.

I cannot stress this enough, just because a teenage is blessed with features that coincide with the beauty standard does NOT give you the right to sexualize her and force all these weird implications that these young girls somehow look like women because they're simply pretty. Stuff like this gets on my nerves because I can't help but think that people who push this idea that young girls "look so grown nowadays" are shaming young girls rather than addressing the jarring number of adult men who sexualize young girls and than blame the CHILD (because that's what they are) for said sexualization. As a minor myself who had to deal with this type of stuff I can't also help but notice I've only had this issue with men, not once has there been an adult woman who thought I was a grown woman and that's one of the main reasons why this whole narrative of teenage girls looking more adult just seems like an excuse men make for being attracted to minors despite themselves.

I as a teenage girl can tell the difference between a teenage boy and an adult man no matter how attractive that teen boy is because teenage boys and grown men do not look the same and the same applies with women and girls. At the end of the day we as a society have to move away from the notion that it is somehow a minor's responsibility for adults sexualizing them, (which not only legally speaking is wrong, it's wrong on a scientific basis. It's a fact that minors cannot give consent or even sexualize ourselves because to consent or to even sexualize one's self implies that the person understands what they are doing and the gravity of what's going on which minors aren't capable of because our brains are not developed to the point we cannot understand the whole reality that sexualization entails) minors can be sexual because teenagers experience sexual attraction but there is no legal or psychological basis where they sexualize themselves because we know minors are not mentally capable of understanding this, so it's on fully developed adults to not reciprocate because of the power dynamic.

The idea that teenage girls are somehow bringing sexualization onto themselves is just another aspect of victim shaming culture which excuses the predator while blaming the victim. There needs to be more conversations about how women are so sexualized by society that as soon as a girl hits puberty she's seen as a sexual object by men and we need to have the conversation about how men often get away with having a pedophilic mindset (and yes, even if you wouldn't personally sleep with a teenage girl doesn't mean you picking them apart based on sexual standards and giving a child autonomy they don't have isn't predatory behavior).

Teenagers should be free to be children, no matter the gender teenagers are, they should be allowed the savor their last years of childhood without dealing with this. If you're an adult with the "Teenagers look so grown nowadays" mindset I want you to seriously revaluate why you think that and *STOP*.
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My problem is that ephebophiles of the kind on Reddit don't seem to understand it's wrong to abuse children who are past the age of puberty. Over and over, I see justifications for it and of it by them. They seem to think that it's okay to do sexual things with someone who has hit puberty.
Abuse is always wrong and Im not defending abusers. Im talking about complete consensual sex between a teen and a grown man.
 
14 yo girls are hot
 
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being attracted to sexually mature/maturing females is normal jfl

what's unethical is manipulation, not consensual sex
wageslavery is also manipulation and unethical, but it's accepted as a normal thing in society.

ethics is just pure cope tbh.
 
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I saw that there was another thread on here where the person thought ephebophilia is just pedophilia. I don't think that at all. My view is that pedophilia is a legit orientation. Based on what I've read and heard about exclusive pedophiles, they are only attracted to very young, pre-pubescent children. This precludes the possibility of being attracted to post-pubescents. I have a lot of respect for pedophiles who do not abuse children.

I've noticed that when ephebophiles defend their orientation, they will say "Oh, I'm not attracted to people who haven't hit puberty, I'm attracted to people who have" as if that makes it any less creepy. I think that "justification" makes it all the more creepy. If you're attracted to people who have already hit puberty, why not go for grown people instead? The reasons they give are really creepy, too: "purity", inexperience, the alleged ravages of age present on people who have not even lived a quarter of their life yet, and so on. It feels like an expression of male insecurity about having sex with and/or dating an equal who has a lot better sense than a pubescent child.

TL;DR I think that because ephebophilia is attraction to post-pubescents rather than pre-pubescents, it's can't really be an orientation. Adults are also post-pubescent, so the people who identify that way could go for adults instead of the underage.
Ephebophilia isnt recognized as a philia at all and wouldn't even exist if the age of consent wasn't so cucked
 
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Ephebophilia isnt recognized as a philia at all and wouldn't even exist if the age of consent wasn't so cucked
i dn write that someone on quora did
 
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14 yo girls are hot
They are still children why don't you date grown women your age and stop trying to abuse innocent children who don't know how to consent
 
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being attracted to sexually mature/maturing females is normal jfl

what's unethical is manipulation, not consensual sex
all social interaction is manipulation
 
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That post is a bit too long for me. I've noticed something though over the years. Kids, both boys and girls, started dressing more and more "adult" around 12 years ago. They don't even seem to make kid's clothes like they used to when I was a kid.
 
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That post is a bit too long for me. I've noticed something though over the years. Kids, both boys and girls, started dressing more and more "adult" around 12 years ago. They don't even seem to make kid's clothes like they used to when I was a kid.
Ok boomer
 
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Attractions to teens is called Ephebophilia not pedophilia. Get your terminology straight. Also there is nothing wrong with Ephebophilia.
NO. Attraction to developing girls is that. That is like 11-13 or something. Being attracted to 15 yo girls is called NORMAL SEXUAL ATTRACTION and it doesn't have a diagnosis jfl.
 
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NO. Attraction to developing girls is that. That is like 11-13 or something. Being attracted to 15 yo girls is called NORMAL SEXUAL ATTRACTION and it doesn't have a diagnosis jfl.
"Ephebophilia is the primary sexual interest in mid-to-late adolescents, generally ages 15 to 19." I got this definition straight from wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ephebophilia. But I personally agree with you. It should have no diagnosis because Its normal as fuck.
 
NO. Attraction to developing girls is that. That is like 11-13 or something. Being attracted to 15 yo girls is called NORMAL SEXUAL ATTRACTION and it doesn't have a diagnosis jfl.
attraction to girls who are in the middle of puberty (13 as you say) is also normal
 
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The idea that teenage girls “look grown nowadays” is rooted in pedophilia

I've seen this *a lot* on social media and I've personally experienced this as a minor so I wanted to speak on it. I'll see a teenage girl on any of my social media platforms and her comments will be filled with people (often grown men) saying she looks way too old for her actual age, accuse her of "trying to be grown", and I've even seen comments calling these girls jailbait when they're literally doing nothing wrong. They're not wearing anything abnormal for their age nor do they look like grown women, they dress and look like a teenage girl and I can't help but notice the pattern of the only reason why these girls get treated like this is because they fit into the beauty standard.

I cannot stress this enough, just because a teenage is blessed with features that coincide with the beauty standard does NOT give you the right to sexualize her and force all these weird implications that these young girls somehow look like women because they're simply pretty. Stuff like this gets on my nerves because I can't help but think that people who push this idea that young girls "look so grown nowadays" are shaming young girls rather than addressing the jarring number of adult men who sexualize young girls and than blame the CHILD (because that's what they are) for said sexualization. As a minor myself who had to deal with this type of stuff I can't also help but notice I've only had this issue with men, not once has there been an adult woman who thought I was a grown woman and that's one of the main reasons why this whole narrative of teenage girls looking more adult just seems like an excuse men make for being attracted to minors despite themselves.

I as a teenage girl can tell the difference between a teenage boy and an adult man no matter how attractive that teen boy is because teenage boys and grown men do not look the same and the same applies with women and girls. At the end of the day we as a society have to move away from the notion that it is somehow a minor's responsibility for adults sexualizing them, (which not only legally speaking is wrong, it's wrong on a scientific basis. It's a fact that minors cannot give consent or even sexualize ourselves because to consent or to even sexualize one's self implies that the person understands what they are doing and the gravity of what's going on which minors aren't capable of because our brains are not developed to the point we cannot understand the whole reality that sexualization entails) minors can be sexual because teenagers experience sexual attraction but there is no legal or psychological basis where they sexualize themselves because we know minors are not mentally capable of understanding this, so it's on fully developed adults to not reciprocate because of the power dynamic.

The idea that teenage girls are somehow bringing sexualization onto themselves is just another aspect of victim shaming culture which excuses the predator while blaming the victim. There needs to be more conversations about how women are so sexualized by society that as soon as a girl hits puberty she's seen as a sexual object by men and we need to have the conversation about how men often get away with having a pedophilic mindset (and yes, even if you wouldn't personally sleep with a teenage girl doesn't mean you picking them apart based on sexual standards and giving a child autonomy they don't have isn't predatory behavior).

Teenagers should be free to be children, no matter the gender teenagers are, they should be allowed the savor their last years of childhood without dealing with this. If you're an adult with the "Teenagers look so grown nowadays" mindset I want you to seriously revaluate why you think that and *STOP*.
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Im never reading an essay from a low iq user
 
being attracted to sexually mature/maturing females is normal jfl

what's unethical is manipulation, not consensual sex
Yeah but a young girl can't consent, they don't have the capacity for that
 
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Ok first sexual attraction is not something people can just decided if men find your attractive then your are attractive secondly you are probably haveing sex already as dta shows so you ain't some Innocent virgin and lastly your argument that grown men shouldn't find you attractive and that after 18 a teen age boy should just see you as a nonsexual being is retarted and not based on any logic or reason
 
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Apparently these don’t look like adults jfl

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