Acquiescence
MSTOWmaxxed
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I think a lot of my fellow men just have a bad attitude and generalize bad experiences with specific shitty people to all women. News flash, all genders have bad apples. No one wants to date someone who's all butthurt and resentful. Women aren't bad, that specific person was bad, generalizing one bad experience to be reprosentative of all women is just overt sexism.
Dating has always been challenging and the ways it is challenging have changed over time. But fundementally the issue is men are being defeatist af about it and giving up. Instead of rising to the occasion, working on themselves, developing skills, etc etc. When you hear them talk about why they can't get a date it's so obvious what the true reason is, because all they do is make excuses and blame women and spout sexist myths.
Like, I see so many people saying things about how "women only care about looks, if you aren't a 9+ you don't stand a chance". And it's just like, have you ever gone outside and looked around? I see average people in relationships everywhere I go. I know tons of extremely attractive people who are single af.
Or they complain about a bunch of stuff that is really just the patriarchies fault but blame women for it instead. Like having to pay for dates, or the expectation to be muscular and rich, both of which they are putting on themselves, and could easily be let go of if they just rejected the patriarchy.
It has more do to with your aproach than anything, and your aproach is something completely within your control. Just be respectful, take no for an answer, accept rejection as an inevitable part of the process. Everyone is a 10 to someone, everyone is looking for different things. The right person is out there for you. Just focus on becoming a good person, work on your communication and conflict resolution skills, be kind, and be patient. Develop good values and morals, learn to actually care about the things women care about, take consent and boundaries seriously, show you are a real ally.
The worst thing you can possibly do is develop a complex about it. Just because your self fulfilling prophecy came true doesn't mean it was in any way inevitable. Its not that difficult to get a girlfriend if you just don't hate women. Its not women's fault so many men have chosen to make themselves completely unfuckable
Dating has always been challenging and the ways it is challenging have changed over time. But fundementally the issue is men are being defeatist af about it and giving up. Instead of rising to the occasion, working on themselves, developing skills, etc etc. When you hear them talk about why they can't get a date it's so obvious what the true reason is, because all they do is make excuses and blame women and spout sexist myths.
Like, I see so many people saying things about how "women only care about looks, if you aren't a 9+ you don't stand a chance". And it's just like, have you ever gone outside and looked around? I see average people in relationships everywhere I go. I know tons of extremely attractive people who are single af.
Or they complain about a bunch of stuff that is really just the patriarchies fault but blame women for it instead. Like having to pay for dates, or the expectation to be muscular and rich, both of which they are putting on themselves, and could easily be let go of if they just rejected the patriarchy.
It has more do to with your aproach than anything, and your aproach is something completely within your control. Just be respectful, take no for an answer, accept rejection as an inevitable part of the process. Everyone is a 10 to someone, everyone is looking for different things. The right person is out there for you. Just focus on becoming a good person, work on your communication and conflict resolution skills, be kind, and be patient. Develop good values and morals, learn to actually care about the things women care about, take consent and boundaries seriously, show you are a real ally.
The worst thing you can possibly do is develop a complex about it. Just because your self fulfilling prophecy came true doesn't mean it was in any way inevitable. Its not that difficult to get a girlfriend if you just don't hate women. Its not women's fault so many men have chosen to make themselves completely unfuckable
