The most LIBERATING thing you can do is to abandon a rigid sense of self

[luuk]

Associating so heavily with your past, your identity, your actions and how you are currently perceived is a recipe for rumination, inhibition, stagnation and depression. You can literally just reinvent yourself and most people will eventually accept it. Even easier if you move to a new environment. Any intangible traits you associate with yourself can be ignored and any traits you want can be faked. Consider your darkest and most embarrassing moments to be those of a different person and they will no longer burden you. The lies you tell yourself will eventually become your reality. If you embody a whiny victim mindset and tell yourself that its over and that you will amount to nothing then it will surely remain that way.
last thread today, gn

 

[Deleted member 330603]

Good thread, gn

 

[luuk]

Good thread, gn

gn

 

[FrancoAgain]

very cool
gn

 

[Prøphet]

Good advice I agree with you

 

[exvh]

valid post op, good night

 

[Luquier]

I agree tbh

 

[GonorrhoeaGobbler]

Fake it till ya make it and let go Ig

 

[Sycophant]

Associating so heavily with your past, your identity, your actions and how you are currently perceived is a recipe for rumination, inhibition, stagnation and depression. You can literally just reinvent yourself and most people will eventually accept it. Even easier if you move to a new environment. Any intangible traits you associate with yourself can be ignored and any traits you want can be faked. Consider your darkest and most embarrassing moments to be those of a different person and they will no longer burden you. The lies you tell yourself will eventually become your reality. If you embody a whiny victim mindset and tell yourself that its over and that you will amount to nothing then it will surely remain that way.
last thread today, gn

looking for something to take advantage of their reflection is a difficult process with pros and cons. Obviously the generally well received ideal man who can confidently talk with peers can be taken as such, or otherwise be interpreted as someone insecure or isolated.

you are entirely correct through this post, but personally this image I want to display to myself, and to the public, needs to come from a very well constructed ideology of someone that is entirely something I don't understand.

perhaps if you can diagnose my issue, you can help me construct an answer, but this general though has been in my head for some time - to be this stoic person who is able to periodically care for others when they need it, and require no maintenance in return? (hyperbolic example used to portray a seemingly very positive narrative).

it can be taken either way, and as such I find it exhausting mentally to concretely define this made up individual who I'm attempting to larp.

The most core component of this individual is the maintaining of one's self - ensuring that you remain at the highest priority and ensuring at no point you are giving away any mental real-estate for free (e.g being performative for no intrinsic return on investment).