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is when I read a load of "I don't love my boyfriend anymore and I don't know why" posts online and noticed a pattern there.
You can find endless stories like this. It makes getting into LTRs seem like a huge self-cucking and waste of time.
Let's look at few hit pieces here:
The stupidest thing is, our relationship is in a better state now than its ever been - weve been through so much crap in the past, but over the past year or so weve really settled down and been so happy.So i dont know why im feeling this way
Basically theres only one problem that we have in our relationship right now ; sex. He wants it all the time, right now i couldnt care less if i never have it again iyswim. Ive just changed my pill and always suffer with libido when i upset my contraception. But he makes me feel sooo bad about it all the time, i constantly feel under pressure to perform, so then when we do have sex i dont even enjoy it, i actually despise it!
So we had a wonderful family holiday,really connected and all that. but since weve been back its just the same thing. tbh i feel like its all he cares about. i know its important but i feel like im being bullied into it or else il have to put up with his tantrums.
I tried coming clean to him about all this last night though i didnt say i dont love him just that about the sex thing. so we had a good chat and ended with a cuddle. Then guess where his hands went first! I really do feel like a piece of meat sometimes.
So i guess because im not enjoying sex with him and just praying for it to be over when we do have it i must not love him anymore. how can i feel so repulsed if i love him?
Yet when i try and imagine life without him its unbearable, and everything else im so happy with. im so confused right now i know nobody has the right answer for me was just hoping someone could say what they think.
We also have 3 beautiful children. this obviously plays a big part in my not wanting to leave hime but i dont think thats the only reason.thanks if you have any advice
First reply (!) from that same thread:
this seems to be a very common thing, just been reading another thread!
i feel the same about my oh, although i know i do stil love him, but since having our children i have no interest in sex at all, i just want to go to bed and sleep! i dread it being a hot night when i'll wear a small nightie due to heat he immediately thinks its key to start touching down there! also im scared to get into bed just after shower as i have no underwear so again that must mean im up for it! i just wanna turn round and say 'leave me alone', but i dont wanna hurt his feelings, he's a good dad and provider etc and sometimes feel like i should give more but i just cant get into it, i think its cos i can never relax. he works very long hours, i also work part time and then have the children, i dont get a break so just want some time to myself in the evenings.
And it continues:
Hi,
I also have experienced similar siuations / thoughts to what you outlined above. I have a 2-yr old daughter and about 6 months after she was born I began to feel myself withdrawing from my partner. I don;t fully understand what happened but it continued and deteriorated. My main feelings towards him were "please don't come near me i'm exhausted..." while we continued to have sew at times but less and less often i no longer enjoyed it - i no longer felt sexy enough to deserve it and i felt no desire or need to have it and was basically thenjust having it the odd time to please him, then i no longer wanted to please him and had less and less.
More...
I feel the same about my husband- I don't think I longer love him. Again sex awkward and just close my eyes and wait for it to finish. We have 2 children and I know that while they are very young still 3 and 1 years I will prob stay with him till they are in school.
Like what the hell even is this? Imagine giving children to some foid who seems head over heels for you and all of a sudden she starts acting like this and cucks you and your children in the process. Women always talk big about how a guy needs to have this and that and when they get what they want they pull this kind of crap and "don't know why" as they say in their own words.
Do you think Chico has to deal with the same crap especially when he started norwooding? Insanity.
Also this is more evidence that looksmaxxing is an absolute necessity to reduce your chances of having this happen to you. The average guy who looks like ass is probably bound to run into this situation as soon as the bitch is over her feelings and stops viewing him through rose tint glasses or no longer copes about seeing something in him that isn't there when in reality she really just needed some retard to give her his seed and once she has it, it's over for him.
You can find endless stories like this. It makes getting into LTRs seem like a huge self-cucking and waste of time.
Let's look at few hit pieces here:
The stupidest thing is, our relationship is in a better state now than its ever been - weve been through so much crap in the past, but over the past year or so weve really settled down and been so happy.So i dont know why im feeling this way
Basically theres only one problem that we have in our relationship right now ; sex. He wants it all the time, right now i couldnt care less if i never have it again iyswim. Ive just changed my pill and always suffer with libido when i upset my contraception. But he makes me feel sooo bad about it all the time, i constantly feel under pressure to perform, so then when we do have sex i dont even enjoy it, i actually despise it!
So we had a wonderful family holiday,really connected and all that. but since weve been back its just the same thing. tbh i feel like its all he cares about. i know its important but i feel like im being bullied into it or else il have to put up with his tantrums.
I tried coming clean to him about all this last night though i didnt say i dont love him just that about the sex thing. so we had a good chat and ended with a cuddle. Then guess where his hands went first! I really do feel like a piece of meat sometimes.
So i guess because im not enjoying sex with him and just praying for it to be over when we do have it i must not love him anymore. how can i feel so repulsed if i love him?
Yet when i try and imagine life without him its unbearable, and everything else im so happy with. im so confused right now i know nobody has the right answer for me was just hoping someone could say what they think.
We also have 3 beautiful children. this obviously plays a big part in my not wanting to leave hime but i dont think thats the only reason.thanks if you have any advice
First reply (!) from that same thread:
this seems to be a very common thing, just been reading another thread!
i feel the same about my oh, although i know i do stil love him, but since having our children i have no interest in sex at all, i just want to go to bed and sleep! i dread it being a hot night when i'll wear a small nightie due to heat he immediately thinks its key to start touching down there! also im scared to get into bed just after shower as i have no underwear so again that must mean im up for it! i just wanna turn round and say 'leave me alone', but i dont wanna hurt his feelings, he's a good dad and provider etc and sometimes feel like i should give more but i just cant get into it, i think its cos i can never relax. he works very long hours, i also work part time and then have the children, i dont get a break so just want some time to myself in the evenings.
And it continues:
Hi,
I also have experienced similar siuations / thoughts to what you outlined above. I have a 2-yr old daughter and about 6 months after she was born I began to feel myself withdrawing from my partner. I don;t fully understand what happened but it continued and deteriorated. My main feelings towards him were "please don't come near me i'm exhausted..." while we continued to have sew at times but less and less often i no longer enjoyed it - i no longer felt sexy enough to deserve it and i felt no desire or need to have it and was basically thenjust having it the odd time to please him, then i no longer wanted to please him and had less and less.
More...
I feel the same about my husband- I don't think I longer love him. Again sex awkward and just close my eyes and wait for it to finish. We have 2 children and I know that while they are very young still 3 and 1 years I will prob stay with him till they are in school.
Like what the hell even is this? Imagine giving children to some foid who seems head over heels for you and all of a sudden she starts acting like this and cucks you and your children in the process. Women always talk big about how a guy needs to have this and that and when they get what they want they pull this kind of crap and "don't know why" as they say in their own words.
Do you think Chico has to deal with the same crap especially when he started norwooding? Insanity.
Also this is more evidence that looksmaxxing is an absolute necessity to reduce your chances of having this happen to you. The average guy who looks like ass is probably bound to run into this situation as soon as the bitch is over her feelings and stops viewing him through rose tint glasses or no longer copes about seeing something in him that isn't there when in reality she really just needed some retard to give her his seed and once she has it, it's over for him.
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