Ozchyn
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i know this may sound silly but hear me out, think of it like rumble from league of legends. unlike most characters, rumble doesn’t use mana. instead, every ability he casts generates heat. once his heat rises above a certain threshold, his abilities become stronger and more effective. but if he keeps casting and reaches maximum heat, he overheats: for a short time he can’t use any abilities at all, although his basic attacks become stronger. his power comes from managing that balance, not staying cold forever, and not overheating constantly.
masturbation can be viewed in a similar way. if you release all the time, you never let any “heat” build, so there’s less drive and intensity behind your actions. if you never release at all, the pressure can keep building until it becomes a distraction of its own. the sweet spot is neither running at zero heat nor living in permanent overheat, it’s staying in the danger zone, 50:50, where the energy is there, under control, and ready to be used when it matters.
for example, you went into the bathroom: there’s water, soap, your penis is right there, you’re alone, it’s a private place. if your mind immediately associates all of that with sexuality and you start masturbating right away, that is immature sexual desire. mature sexual desire, on the other hand, is being able to postpone and accumulate that thought and feeling, then act on it at an appropriate and planned time, in a suitable setting (not in the restroom of some random place you happen to visit), in a suitable psychological state (doing it while angry, stressed, exhausted, or upset can lead to bigger personal and sexual problems), and in a healthy way. if you do it quickly, forcefully with pressure, or even with vibration for some of you, then when you later have real sexual intercourse, the vagina will not provide the same kind of stimulation, and you may feel as if you are moving back and forth for nothing, leading to difficulty experiencing pleasure. so do as it would be in a real intercourse, try to imitate it as closely as possible when masturbating.
the frequency of your masturbation matters less than its quality. how you do it is far more important. because it is programming your sexual life. never masturbating can be just as problematic as masturbating incorrectly, and both are sexually unhealthy.
in addition, when you first feel the urge to ejaculate, you should not ejaculate immediately. otherwise, your body does not reach full satisfaction, you are not fulfilled physiologically or neurologically, and you also train yourself toward premature ejaculation. use lubricant; if you masturbate dry, then when you eventually enter a warm, wet, and slippery vagina, your risk of premature ejaculation may increase.
premature ejaculation, erection problems (especially if you have conditioned your body to traumatic masturbation habits such as excessive friction and humping), and consequently an increased desire for anal sex as a substitute can all occur. this is because the anal area imitate certain unhealthy masturbation habits more closely than vaginal intercourse does.
in addition, masturbating while watching pornography is also a major mistake. when you watch pornography, you are a third party observer. since you will not be watching pornography during sex, you may develop arousal difficulties.
if you have these kinds of unhealthy masturbation habits and, after acknowledging them, want to develop healthier ones, then for 30 days you should practice complete sexual abstinence. you will not think about sexuality, talk about it, look at it, or listen to it. your penis will have no job other than urination. sexual thoughts may still come to mind, but you will not feed them, you will postpone them. we are not forbidding them; we are simply delaying them.
and when you do masturbate, do not ejaculate within three to five minutes. that is very unhealthy and misguided. edge instead, and let the session last at least half an hour with imagination and slowly building up.
the question of whether masturbation should or should not be practiced is not even open for debate. think of it like hunger. if you eat a hamburger every time you feel hungry, that is not healthy. but if you choose healthy foods and nutritious meals, there is no problem and you can continue your life in a healthier way. likewise, you do not eat every single time you feel hungry, you postpone it when necessary. otherwise, a completely different set of problems would arise.
so the real issue is no longer whether you do it, whether you do not do it, or even how often you do it. the real issue is the quality of the act: how, when, where, and for how long you do it.
sometimes you may masturbate five times in ten days; sometimes twice in ten days; sometimes once a month. sexual activity in relationships is also variable just like this. it depends on circumstances and conditions. what matters is having mature charged up built up pent up sexual desire. the important thing is not quantity, but quality.
masturbation can be viewed in a similar way. if you release all the time, you never let any “heat” build, so there’s less drive and intensity behind your actions. if you never release at all, the pressure can keep building until it becomes a distraction of its own. the sweet spot is neither running at zero heat nor living in permanent overheat, it’s staying in the danger zone, 50:50, where the energy is there, under control, and ready to be used when it matters.
for example, you went into the bathroom: there’s water, soap, your penis is right there, you’re alone, it’s a private place. if your mind immediately associates all of that with sexuality and you start masturbating right away, that is immature sexual desire. mature sexual desire, on the other hand, is being able to postpone and accumulate that thought and feeling, then act on it at an appropriate and planned time, in a suitable setting (not in the restroom of some random place you happen to visit), in a suitable psychological state (doing it while angry, stressed, exhausted, or upset can lead to bigger personal and sexual problems), and in a healthy way. if you do it quickly, forcefully with pressure, or even with vibration for some of you, then when you later have real sexual intercourse, the vagina will not provide the same kind of stimulation, and you may feel as if you are moving back and forth for nothing, leading to difficulty experiencing pleasure. so do as it would be in a real intercourse, try to imitate it as closely as possible when masturbating.
the frequency of your masturbation matters less than its quality. how you do it is far more important. because it is programming your sexual life. never masturbating can be just as problematic as masturbating incorrectly, and both are sexually unhealthy.
in addition, when you first feel the urge to ejaculate, you should not ejaculate immediately. otherwise, your body does not reach full satisfaction, you are not fulfilled physiologically or neurologically, and you also train yourself toward premature ejaculation. use lubricant; if you masturbate dry, then when you eventually enter a warm, wet, and slippery vagina, your risk of premature ejaculation may increase.
premature ejaculation, erection problems (especially if you have conditioned your body to traumatic masturbation habits such as excessive friction and humping), and consequently an increased desire for anal sex as a substitute can all occur. this is because the anal area imitate certain unhealthy masturbation habits more closely than vaginal intercourse does.
in addition, masturbating while watching pornography is also a major mistake. when you watch pornography, you are a third party observer. since you will not be watching pornography during sex, you may develop arousal difficulties.
if you have these kinds of unhealthy masturbation habits and, after acknowledging them, want to develop healthier ones, then for 30 days you should practice complete sexual abstinence. you will not think about sexuality, talk about it, look at it, or listen to it. your penis will have no job other than urination. sexual thoughts may still come to mind, but you will not feed them, you will postpone them. we are not forbidding them; we are simply delaying them.
and when you do masturbate, do not ejaculate within three to five minutes. that is very unhealthy and misguided. edge instead, and let the session last at least half an hour with imagination and slowly building up.
the question of whether masturbation should or should not be practiced is not even open for debate. think of it like hunger. if you eat a hamburger every time you feel hungry, that is not healthy. but if you choose healthy foods and nutritious meals, there is no problem and you can continue your life in a healthier way. likewise, you do not eat every single time you feel hungry, you postpone it when necessary. otherwise, a completely different set of problems would arise.
so the real issue is no longer whether you do it, whether you do not do it, or even how often you do it. the real issue is the quality of the act: how, when, where, and for how long you do it.
sometimes you may masturbate five times in ten days; sometimes twice in ten days; sometimes once a month. sexual activity in relationships is also variable just like this. it depends on circumstances and conditions. what matters is having mature charged up built up pent up sexual desire. the important thing is not quantity, but quality.
