The origins of your "dream girl" and why she doesn't exist (in depth thought)

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The human brain naturally craves the things it cannot have. Women and men both do this.

The lonely incel usually craves a woman who loves him unconditionally and will never leave him. This is because he knows deep down all of his other relationships are completely transactional and based on what he provides. Men only care about eachother for what they can use eachother for. Your social status, the women you have around you, invitation to parties, your money, job opportunities you could give them, etc. There's a selfish drive behind all of our intentions, even me writing this is for my own enjoyment and validation from you all, admittedly.

The lonely incel lacks women, sex, unconditional love, a partner to do things with, so he forges an abstract ideal in his brain, an imaginary dream girl who has all of the traits he desires based on unfulfilled needs he can't achieve otherwise. The problem is these desires quite literally are incompatible.

"Woman" and "innocent cute girl" don't go together.

"Woman" and "unconditionally love me" also don't go together.

"Woman" and "fellow lonely partner to have fun with" also don't go together.

The desire of a specific kind of partner is based on the subjective unfulfilled needs of the subject, or person, desiring (you).

Then look at it the other way, women for example ALSO conjure up an abstract "perfect guy" based on their unfulfilled desires. See women have way way way too many male friends, validation, compliments, sexual partners, people to cure boredom and loneliness with.

She isn't looking for someone to kick back and rot and cure her loneliness and cuddle with. She already has that. So she isn't looking for you.

She is desiring her unfulfilled desires which are constantly changing. So she already has fun, friends, company, a good time, what does she want therefore? An even better time, even better looking sexual partners. She already can get Chad to have sex with, so she wants to lock him down, not because it even makes sense but because she thinks it would make her happy just because she desires the things she can't have, and she knows she can't lock him down, so that becomes her ultimate goal.

It's really just a human flaw of the brain to obsess about the things just out of reach that women want chad. They can get high tier normies to commit but Chad doesn't need to do he doesn't, and this breaks women down inside.


What can be learned from all this? The origins of your desires, how they are irrational, you are combining contradictory traits in an abstract concept of a person that doesn't actually exist to fulfill your desires that aren't being actualized in reality. And how women do the same and only want Chad because he's the one thing they can't have. And by this same logic uglier women are more content with average men because they can't get average men to commit. And the mechanism of the human brain to constantly "desire the journey more than the end goal" and desire things out of reach rather than at hand.

If you want to manipulate a girl by this logic you must necessarily keep her dreaming of a better version of you that might come in the future. Never give her what she wants or her standards will rise once again. Give her almost what she wants, allude to it, then don't give it to her so she keeps "dreaming" of a world with you where you were always acting perfect. If you always act perfect she will dream of something else then leave you for a guy that she thinks is more close to that abstract concept in her brain. So never reach her goals. Never give her what she wants. Keep her "dreaming of a better you that might become real".
 
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"Woman" and "innocent cute girl" don't go together.

"Woman" and "unconditionally love me" also don't go together.

"Woman" and "fellow lonely partner to have fun with" also don't go together.
 
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never thought about it that way... im just imagining my oneitis to be the ideal women even though ive never spoken to her and that if just looksmax to chadlite and cold approach her we will just live happily ever after but im just deluding myself , its truly over
 
I didn’t read but if you’ve ever had a oneitis it’s time to kill yourself
 
Let's try to enjoy this thread before he deletes all his posts again and creates a new weird avi and username
if u grow 1-2 more inches and gymmaxx and low inhibmaxx u can become nba youngboy ong
 
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The human brain naturally craves the things it cannot have. Women and men both do this.

The lonely incel usually craves a woman who loves him unconditionally and will never leave him. This is because he knows deep down all of his other relationships are completely transactional and based on what he provides. Men only care about eachother for what they can use eachother for. Your social status, the women you have around you, invitation to parties, your money, job opportunities you could give them, etc. There's a selfish drive behind all of our intentions, even me writing this is for my own enjoyment and validation from you all, admittedly.

The lonely incel lacks women, sex, unconditional love, a partner to do things with, so he forges an abstract ideal in his brain, an imaginary dream girl who has all of the traits he desires based on unfulfilled needs he can't achieve otherwise. The problem is these desires quite literally are incompatible.

"Woman" and "innocent cute girl" don't go together.

"Woman" and "unconditionally love me" also don't go together.

"Woman" and "fellow lonely partner to have fun with" also don't go together.

The desire of a specific kind of partner is based on the subjective unfulfilled needs of the subject, or person, desiring (you).

Then look at it the other way, women for example ALSO conjure up an abstract "perfect guy" based on their unfulfilled desires. See women have way way way too many male friends, validation, compliments, sexual partners, people to cure boredom and loneliness with.

She isn't looking for someone to kick back and rot and cure her loneliness and cuddle with. She already has that. So she isn't looking for you.

She is desiring her unfulfilled desires which are constantly changing. So she already has fun, friends, company, a good time, what does she want therefore? An even better time, even better looking sexual partners. She already can get Chad to have sex with, so she wants to lock him down, not because it even makes sense but because she thinks it would make her happy just because she desires the things she can't have, and she knows she can't lock him down, so that becomes her ultimate goal.

It's really just a human flaw of the brain to obsess about the things just out of reach that women want chad. They can get high tier normies to commit but Chad doesn't need to do he doesn't, and this breaks women down inside.


What can be learned from all this? The origins of your desires, how they are irrational, you are combining contradictory traits in an abstract concept of a person that doesn't actually exist to fulfill your desires that aren't being actualized in reality. And how women do the same and only want Chad because he's the one thing they can't have. And by this same logic uglier women are more content with average men because they can't get average men to commit. And the mechanism of the human brain to constantly "desire the journey more than the end goal" and desire things out of reach rather than at hand.

If you want to manipulate a girl by this logic you must necessarily keep her dreaming of a better version of you that might come in the future. Never give her what she wants or her standards will rise once again. Give her almost what she wants, allude to it, then don't give it to her so she keeps "dreaming" of a world with you where you were always acting perfect. If you always act perfect she will dream of something else then leave you for a guy that she thinks is more close to that abstract concept in her brain. So never reach her goals. Never give her what she wants. Keep her "dreaming of a better you that might become real".
ive been doing this without knowing all the time
 

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