The pain of regret is a lot harsher than the pain of rejection

[Deleted member 15674]

Srs, this past week, I've fucked up my chances with 2 diff girls - tbf the 2nd girl was me not being fucked/wanting to smoke a joint with my friend. But the pain of regret is still there, it hurts a lot more than the pain of rejection. So much so, that I've been trying to convince myself that the girls weren't into me and were just being friendly - but I know deep down they actually wanted me ffs. Being an incel meant shit was out of my control and I actually didn't have to be responsible for my failures, it was actually mentally easier in that way.
Sure having the "no hope" mindset fucked me, but it was always cured by thinking of shit like how if I lift, I'll ascend, how if i do xyz my life will be better and thus women are not needed. And tbh that mindset was much easier to be with.

At least as an incel you reject yourself and thus spare yourself regret, rejection is quick. Regret is a slow gnawing pain, while not as intense as rejection, that gnawing pain fucks with you.

 

[Vermilioncore]

The things I’ve done I wish I could undo
Every thing I’ve done to make it up to you
All the ugly things that I wish were never true
End The dark nights that I put you through

 

[currylightskin]

It's ok. Just have Abundance Mindset.

 

[fifteenflagsfly]

Literally as a so called "curry manlet" you had 2 chances THIS WEEK with girls. Either South-Asian SMV is super high in England or it's that:

A. Your telling tales about the girls
B. Your telling tales about being a 5'5 manlet (which is what I believe more).

And the worst part is you call yourself an incel after all of that lol, the word incel is actually thrown around by any normie with social anxiety and a 2 week dry spell jfl.

 

[Deleted member 18012]

honestly didn't read but sounds profound and high effort so repped

 

[Deleted member 18086]

i never had any chance or opportunity, every girl i ever liked was repulsed by me and even the ugliest girl ik dates a guy who mogs me

 

[Deleted member 15674]

Literally as a so called "curry manlet" you had 2 chances THIS WEEK with girls. Either South-Asian SMV is super high in England or it's that:

A. Your telling tales about the girls
B. Your telling tales about being a 5'5 manlet (which is what I believe more).

And the worst part is you call yourself an incel after all of that lol, the word incel is actually thrown around by any normie with social anxiety and a 2 week dry spell jfl.

nah i was truecel before, but i literally got a new hairstyle and its improved me a lot

 

[fifteenflagsfly]

nah i was truecel before, but i literally got a new hairstyle and its improved me a lot

No you weren't a truecel. You clearly have had multiple gfs, you have a circle of friends and get invited regularly to do things with girls. You're not supremely failo'd in anyway that stops you from intergrating in society.

As a guy who was born with mental disabilities who has always wanted to get along with people here but always failed, it has always been my dream to be able to do this. I literally used to go to bed and dream in my sleep about being a cool, popular guy that people liked. My fantasy was a normie's reality.

You say being a 5"5 curry failoes you but being non-NT (actually legitimately) would failo you way harder in England, all types of guys get women and do well here, except non-NT guys. They are bullied and thrown away like trash.

 

[Deleted member 15674]

No you weren't a truecel. You clearly have had multiple gfs, you have a circle of friends and get invited regularly to do things with girls. You're not supremely failo'd in anyway that stops you from intergrating in society.

As a guy who was born with mental disabilities who has always wanted to get along with people here but always failed, it has always been my dream to be able to do this. I literally used to go to bed and dream in my sleep about being a cool, popular guy that people liked. My fantasy was a normie's reality.

You say being a 5"5 curry failoes you but being non-NT (actually legitimately) would failo you way harder in England, all types of guys get women and do well here, except non-NT guys. They are bullied and thrown away like trash.

I'm a truecel because I'm 5'5 and curry, I admit being NT has countered this hard and if I wasn't NT or to say the least, a tad bit charismatic. I'd be fucked, and I am lucky for not being born with any conditions.

But what I say goes to regular "incel" types, most users here I bet are okay people irl and tbf aren't even bad looking. What they lack is "networking", they don't know the right people and thus their social lives suffer.

If your being legit about your condition, then stop focusing on looksmaxxing. Start seeking therapy and try hobbies and shit out to push yourself out of your comfort zone. If you're too scared to even start a hobby, maybe ask a sibling or cousin to join with you. Honestly bro, log off this site, it's only rotting your brain. I have no ill feelings towards you, but I'm keeping it real here.

 

[fifteenflagsfly]

I'm a truecel because I'm 5'5 and curry, I admit being NT has countered this hard and if I wasn't NT or to say the least, a tad bit charismatic. I'd be fucked, and I am lucky for not being born with any conditions.

But what I say goes to regular "incel" types, most users here I bet are okay people irl and tbf aren't even bad looking. What they lack is "networking", they don't know the right people and thus their social lives suffer.

If your being legit about your condition, then stop focusing on looksmaxxing. Start seeking therapy and try hobbies and shit out to push yourself out of your comfort zone. If you're too scared to even start a hobby, maybe ask a sibling or cousin to join with you. Honestly bro, log off this site, it's only rotting your brain. I have no ill feelings towards you, but I'm keeping it real here.

Listen being 5'5 and curry does not help things, I admit that. Of course I know how much of a struggle it is for ethnics, not only to be popular but to even be seen as human beings. I know that. But what I'm saying is that in England and the Western World, your NT can make up for it and it has. It was a hurdle to climb over but you climbed it, far from a truecel.

I have been in and out of therapy and mental hospitals since 14, my brain was already rotted before I joined this site from bullying and childhood trauma that would have both been avoided if I wasn't born with mental disabilities. It is extremely difficult to even survive with these invisible illnesses that nobody even recognises as a problem.

I have no ill feelings towards you either, I use this site to cope at times but even when I log off this site my mind is not healthy. I try to use the site mainly for advice, I know I can't ever live a normal life but I'm trying to at least be the best version of myself that I can be.

 

[Deleted member 15674]

Listen being 5'5 and curry does not help things, I admit that. Of course I know how much of a struggle it is for ethnics, not only to be popular but to even be seen as human beings. I know that. But what I'm saying is that in England and the Western World, your NT can make up for it and it has. It was a hurdle to climb over but you climbed it, far from a truecel.

I have been in and out of therapy and mental hospitals since 14, my brain was already rotted before I joined this site from bullying and childhood trauma that would have both been avoided if I wasn't born with mental disabilities. It is extremely difficult to even survive with these invisible illnesses that nobody even recognises as a problem.

I have no ill feelings towards you either, I use this site to cope at times but even when I log off this site my mind is not healthy. I try to use the site mainly for advice, I know I can't ever live a normal life but I'm trying to at least be the best version of myself that I can be.

This place isn't going to help you, you need to make legit progress irl as hard as it is.

 

[apocalypse]

I have no regrets because I know I would have been rejected and turned into a laughing stock if I tried

 

[Deleted member 15674]

I have no regrets because I know I would have been rejected and turned into a laughing stock if I tried

I wish I could cope like that, but like I don't even care if I am a laughing stock rn. Last year of uni lol

 

[apocalypse]

I don't even care if I am a laughing stock rn

The point is that even if you don't care that much, there is no point to risk it given there's no upside because you're 100% you will get rejected.
Choice 1: don't try
Choice 2: try, get rejected with 100% certainty and maybe get turned into a laughing stock
There is no reason whatsoever to go for 2 instead of 1 other than masochism

 

[Deleted member 15674]

The point is that even if you don't care that much, there is no point to risk it given there's no upside because you're 100% you will get rejected.
Choice 1: don't try
Choice 2: try, get rejected with 100% certainty and maybe get turned into a laughing stock
There is no reason whatsoever to go for 2 instead of 1 other than masochism

True, but it's either rot forever or try. I'd rather try, what's the alternative really?

 

[fifteenflagsfly]

The point is that even if you don't care that much, there is no point to risk it given there's no upside because you're 100% you will get rejected.
Choice 1: don't try
Choice 2: try, get rejected with 100% certainty and maybe get turned into a laughing stock
There is no reason whatsoever to go for 2 instead of 1 other than masochism

I have no regrets because I know I would have been rejected and turned into a laughing stock if I tried

Unless you're legit deformed at least 40-60% of all girls would be into you, if you're the majority race in your country the 60% is guaranteed.

Most girls, especially ones who aren't stacy are open to dating all types of guys. But if you're sub-chad you need to approach. I'm not saying this to give you cope, I'm saying this after an extreme amount of examples both in my personal life and random people. Men are able to date up.

Girls date guys below them all the time, even sub-5s can get LTRs and that's not cope.

 

[Pakicel]

The point is that even if you don't care that much, there is no point to risk it given there's no upside because you're 100% you will get rejected.
Choice 1: don't try
Choice 2: try, get rejected with 100% certainty and maybe get turned into a laughing stock
There is no reason whatsoever to go for 2 instead of 1 other than masochism

asking out women as a sub-chad will get you metooed pretty badly. you need to show that you have enough resources to betabux her before trying.

 

[Deleted member 18159]

You have to be willing to face rejection as a man. Even Chad gets rejected every now and then. Thinking you shouldn’t approach women because Chad gets flooded with DMs from thirsty 18 year olds on Instagram is PSL autism.

 

[Pakicel]

Unless you're legit deformed at least 40-60% of all girls would be into you, if you're the majority race in your country the 60% is guaranteed.

Most girls, especially ones who aren't stacy are open to dating all types of guys. But if you're sub-chad you need to approach. I'm not saying this to give you cope, I'm saying this after an extreme amount of examples both in my personal life and random people. Men are able to date up.

Girls date guys below them all the time, even sub-5s can get LTRs and that's not cope.

Cope. Women will give you obvious IOIs if they are into you. If you don't get any IOIs whatsoever, your looks are the problem.

Also, a third or more of ethnics are deformed so it's over for them. they barely look human.

 

[Pakicel]

You have to be willing to face rejection as a man. Even Chad gets rejected every now and then. Thinking you shouldn’t approach women because Chad gets flooded with DMs from thirsty 18 year olds on Instagram is PSL autism.

yes but decent looking men will get IOIs. If you don't get IOIs, you need to looksmax.

 

[Deleted member 18159]

yes but decent looking men will get IOIs. If you don't get IOIs, you need to looksmax.

That’s true, but a lot of men significantly limit themselves by waiting for IOIs or waiting for women to approach. I know a guy who approached every girl he finds attractive and he slays like 1-2 new girls a week and he’s not a Chad by any means.

 

[Pakicel]

That’s true, but a lot of men significantly limit themselves by waiting for IOIs or waiting for women to approach. I know a guy who approached every girl he finds attractive and he slays like 1-2 new girls a week and he’s not a Chad by any means.

Imo, you should fully looksmax before trying. Approaching as a 3 PSL curry would just get you metoo'ed pretty badly.

Tbh, some men are better off not interacting with women at all. Like what does an ugly dude gain from being around them unless he is forced to due to work or school?

 

[Deleted member 15674]

That’s true, but a lot of men significantly limit themselves by waiting for IOIs or waiting for women to approach. I know a guy who approached every girl he finds attractive and he slays like 1-2 new girls a week and he’s not a Chad by any means.

dead srs? Shud I just approach without waiting for IOI?

 

[Deleted member 18159]

dead srs? Shud I just approach without waiting for IOI?

If you’re reasonably NT and can keep a conversation going, you should. Only approach in social settings tho like a party. Daygame/cold approach is cringe

 

[wollet2]

Im mentally tortured

 

[Pakicel]

If you’re reasonably NT and can keep a conversation going, you should. Only approach in social settings tho like a party. Daygame/cold approach is cringe

But if you can't get invited to parties due to your looks? I mean I bet if I looked like amnesia, cool interesting people would want to befriend me.