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Some terminology before I begin my rant:
Asker: Somebody who asks the questions
Askee: Somebody who answers those questions
Sometimes in life we forget to ask or we forget that we have the ability to ask.
I am one who believes asking provides immense power to ones life, and gives not just the asker, but the askee a sense of fulfillment
There are 3 harmful reasons as to why we resist asking:
For one to take control of their life, they must eliminate this invisible barrier
What is the difference between to ask and to question?
To ask, is to seek, which assumes:
To question is to be active and skeptical:
Don’t challenge people in a way that threatens their beliefs. I.e DO NOT QUESTION
There is only some select kind of people you can question, and those who are very close to you, or engage in discourse, where questioning is often required.
Now, given the 3rd reason "I don't know what to ask!!"
You have already went took the wrong turn on the freeway.
For one to enact this philosophy, the philosophy of asking if you will, you can't ask questions for the sake of asking. They must be genuine questions.
Let me give it to you like this,
4 different profiles of people there are:
MAM - Modern Average Man, the average guy who doesn't even get to the point of trying to be better.
MADM - Modern Average Developing Man, the average guy who wants to be better, the dude who asked the question "I don't know what to ask". Too self concious for his own good.
MAE - Modern Approach Expert, the "go getter" if you will, somebody who acts first and thinks later
POA - the Philosophy of Asking, the flawless methodical approach to getting what you want out of life
The Situation:
You see somebody who you want to be friends with, but they don't know you.
The MAM says:
nothing, he thinking about his musics lyrics, or what kind of burger he is gonna order tonight
The MADM says:
"Uhh, I don't know what to ask him, what to say to him, what if he tells me to fuck off? What if I shit my pants while I talk to him? Did I brush my teeth this morning what if my teeth are yellow??"
The MAE says:
"I'm just gonna go up to him with a smile on my face and introduce him, i'll be more likely to not regret than regret going up to him. If I don't get what I want out of it, i'll move onto the next person, no biggie!"
The POA says:
“I'm uncertain about something about that person, i'm going to clarify it with them. I would be unhappy to walk away not getting an answer.”
People, especially the Modern Approach Expert, think detaching yourself from the outcome of social interaction is the best way, to be stoic.
However, with the POA, emotions are important, and detachment from them makes you seem inhumane to others.
The whole goal of POA is to connect with others and get you the most out of your situation in your life.
When you are genuinely unhappy when you don't get the answer you want, it touches something inside of you called your primality.
Your primality is your true self,
With POA we must bring your true self out
Not suppress it by being subconcious about ourselves (MADM) or detachment of emotions (MAE).
I hope this can help somebody.
Asker: Somebody who asks the questions
Askee: Somebody who answers those questions
Sometimes in life we forget to ask or we forget that we have the ability to ask.
I am one who believes asking provides immense power to ones life, and gives not just the asker, but the askee a sense of fulfillment
There are 3 harmful reasons as to why we resist asking:
- We are too afraid for the unlikely outcome. i.e. we are afraid to what somebody says
- We are too focused on ourselves and not our surroundings
- We do not know what to ask
For one to take control of their life, they must eliminate this invisible barrier
What is the difference between to ask and to question?
To ask, is to seek, which assumes:
- There is something you don’t know
- Someone might provide it
- The world is, in some sense, cooperative
To question is to be active and skeptical:
- Doubting assumptions
- Examining whether something is true at all
- Not taking things at face value
Don’t challenge people in a way that threatens their beliefs. I.e DO NOT QUESTION
There is only some select kind of people you can question, and those who are very close to you, or engage in discourse, where questioning is often required.
Now, given the 3rd reason "I don't know what to ask!!"
You have already went took the wrong turn on the freeway.
For one to enact this philosophy, the philosophy of asking if you will, you can't ask questions for the sake of asking. They must be genuine questions.
Let me give it to you like this,
4 different profiles of people there are:
MAM - Modern Average Man, the average guy who doesn't even get to the point of trying to be better.
MADM - Modern Average Developing Man, the average guy who wants to be better, the dude who asked the question "I don't know what to ask". Too self concious for his own good.
MAE - Modern Approach Expert, the "go getter" if you will, somebody who acts first and thinks later
POA - the Philosophy of Asking, the flawless methodical approach to getting what you want out of life
The Situation:
You see somebody who you want to be friends with, but they don't know you.
The MAM says:
nothing, he thinking about his musics lyrics, or what kind of burger he is gonna order tonight
The MADM says:
"Uhh, I don't know what to ask him, what to say to him, what if he tells me to fuck off? What if I shit my pants while I talk to him? Did I brush my teeth this morning what if my teeth are yellow??"
The MAE says:
"I'm just gonna go up to him with a smile on my face and introduce him, i'll be more likely to not regret than regret going up to him. If I don't get what I want out of it, i'll move onto the next person, no biggie!"
The POA says:
“I'm uncertain about something about that person, i'm going to clarify it with them. I would be unhappy to walk away not getting an answer.”
People, especially the Modern Approach Expert, think detaching yourself from the outcome of social interaction is the best way, to be stoic.
However, with the POA, emotions are important, and detachment from them makes you seem inhumane to others.
The whole goal of POA is to connect with others and get you the most out of your situation in your life.
When you are genuinely unhappy when you don't get the answer you want, it touches something inside of you called your primality.
Your primality is your true self,
With POA we must bring your true self out
Not suppress it by being subconcious about ourselves (MADM) or detachment of emotions (MAE).
I hope this can help somebody.
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