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Introduction
So you realize even though you're 6'6 and a chad you still act awkward and sometimes when you're hanging out with your manlet homie he gets more attention. That's because of something magical called charisma. Being charismatic can make or break a lot of your social experiences, whether you take that girl home from the club, whether you get that job, become friends with that guy who has more money than you and you could learn a lot from or even whether or not you get along w a girl's parents or friends.
This guide will give you a simple but effective breakdown on what I believe are the main 3 components that make someone charismatic, and how you can learn this behavior.
Disclaimer: I am not some sort of harvard nerd that spent 10 years conducting research, if you find this thread useless then go read some other shit because i literally do not care, this is information that anyone and everyone can benefit from so you must be a roomtempiqcel if it isn't helpful.
Body Language
Our communication breaks down as the following:
7% is the words we use
38% is our tone and voice
And 55% is our body language.
Body language is absolutely crucial to understand because it is far more responsible for how you are perceived than the words you say. Two books that are good on body language:
1. Body Language: How to Read Others' Thoughts by Their Gestures
2. What Every Body Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People
Really all you need but there are others if you feel like reading more.
Your body language should not be still. It should be in flow with the conversation, make sure to use your hands in an animated way and your face can really aid your body language, and when you are listening keep an open body language but face the person you are listening to. Your feet should be pointing towards them, your eyes should be looking directly at them as their speaking, your eye contact should be intentional and not passive.
Speech / Voice
I pray you're not that retarded that you're genuinely sitting on an incel forum and trying to learn the importance of speech. You should know the difference between a good and bad communicator, thus I will continue as if you have a basic understanding and touch on the following:
1. How to improve your speech
This can be applied to body language as well and you should actually do both together.
Take your phone and open up your camera app, and record with your BACK CAMERA. Not your front camera. You should not be able to see yourself in live time while you do this because it will fuck w your brain in the beginning and it will not be natural as you will constantly be faking your natural body language, speech, and voice tonality to sound better and look better to yourself as you do it.
Start recording, pick a topic and just talk.
Remember to talk with your body as well, I would aim for 5 minutes ideally, the longer the better really but you can shorten this down to as low as a minute a day. Aim for 3 at the very least.
Look back at your recording daily and watch it, you will notice just how awkward your speech can be, how weird your voice sounds, and also how stiff your body language can be.
Sticking with this small practice can make a day and night difference in your body language and speech in just as little as a few weeks. You will completely transform, and if you don't chances are your communication was already good.
2. When to talk
Sometimes just SHUT THE FUCK UP. Nobody likes a fake ass motherfucker and people can sniff them from a mile away, maybe not you because you probably don't socialize but I'm sure lots of you reading all had just at least 1 person from class / work / social circle that just popped in your mind as you read that.
When you are with a group of people, or on a date, you do not want to be the center of attention. Charisma does not mean "Hey look at me I talk a lot !! Listen !! I am so funny and humorous and swing my arms like a monkey !!" Charisma means you have more of an impact with your words, straight up. So if you want your words to have an impact you need to choose them carefully and timing is important too.
When you are in a talkative environment, bring your words to few but speak in a way that makes it look like you have more to say than others, but won't speak until you have everyone's undivided attention. This abstract behavior can work some times and not others so you really need to pick and choose when to practice this, for example this won't really work at a college party but it would work excellently at a social event with family or your church, class, etc.
And vice versa: when your surroundings are quieter and people around you speak little, you have the opportunity to give them someone to talk to and entertain them. Sometimes the vibes are just dead and people are bored, there's no point in being the one to put in effort and actually making things more lively, is what those people think. But really it's just a ground level opportunity for you to appear charismatic and perform. Again situation matters, do not try to be Kevin Hart at a funeral or during a class lecture, class clowns are literally just clowns.
There are no books to read on this and that would be a huge waste of time, you could learn more in just a few weekend parties than reading a book over the course of a month.
3. What to talk about
Jeffrey Epstein was known for randomly shouting "LET'S TALK ABOUT PUSSY!" whenever a conversation dulled him. Even at high class events and dinner parties where he would be surrounded by billionaires and politicians. That is what made him more charismatic and more interesting than everyone else, those people were following etiquette and protocol and although maybe they would cuss or joke they were not abrasive. That impulsive yell communicated loud and clear to all around him that he just does not give a fuck, which is just the message you should be giving some times.
When people are talking about something and really in the conversation, it's been going on for a while etc. you should follow the flow and add on. When you feel that the people you are with and talking to move from topic and topic it either means the flow of the conversation is going amazing and all the topics have some smooth transition or are related, or that there really isn't much to talk about and people keep trying to keep the convo going because continuing with whatever topic is talked about is fruitless since someone can't reciprocate that same energy and attention to it.
You should be taking note from everyone you speak to in live time what they find the most interesting to talk about and how they behave, or what they find funny and use them to transition topics for you, do your talking through others when you've already talked too much. If you are aware of your surroundings and have a good memory for conversations this will be super easy and you can pick this up quick.
Like the practice earlier you can also record yourself talking and play it back after your convo is over w people and listen to you and others talk, give yourself feedback on how much you talked, if you used correct intonation for how you wanted to communicate, rate yourself as you go and watch as you become a seamless communicator.
Humor
Everyone here has made a funny joke in their life that everyone laughed at, so it's not necessarily a "you got it or you don't" kinda thing but it kind of is at the same time. Humor can be taught, anyone who says otherwise is a retard. Comedians literally study that shit and live for it. You should watch some comedy shows and understand that even some of the highest paying comedians, are just not fucking funny.
To you.
So learn who you find funny and take note of what they talk about and how they communicate their jokes, set up the audience and their story to tell a joke, etc.
On top of that, what makes something funny is usually an equal split of the timing in conversation / event, how it's said and who says it. If you just suck at talking then you won't be funny, humor should be last on your list like it's last on this. Focus on body language first then try speech and this.
That summarizes my guide for charisma, to end it with a bang I have a few notes and a little list of some of the most charismatic people in history that I can think of right now:
1. Adolf Hitler - Literally swayed an entire nation to follow his every word. Incredible charisma, he would be an absolute killer today as a CEO of any company, could have been a great force for good. Also good chance he'd be on .org if he was born today, he completely killed that mustache look forever, was socially awkward growing up and liked to be peed on.
2. Barack Obama - Fuck this guy but if you watch any of his presidential speeches, you would get the point immediately. Probably top 10 communicators of the past 100 years.
3. Arnold Schwarzenegger - If you have watched the movie "Pumping Iron" which is free on YT, you can see how charismatic Arnold was compared to the rest of the bodybuilders in it. He did not have so much to say but his spunk personality, funny accent and animated face and movement made him charismatic.
4. Jared Leto - Horrible joker, great communicator. He has a cult following for a reason.
5. Steve Jobs - HEAVY on Steve. Do not sleep on him, he may not have been the best person but even his own employees made heavy declarations of how much of an impact he had. He would not just "walk" into a room for a meeting, the room would move AROUND him. That is how charismatic he was, people felt like space was bending around him.
6. Princess Diana - As a woman you think there isn't a lot you can learn from her since most of us are guys, but there really is a lot to learn because she is the most classy royal caught on camera ever. So much charm and she had a great sense of style, she got killed off by her own RIP. Great example of what kind of role models young women should have.
7. Jack Harlow - Does not talk the way you would expect him to, he looks like a nerd without those earrings and J's.
That about summarizes this entire guide, if you put these to use, you will see results. I put a lot of emphasis here on reading those 2 books on body language, and also recording yourself talking, and observing. In 1 month you will be a completely different person.
So you realize even though you're 6'6 and a chad you still act awkward and sometimes when you're hanging out with your manlet homie he gets more attention. That's because of something magical called charisma. Being charismatic can make or break a lot of your social experiences, whether you take that girl home from the club, whether you get that job, become friends with that guy who has more money than you and you could learn a lot from or even whether or not you get along w a girl's parents or friends.
This guide will give you a simple but effective breakdown on what I believe are the main 3 components that make someone charismatic, and how you can learn this behavior.
Disclaimer: I am not some sort of harvard nerd that spent 10 years conducting research, if you find this thread useless then go read some other shit because i literally do not care, this is information that anyone and everyone can benefit from so you must be a roomtempiqcel if it isn't helpful.
Body Language
Our communication breaks down as the following:
7% is the words we use
38% is our tone and voice
And 55% is our body language.
Body language is absolutely crucial to understand because it is far more responsible for how you are perceived than the words you say. Two books that are good on body language:
1. Body Language: How to Read Others' Thoughts by Their Gestures
2. What Every Body Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People
Really all you need but there are others if you feel like reading more.
Your body language should not be still. It should be in flow with the conversation, make sure to use your hands in an animated way and your face can really aid your body language, and when you are listening keep an open body language but face the person you are listening to. Your feet should be pointing towards them, your eyes should be looking directly at them as their speaking, your eye contact should be intentional and not passive.
Speech / Voice
I pray you're not that retarded that you're genuinely sitting on an incel forum and trying to learn the importance of speech. You should know the difference between a good and bad communicator, thus I will continue as if you have a basic understanding and touch on the following:
1. How to improve your speech
This can be applied to body language as well and you should actually do both together.
Take your phone and open up your camera app, and record with your BACK CAMERA. Not your front camera. You should not be able to see yourself in live time while you do this because it will fuck w your brain in the beginning and it will not be natural as you will constantly be faking your natural body language, speech, and voice tonality to sound better and look better to yourself as you do it.
Start recording, pick a topic and just talk.
Remember to talk with your body as well, I would aim for 5 minutes ideally, the longer the better really but you can shorten this down to as low as a minute a day. Aim for 3 at the very least.
Look back at your recording daily and watch it, you will notice just how awkward your speech can be, how weird your voice sounds, and also how stiff your body language can be.
Sticking with this small practice can make a day and night difference in your body language and speech in just as little as a few weeks. You will completely transform, and if you don't chances are your communication was already good.
2. When to talk
Sometimes just SHUT THE FUCK UP. Nobody likes a fake ass motherfucker and people can sniff them from a mile away, maybe not you because you probably don't socialize but I'm sure lots of you reading all had just at least 1 person from class / work / social circle that just popped in your mind as you read that.
When you are with a group of people, or on a date, you do not want to be the center of attention. Charisma does not mean "Hey look at me I talk a lot !! Listen !! I am so funny and humorous and swing my arms like a monkey !!" Charisma means you have more of an impact with your words, straight up. So if you want your words to have an impact you need to choose them carefully and timing is important too.
When you are in a talkative environment, bring your words to few but speak in a way that makes it look like you have more to say than others, but won't speak until you have everyone's undivided attention. This abstract behavior can work some times and not others so you really need to pick and choose when to practice this, for example this won't really work at a college party but it would work excellently at a social event with family or your church, class, etc.
And vice versa: when your surroundings are quieter and people around you speak little, you have the opportunity to give them someone to talk to and entertain them. Sometimes the vibes are just dead and people are bored, there's no point in being the one to put in effort and actually making things more lively, is what those people think. But really it's just a ground level opportunity for you to appear charismatic and perform. Again situation matters, do not try to be Kevin Hart at a funeral or during a class lecture, class clowns are literally just clowns.
There are no books to read on this and that would be a huge waste of time, you could learn more in just a few weekend parties than reading a book over the course of a month.
3. What to talk about
Jeffrey Epstein was known for randomly shouting "LET'S TALK ABOUT PUSSY!" whenever a conversation dulled him. Even at high class events and dinner parties where he would be surrounded by billionaires and politicians. That is what made him more charismatic and more interesting than everyone else, those people were following etiquette and protocol and although maybe they would cuss or joke they were not abrasive. That impulsive yell communicated loud and clear to all around him that he just does not give a fuck, which is just the message you should be giving some times.
When people are talking about something and really in the conversation, it's been going on for a while etc. you should follow the flow and add on. When you feel that the people you are with and talking to move from topic and topic it either means the flow of the conversation is going amazing and all the topics have some smooth transition or are related, or that there really isn't much to talk about and people keep trying to keep the convo going because continuing with whatever topic is talked about is fruitless since someone can't reciprocate that same energy and attention to it.
You should be taking note from everyone you speak to in live time what they find the most interesting to talk about and how they behave, or what they find funny and use them to transition topics for you, do your talking through others when you've already talked too much. If you are aware of your surroundings and have a good memory for conversations this will be super easy and you can pick this up quick.
Like the practice earlier you can also record yourself talking and play it back after your convo is over w people and listen to you and others talk, give yourself feedback on how much you talked, if you used correct intonation for how you wanted to communicate, rate yourself as you go and watch as you become a seamless communicator.
Humor
Everyone here has made a funny joke in their life that everyone laughed at, so it's not necessarily a "you got it or you don't" kinda thing but it kind of is at the same time. Humor can be taught, anyone who says otherwise is a retard. Comedians literally study that shit and live for it. You should watch some comedy shows and understand that even some of the highest paying comedians, are just not fucking funny.
To you.
So learn who you find funny and take note of what they talk about and how they communicate their jokes, set up the audience and their story to tell a joke, etc.
On top of that, what makes something funny is usually an equal split of the timing in conversation / event, how it's said and who says it. If you just suck at talking then you won't be funny, humor should be last on your list like it's last on this. Focus on body language first then try speech and this.
That summarizes my guide for charisma, to end it with a bang I have a few notes and a little list of some of the most charismatic people in history that I can think of right now:
1. Adolf Hitler - Literally swayed an entire nation to follow his every word. Incredible charisma, he would be an absolute killer today as a CEO of any company, could have been a great force for good. Also good chance he'd be on .org if he was born today, he completely killed that mustache look forever, was socially awkward growing up and liked to be peed on.
2. Barack Obama - Fuck this guy but if you watch any of his presidential speeches, you would get the point immediately. Probably top 10 communicators of the past 100 years.
3. Arnold Schwarzenegger - If you have watched the movie "Pumping Iron" which is free on YT, you can see how charismatic Arnold was compared to the rest of the bodybuilders in it. He did not have so much to say but his spunk personality, funny accent and animated face and movement made him charismatic.
4. Jared Leto - Horrible joker, great communicator. He has a cult following for a reason.
5. Steve Jobs - HEAVY on Steve. Do not sleep on him, he may not have been the best person but even his own employees made heavy declarations of how much of an impact he had. He would not just "walk" into a room for a meeting, the room would move AROUND him. That is how charismatic he was, people felt like space was bending around him.
6. Princess Diana - As a woman you think there isn't a lot you can learn from her since most of us are guys, but there really is a lot to learn because she is the most classy royal caught on camera ever. So much charm and she had a great sense of style, she got killed off by her own RIP. Great example of what kind of role models young women should have.
7. Jack Harlow - Does not talk the way you would expect him to, he looks like a nerd without those earrings and J's.
That about summarizes this entire guide, if you put these to use, you will see results. I put a lot of emphasis here on reading those 2 books on body language, and also recording yourself talking, and observing. In 1 month you will be a completely different person.
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better books to read than Mein Kampf but I will get to it in the future.
