SntDomistheRealChad
Did you just call me a little bitch?
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If you have social anxiety you may feel fine for awhile and think you maybe even don’t have social anxiety, but without CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) it will creep up at milestone changing events.
Milestone events truthfully are the only events that matter in life. The ones where you got punked and weren’t able to stand up for yourself, exiling yourself from female attraction, or were forced to take a lower position or pay at work.
The problem is you thought you were okay because it hadn’t effected you in awhile and maybe 6 months to a couple years went by and you hadn’t done anything about the social anxiety. Then bam, the milestone event comes and you realize you’ve wasted 2 years.
Key: Nothing matters if you have social anxiety, that must be understood. The only thing that matters is getting over it because all will be taken from you at some point in time if you ever receive anything.
Realize that you always know everyday if you have social anxiety or not. Just picture yourself in a milestone event and think about how you would react, that’s how you tell if you have social anxiety or not. I’m not saying you will be randomly surprised with the SA and now you need to worry if you really have it.
If you think you will get over social anxiety by putting yourself in more social situations and “exhausting” the social anxiety out of yourself you are putting yourself in an extremely dangerous situation where abused dog and social PTSD will likely result instead of progress. You must be able to function socially without any external circumstance. Social isolation must not change you, you must remain the same regardless of external stimuli.
Imagine our example Bob:
Bob has SA. He imagines he will get over it through desensitization. He goes out and embarrasses himself over and over and thinks that he will eventually become desensitized to the embarrassment. It takes him 8 years to build up his social circle before he realizes that desensitization did nothing for him. Add on the fact that he know has abused dog syndrome on top of social anxiety (they can be separate) and his whole friend group has no respect for him so it was useless to build it up. Know what you are doing first and you will incrementally make progress instead.
Milestone events truthfully are the only events that matter in life. The ones where you got punked and weren’t able to stand up for yourself, exiling yourself from female attraction, or were forced to take a lower position or pay at work.
The problem is you thought you were okay because it hadn’t effected you in awhile and maybe 6 months to a couple years went by and you hadn’t done anything about the social anxiety. Then bam, the milestone event comes and you realize you’ve wasted 2 years.
Key: Nothing matters if you have social anxiety, that must be understood. The only thing that matters is getting over it because all will be taken from you at some point in time if you ever receive anything.
Realize that you always know everyday if you have social anxiety or not. Just picture yourself in a milestone event and think about how you would react, that’s how you tell if you have social anxiety or not. I’m not saying you will be randomly surprised with the SA and now you need to worry if you really have it.
If you think you will get over social anxiety by putting yourself in more social situations and “exhausting” the social anxiety out of yourself you are putting yourself in an extremely dangerous situation where abused dog and social PTSD will likely result instead of progress. You must be able to function socially without any external circumstance. Social isolation must not change you, you must remain the same regardless of external stimuli.
Imagine our example Bob:
Bob has SA. He imagines he will get over it through desensitization. He goes out and embarrasses himself over and over and thinks that he will eventually become desensitized to the embarrassment. It takes him 8 years to build up his social circle before he realizes that desensitization did nothing for him. Add on the fact that he know has abused dog syndrome on top of social anxiety (they can be separate) and his whole friend group has no respect for him so it was useless to build it up. Know what you are doing first and you will incrementally make progress instead.
