This forum pushes me closer to becoming a NEET

[Foreverbrad]

The barrier of entry in tech is high but once you're in, the pay to stress ratio can be good if you pick your roles carefully. A lot of people work remote, and have tons of flexibility especially if you're in backend, DevOps like me or cloud roles. I have seen people making £60k-£100k+ in London right from the get go within 2-3 years

And if you plan it right, you can coast with contract work or 6-9 month gigs then take breaks in between that is also common.

Yeah £60-100k is 15-20 year experience pay in mech eng and the Senior and Principal guys do so much more work too. With how UK tax works, it’s not as much more money as it seems either unless you stuff your pension but fuck that.

£100k is £54k after tax and a 5% contribution.
My £43k salary is £32k after the same. So crazy that increasing my salary by 2.4 times would only result in a 70% increase in my actual income.

Those senior guys are definitely doing way more than 70% more work.

I don't know your personal situation, but neet lifestyle is cortisol inducing. At least for me.

People around you will life mog you. People who you went to school with will post their accomplishments, while you watch from your old childhood bedroom.

Unless you're giga chad, being a neet with no visible ambitions will also nuke your chances with women. It'll be harder to make friends as well.
Also your life will probably become a cycle of YouTube, rotting on forums, gaming, jerking off and maybe occasionally going to the gym.

Unless you have a clear cut plan for what you want to do instead of the normie wage life, I think most are better off with that.

Learned helplessness and feeling sorry for your starting position isn't going to help you. Either you are unhappy with your situation, analyze the reasons for that, demonstrate the will to change and then execute, or you'll just slowly wither away.

People around me are life mogging me anyway even though I work. Most normies have about a 5-10 year head start on me due to how much of my 20s I spent NEETing (depression and then COVID). They also have a massive advantage in being able to get and keep LTR which essentially doubles their purchasing power of the big ticket items Car and House,

Part of the point of NEET is to remove myself from that unhappy comparison and remain secluded. I have a whole list of things I can do for pocket money it’s just I don’t relish the thought of paying 60% tax on them right now if I do them as side hustles.

 

[The Centipede]

Title: Tbh I was raised by my parents to fight for everything to study hard, land a good job and build a successful life To them success meant stability, money, and respect. And I’ve carried that mindset with me all along

But every time I log onto the forum, I see people glorifying the NEET lifestyle living stress-free, detached from the grind, and seemingly content. Honestly, I’m jealous of people like @optimisticzoomer who can live that way without a hint of anxiety.

The thing is, I could do it too. My dad is rich and my family has multiple income sources I could retire to live a comfortable life right now if I somehow convince my parents and if I really wanted to but after working so hard for my degree and everything it feels like it would be a disservice to myself and my parents to just give it all up and rot away

Sounds like a new money mindset. If money hasn’t been in a family for that long they still value ambition and hard work.

Don’t worry too much about it, especially if you don’t have to be so competitive.
But don’t become an absolute rotter or alcoholic/ druggie. . You are a smart guy, don’t overthink other people’s opinions and values.
Do what makes you happy man.

 

[Acquiescence]

Best of luck in whatever you choose

As I’ve told you before, personally I’d run to the NEET life and never look back in a heartbeat. I will spend fucking decades (after dropping mid-upper 5 figs on facial surgeries in the latter half of my 20s) dreaming of the day I can finally retire

Regardless, if you do go the wagecuck life route, whatever you ultimately settle on - for the love of god do not become a blue collar construction cuck

My body hurts every day, I have to wake up at the crack ass of dawn to commute to far flung job sites, I sometimes work with very questionable individuals to say the least, every step I take and every movement is endlessly questioned and critiqued, and I have to (most days) earn every fucking penny of my paycheck with blood sweat and tears. I will eventually make decent money but at what cost

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been to some cool jobsites, worked with some awesome guys, and have had memorable days at work - but it’s mostly unadulterated pain and suffering

Choose wisely amigo