Thoughts On Human Selfishness and Relationships

[NuclearGeo20]

Humans only care about things that benefit their emotions.

Humans lack the capacity to care for others, due to their selfish nature.

Humans didnt choose to be selfish. They were born that way.

We all want want to be loved, cared for, and care for someone else. We are all looking for happiness and fun.

We all want to feel included.

Although our feelings are superficial, they feel real.

Humans don't care for your emotions, they care about how you make them feel.

If you dont hit the requirements for another human, they wont want to be with you.

If you do hit the requirements for another human they will want to be with you.

If they are with you, they wanted you.

If they arent with you, they didnt want you.

They can choose who to be with, whether they want you or someone else.

They didnt decide to be selfish, they were born that way.

Blaming a human for following its nature is similar to blaming a printer for printing. Its weak philosophically

Humans feel good in relationships where there is genuine attraction.

Feeling good leads to genuine interactions and connections.

Whether a person likes you for your personality or your looks, they are still acting in a selfish manner. (Would they like you if you had a bad personality?)

If humans act selfishly vs unselfishly in order to achieve happiness, it wouldn't matter because the end result is still the same (satisfaction and happiness).

A man feels better with a partner.

A women feels better with a partner.


My philosophy: Since I feel better with a partner, and since the partner didnt choose to be selfish, and since they chose to be with me, and our interaction and relationship leads to real feelings of genuine interaction and fulfillment, it would be stupid to deny myself a relationship just because it's "selfish".

 

[NuclearGeo20]

@Orc

Valid or am I coping?

 

[NuclearGeo20]

Think about it like this.

Wanting to pee and relieve yourself is superficial but the feelings you experience- the peeing, the pain you have holding it in, the feeling after youre done and the pain is gone, those are very real

Wanting to eat is superficial- The feeling of hunger in your stomach, the feeling once you take that first bite, the last, the feeling after, it's all very real despite it fulfilling a superficial urge.

The problem was never that love is selfish, the problem is that people mog each other, leaving the weak to suffer.

Injustice is the problem, not selfishness

 

[buddhistking]

Its also the same reason humans procreate, which is arguably the most selfish thing you can do

 

[NuclearGeo20]

Its also the same reason humans procreate, which is arguably the most selfish thing you can do

you can have sex without having a child; through a vasectomy

 

[NuclearGeo20]

Its also the same reason humans procreate, which is arguably the most selfish thing you can do

also sex by itself is not harmful to anyone; but having children can be very harmful

It all comes down to the question of "should you sacrifice your "desire" to have a child, for the sake of not harming them".

 

[buddhistking]

you can have sex without having a child; through a vasectomy

also sex by itself is not harmful to anyone; but having children can be very harmful

It all comes down to the question of "should you sacrifice your "desire" to have a child, for the sake of not harming them".

I wasn't speaking about the act of sex itself although it is also quite a violent act with alot of emotions that even consensually can cause emotional harm, traumas, unhealthy attachment etc

And if someone was being altruistic, they would see that the guaranteed and potential suffering of their child and the suffering they inflict to others is not worth it for their "desire"

 

[NuclearGeo20]

I wasn't speaking about the act of sex itself although it is also quite a violent act with alot of emotions that even consensually can cause emotional harm, traumas, unhealthy attachment etc

And if someone was being altruistic, they would see that the guaranteed and potential suffering of their child and the suffering they inflict to others is not worth it for their "desire"

Sex isn't violent, society and injustice are violent