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dimomissedme
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I’ve learnt from experience with women many things. Some being the following. Women *seem* to be inherently hypergamous. It appears their desire to have the best possible option in the dating market effortlessly transcends any feeling of connection, emotional attachment or empathy towards their current/previous “love”, simply because a more suitable option appeared. This seems to be the driver behind the phenomenon many encounter when a woman loses interest as soon as the man shows complete interest, vulnerability or commitment. It’s as if this opening up by the man displays clearly to the woman that she is his best option, therefore there is a chance she can do better than him. Observing history and current society shows us that women always go for the highest quality fraction of men rather than their settling for their own quality, and they would rather share these men with other hypergamous women alike, rather than having a man similar in sexual market value to themselves, all to themselves. I never held it against women for not dating at their own level or below because it’s obviously an evolutionary benefit to humanity and that specific person/person’s offspring - but there is a part of this model of sexual nature that is particularly scary to me. What i am talking about is the level of constant emotional disturbance one feels not being able to express themselves and be genuine and honest with women. Part of me thinks that this is my own doing - not being able to wait, stay indifferent to women who are not able to handle this kind of relationship - but this conflicts with the other idea in my mind that the act, the mask is the only emotional burden, not the manipulation or lack of commitment (therefore men who get all the women that they desire, and more, do not have this burden since they really do not feel the need or the gratitude to having connections with women due to the sheer abundance and also access to higher quality partners. This story of true love seems like a long lost fairy tale at this point. Many argue that the cause of this problem is social media or modern society, but I believe that the issue is much deeper rooted in evolutionary biology and sexual nature, and rather is merely exacerbated by modern society. All I want is to experience true, honest and emotionally open connection - but it seems too unrealistic and as though I’m only allowing myself to easily be hurt and made a fool. This is not to say that women aren’t attracted to me and I’m a sad lonely incel. I’ve had many women throw themselves at me and consistently have more dating success than majority of my peers. But this apparently modern form of relationship is not fulfilling and seems to be more of a burden than a gift.
