CopingGymcelTrajan
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PART 1 (girl from winter):
To give some background, I talked to this girl. Shorter, similar interests, looksmatch, IQ gap was pretty big but I see myself as a decent teacher and I could have helped her become smarter pretty easily. Anyways, we went out, I came off as too ND and she got creeped out before going back to her ex just 5 days later.
Fast forward to 4 weeks ago. It’s her birthday. I sent her a happy birthday message to try and get something going. She responded with “thank you love” so I initiated a convo again. We started talking, and everything was going pretty good. I asked her out on a date, she accepted, and we went out. Got her a decent gift, tried being more NT, left out any psycho shit I have going on in my head every single day. I genuinely thought I was great.
Two days later, same story. She ghosted me. What did I see in her IG notes? “Stop showing up in my dreams and text me.” This fucking bitch was talking about her ex. (Same one as before btw) And she told me that he cheated on her and also made fun of him with me, calling his fits atrocious, just to run back to him.
Conclusion: I’m a fucking DORK.
Part 2 (classmate):
Beautiful girl in my class, universally, she would be seen as mtb at best, but in my eyes, she was great. I tried initiating a few convos in person, some worked, some didn’t. Fast forward to prom night, I asked 2 of her friends if she has a boyfriend (since I believed she did at the time and didn’t wanna jump in other people’s relationships) because I wanted to take her for a dance. Their answer was no. Huge mistake to ask that.
Took her for a dance anyways. She didn’t have much energy so I backed off. 2 minutes later, she danced with my hmtn friend, all smiles and energy. Fast forward to today, I was playing 8 ball pool at a nice place with said friend who has zero interest in her btw. He remembers at one point that after prom, we all went to the club and when I went to take a leak, she asked him if I liked her. He obviously said that he didn’t know.
Today, I told him to subtly ask her what made her think I liked her, just to know that if the cat was already out the bag, I could at least know her thoughts on it to see if I should make a move or not. The two friends I asked snitched on me and she’s creeped out.
Conclusion: I’m genuinely fucked. All I can do is be thankful that I only have to see her at school for the next 3 days before summer break starts.
More of a vent post, but share some advice if you want to.
To give some background, I talked to this girl. Shorter, similar interests, looksmatch, IQ gap was pretty big but I see myself as a decent teacher and I could have helped her become smarter pretty easily. Anyways, we went out, I came off as too ND and she got creeped out before going back to her ex just 5 days later.
Fast forward to 4 weeks ago. It’s her birthday. I sent her a happy birthday message to try and get something going. She responded with “thank you love” so I initiated a convo again. We started talking, and everything was going pretty good. I asked her out on a date, she accepted, and we went out. Got her a decent gift, tried being more NT, left out any psycho shit I have going on in my head every single day. I genuinely thought I was great.
Two days later, same story. She ghosted me. What did I see in her IG notes? “Stop showing up in my dreams and text me.” This fucking bitch was talking about her ex. (Same one as before btw) And she told me that he cheated on her and also made fun of him with me, calling his fits atrocious, just to run back to him.
Conclusion: I’m a fucking DORK.
Part 2 (classmate):
Beautiful girl in my class, universally, she would be seen as mtb at best, but in my eyes, she was great. I tried initiating a few convos in person, some worked, some didn’t. Fast forward to prom night, I asked 2 of her friends if she has a boyfriend (since I believed she did at the time and didn’t wanna jump in other people’s relationships) because I wanted to take her for a dance. Their answer was no. Huge mistake to ask that.
Took her for a dance anyways. She didn’t have much energy so I backed off. 2 minutes later, she danced with my hmtn friend, all smiles and energy. Fast forward to today, I was playing 8 ball pool at a nice place with said friend who has zero interest in her btw. He remembers at one point that after prom, we all went to the club and when I went to take a leak, she asked him if I liked her. He obviously said that he didn’t know.
Today, I told him to subtly ask her what made her think I liked her, just to know that if the cat was already out the bag, I could at least know her thoughts on it to see if I should make a move or not. The two friends I asked snitched on me and she’s creeped out.
Conclusion: I’m genuinely fucked. All I can do is be thankful that I only have to see her at school for the next 3 days before summer break starts.
More of a vent post, but share some advice if you want to.
