MAPridelover
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I'm always told by people, especially my sister, that I have a victim mentality, but I swear I don't. People are always disrespectful to me and just use me for my homework answers, then throw me away when I can't or won't give them. Of course, I have a few friends that I associate with and like, but besides that, people are generally shitty to me, especially women.
I also notice that people treat me worse and have less tolerance for me than they do for other people. I ask a question and get responses like, "Oh, pay attention, isn't that obvious? What do you think? I don't know. You should have listened when I said it one time three months ago." An attractive Asian girl at my school gets, "Always, of course. Do you need more clarification?" Mind you, I am a 4.0 student and am usually pretty quiet.
To test my theory, I went on a website called Omegle to compare my experiences with an attractive white YouTuber that I watch. He got flirtatious girls, chill guys, a few trolls, but overall, it was a fun experience. I tried it and got called a terrorist because I'm Arab, the N word because I have a darker skin tone (though I'm not visibly Black), ugly, and I got instantly skipped. I just had a bad time. Some people were nice, but they got bored of me and had low tolerance, so whenever I said something they perceived as creepy or weird (aka anything because of the halo effect), they skipped.
Omegle is where people act as their real selves due to the lack of societal and social consequences. This displayed what people truly thought of me and confirmed my theory. I do have a victim mentality because society disrespects, dislikes, and overlooks me. My race, attractiveness, minor stutter, neurodivergence, and other factors put me at the bottom of social society.
People who are treated better than me don't have the belief that everyone is against them because everyone isn't against them. It isn't about mindset; it's about their reality vs. mine. That's why the term "victim mentality" exists. People who have never been, and will never be, victimized equate their experiences to those lower on the hierarchy, and whenever someone complains about something, the privileged class assumes that the complainer has had their quality of experience and doesn't deserve to complain.
The only way for me to escape this situation is to simply accept the shallow society I live in, try to move past it, work hard, and find my people, people who are like minded and respectful to me and my circumstances, something I'll be able to do as I graduate high school and gain independence.
I also notice that people treat me worse and have less tolerance for me than they do for other people. I ask a question and get responses like, "Oh, pay attention, isn't that obvious? What do you think? I don't know. You should have listened when I said it one time three months ago." An attractive Asian girl at my school gets, "Always, of course. Do you need more clarification?" Mind you, I am a 4.0 student and am usually pretty quiet.
To test my theory, I went on a website called Omegle to compare my experiences with an attractive white YouTuber that I watch. He got flirtatious girls, chill guys, a few trolls, but overall, it was a fun experience. I tried it and got called a terrorist because I'm Arab, the N word because I have a darker skin tone (though I'm not visibly Black), ugly, and I got instantly skipped. I just had a bad time. Some people were nice, but they got bored of me and had low tolerance, so whenever I said something they perceived as creepy or weird (aka anything because of the halo effect), they skipped.
Omegle is where people act as their real selves due to the lack of societal and social consequences. This displayed what people truly thought of me and confirmed my theory. I do have a victim mentality because society disrespects, dislikes, and overlooks me. My race, attractiveness, minor stutter, neurodivergence, and other factors put me at the bottom of social society.
People who are treated better than me don't have the belief that everyone is against them because everyone isn't against them. It isn't about mindset; it's about their reality vs. mine. That's why the term "victim mentality" exists. People who have never been, and will never be, victimized equate their experiences to those lower on the hierarchy, and whenever someone complains about something, the privileged class assumes that the complainer has had their quality of experience and doesn't deserve to complain.
The only way for me to escape this situation is to simply accept the shallow society I live in, try to move past it, work hard, and find my people, people who are like minded and respectful to me and my circumstances, something I'll be able to do as I graduate high school and gain independence.
