What does falling in Love feel like?

[übermog]

Also is it a permanent feeling, or does it go away and come back at random times?

depending if your love is true and how strong it is, most love is just phyiscal attraction, if you truly love someone its either the best thing in the world or the worst thing in the world depnding on wether your love is answered or not

 

[übermog]

im telling you, loving someone is a blessing and a curse at the same time

 

[greycel]

not sure
ive been in relationships but i can never really reciprocate the love they have for me back because im just so caught up on them validating my looks and being the best looking male they've been with , thats all i look for atp
its somewhat worrying bcz im not sure if ill have a normal rs again

After a certain point you got to be strong enough to be vulnerable
Unironically true in this case

Because a mindset that revolves solely around physical appearance will not just feed into an ego, that’ll inhibit you in other areas of life (you will never reach the max ceiling you could’ve been - richest, strongest, smartest)… but it will also prevent you from maintaining a relationship, because your priorities are out of order

Their happiness comes from spending time with you and connecting with you, not how good you look. That’s only required for the initial hurdle

 

[übermog]

Sickening how?

"what reason do i even have to live if i cant be with her"

 

[trashbinxoxo]

Horrible

 

[greycel]

im telling you, loving someone is a blessing and a curse at the same time

Can you explain this more?
Is it a curse because you know you are weak to her? That you aren’t in control. But it’s a blessing because you truly care for her

 

[greycel]

Horrible

You got a story?

 

[axttt_]

After a certain point you got to be strong enough to be vulnerable
Unironically true in this case

Because a mindset that revolves solely around physical appearance will not just feed into an ego, that’ll inhibit you in other areas of life (you will never reach the max ceiling you could’ve been - richest, strongest, smartest)… but it will also prevent you from maintaining a relationship, because your priorities are out of order

Their happiness comes from spending time with you and connecting with you, not how good you look. That’s only required for the initial hurdle

being around this shit for so long has made me truly fall into an idea that i won't be able to maintain a relationship regardless with a girl who doesn't look like my actual shit if im not 7+ facially at least , not too sure how to reverse such a mindset
This belief is most likely wrong just based off anecdote that i see IRL

But about wanting to feed into an limiting me , wouldn't that potentially have the opposite of me wanting to max out every metric i can to to feed into that ego and fill the insecurity more

 

[straighthairflockz]

Anybody ever fell in love before?
If you have, can you explain the feeling?

Also is it a permanent feeling, or does it go away and come back at random times?

since im sick w ts i cant even remember

 

[trashbinxoxo]

You got a story?

Everything good I had gets taken away from me

 

[übermog]

Can you explain this more?
Is it a curse because you know you are weak to her? That you aren’t in control. But it’s a blessing because you truly care for her

blessing because:

just the act of loving someone gives happiness, i am so happy that i love her, even if the love is onesided
if you are with the love of your life, you are invicible, theres not one thing better in this world that being with your true love

curse because:

if you arent with your love, you want to commit suicide (not joking)
if something happens to your love, either in the sense of the person getting hurt, or in the sense of your love getting weaker, you will be terribly vulnerable
because the girl you love has all of you in her hands, my love has an amount of controll over me that is unbelievable, in my case more on the emotional side, if she told me to walk outside naked i wouldnt do it or something like that but what i mean is that you are emotionally reliant on that person, and true love wont fade, once youve truly fallen in love with someone, youll be cursed until the day of your death or until you two find together or you will be blessed until the day of your death or the day you two are seperated

 

[greycel]

being around this shit for so long has made me truly fall into an idea that i won't be able to maintain a relationship regardless with a girl who doesn't look like my actual shit if im not 7+ facially at least , not too sure how to reverse such a mindset
This belief is most likely wrong just based off anecdote that i see IRL

But about wanting to feed into an limiting me , wouldn't that potentially have the opposite of me wanting to max out every metric i can to to feed into that ego and fill the insecurity more

For your first point, yeah it’s not even about how good you look to society. It’s about subjective types. You might be a 4 but a girl will choose you over a Chad, because you are her specific type.
Going up the looks scale (according to society’s ideas of looks), will just mean you have a higher % chance of being most other women’s subjective type - but it’ll never be 100% even if you are Gigachad.
And it doesn’t matter looking better, because you already have a gf (you don’t need validation from other women) + you pass the looks threshold for her attraction


For your second point, no, because you’ll never reach the height no matter how hard you try if you are unknowingly holding yourself back. You being held back without you knowing, from the time you waste on trying to look better instead of improving whatever domain you want to… to you acting emotionally rather than logically in situations where it’s better to be humble (not you specifically, a general person who has an ego)… and many more reasons - such as lack of friends perhaps cuz ego scares them away

The total effect of this far surpasses your desire to be great. That stuff is glorified in media and idolised, but it’s the equivalent to for example somebody saying “they see red” when they get into a fight.
No amount of surface-level determination (ignorance fueled by ego), would ever be close to enough to reach your max

 

[übermog]

like if a friend of yours didnt reply for a day, you wouldnt care, but if your love doesnt reply within an hour youll be either on top of a bridge or be preparing a fiasp overdose because of how terrible it feels being without her

 

[truthhurts]

KHHV, can’t relate to your question

 

[straighthairflockz]

blessing because:

just the act of loving someone gives happiness, i am so happy that i love her, even if the love is onesided
if you are with the love of your life, you are invicible, theres not one thing better in this world that being with your true love

curse because:

if you arent with your love, you want to commit suicide (not joking)
if something happens to your love, either in the sense of the person getting hurt, or in the sense of your love getting weaker, you will be terribly vulnerable
because the girl you love has all of you in her hands, my love has an amount of controll over me that is unbelievable, in my case more on the emotional side, if she told me to walk outside naked i wouldnt do it or something like that but what i mean is that you are emotionally reliant on that person, and true love wont fade, once youve truly fallen in love with someone, youll be cursed until the day of your death or until you two find together or you will be blessed until the day of your death or the day you two are seperated

halbe Bibel ganzer huen

 

[SchizoParanoid_]

never tried cocaine, but i think that coke would feel like how i felt when i was in love, life just became 5x times more enjoyable for me, its like colors were brighter, and my heart would skip a beat everytime she said "i love you" (im not kidding, it actually skipped a beat), it felt so good that i would walk around with a smile 24/7 like a retard, it also felt incredibly nice to just have a bad day but having her there to cheer me up, in my case tho, falling in love made me somewhat docile, i used to get in trouble a lot, but i guess she kinda tamed me (twilight ahh line ik), im only noting the good parts, there are bads but no one cares about those.
ultimately tho, staying there would have been bad for me in the long run

 

[greycel]

never tried cocaine, but i think that coke would feel like how i felt when i was in love, life just became 5x times more enjoyable for me, its like colors were brighter, and my heart would skip a beat everytime she said "i love you" (im not kidding, it actually skipped a beat), it felt so good that i would walk around with a smile 24/7 like a retard, it also felt incredibly nice to just have a bad day but having her there to cheer me up, in my case tho, falling in love made me somewhat docile, i used to get in trouble a lot, but i guess she kinda tamed me (twilight ahh line ik), im only noting the good parts, there are bads but no one cares about those.
ultimately tho, staying there would have been bad for me in the long run

I was in a very similar situation to you, but the only difference is I didn’t allow myself to fall for her, because I knew how difficult the breakup would be:

I was on the verge of falling in love once a long time ago, but I kept myself in check last minute (couldn’t see myself marrying this chick)
But I recall it being very blissful

I feel I would’ve turned into you if I did. A guy who can’t get over his ex

 

[SchizoParanoid_]

I was in a very similar situation to you, but the only difference is I didn’t allow myself to fall for her, because I knew how difficult the breakup would be:

you cant choose to fall or not to fall, you either do or you dont

I feel I would’ve turned into you if I did. A guy who can’t get over his ex

i am infact getting over her, i dont regret loving her and hurting for her, i firmly believe pain is one of the greatest motivators to make a change (whether that change is good or bad depends on the individual), and i also dont blame myself for having taking so long to start to move on, i was with her for 2 years, she was my first and teen love, not something that you can brush off ngl

 

[Deleted member 94368]

Anybody ever fell in love before?
If you have, can you explain the feeling?

Also is it a permanent feeling, or does it go away and come back at random times?

Permanent orgasm but disgusting and depressing when she doesn’t like u back

 

[greycel]

Permanent orgasm but disgusting and depressing when she doesn’t like u back

Everybody has been saying it’s disgusting and depressing

I understand depressing, but how would it be disgusting?