basechad33
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I am 29 Years old with Aspergers. I am mentioning that because I have spent the last two decades being unable to function in normal society which is the core reason why I have been forced into loneliness. You see, a male's sexual desirability is not based on superficial traits alone (like looks, money, or status), but the way he presents himself to a certain woman at that specific point in time. For instance, at one of the first companies I worked at I was doing very well. I was "buddies" with the owner because he was also an Aspie and he had a sense that I looked up to him which caused us to form a bond that nobody else there had. There was a girl there that looked and acted like she was a former stripper that approached me when I was in the shop loading up my truck and was flirting with me and extremely enthusiastic for some reason. I was unable to open up to her and had a complete shutdown to the point where I couldn't say anything at all for about 30 seconds. I actually don't remember how long it lasted because my mind went completely blank. Yeah, I was that visibly autistic, but in a way that was controlled and not causing problems to anyone else.
Anyways months later she would start a habit of calling me and then apologizing for it just to mess with me. She was married and had no reason to be doing this. I would become slightly more open in a way that allowed me to discuss things that were related to the job but I still didn't open up personally. This kind of "push/pull" tension where the guy is aloof and does not chase women is actually what turns women on the most. I had a chick that normally would have never gave me the light of day in any other situation come on to me just for the thrill of the chase. What I have learned is that the moment you chase women, is the moment you become desperate. When you are indifferent and closed minded, they sense that and are emotionally pulled to discover why you aren't opening up like every other guy. Keep in mind I'm just an average guy that works with my hands for a living.
It's not about looks, money, status, or even game. It's about making an emotional connection with the right woman at the right time. Women are attracted to a man based on the way he makes her feel emotionally. My advice to guys to avoid wasting valuable years from their adult life trying to meet girls is to go somewhere where there is an abundance of women in broad daylight where you don't have to even look for them. Then approach every single one you find attractive and do not change who you are around them or intentionally try to behave "confident". If an autistic incel loser like me can make a girl have tingles just by being myself and not trying, so can you. There is no universal consensus of what makes humans attracted to each other. It is not a game where the 120 IQ guy with big muscles and perfect social skills gets all the women thinking about him. That guy is usually just only rewarded with sex because of female lust, but those women may not necessarily be emotionally connected to that guy. It's actually quite hard to have a connection with someone that is at the top of the leaderboard of life and has it made with no real struggles at all. That is why being average and optimizing yourself is actually the sweet spot. The whole point of life for men is not to get laid with random women but to form bonds with them and raise children with them. We wouldn't be here today if men just pursued self gratification and left knocked up bitches behind in caves to live in squallar by themselves.
Anyways months later she would start a habit of calling me and then apologizing for it just to mess with me. She was married and had no reason to be doing this. I would become slightly more open in a way that allowed me to discuss things that were related to the job but I still didn't open up personally. This kind of "push/pull" tension where the guy is aloof and does not chase women is actually what turns women on the most. I had a chick that normally would have never gave me the light of day in any other situation come on to me just for the thrill of the chase. What I have learned is that the moment you chase women, is the moment you become desperate. When you are indifferent and closed minded, they sense that and are emotionally pulled to discover why you aren't opening up like every other guy. Keep in mind I'm just an average guy that works with my hands for a living.
It's not about looks, money, status, or even game. It's about making an emotional connection with the right woman at the right time. Women are attracted to a man based on the way he makes her feel emotionally. My advice to guys to avoid wasting valuable years from their adult life trying to meet girls is to go somewhere where there is an abundance of women in broad daylight where you don't have to even look for them. Then approach every single one you find attractive and do not change who you are around them or intentionally try to behave "confident". If an autistic incel loser like me can make a girl have tingles just by being myself and not trying, so can you. There is no universal consensus of what makes humans attracted to each other. It is not a game where the 120 IQ guy with big muscles and perfect social skills gets all the women thinking about him. That guy is usually just only rewarded with sex because of female lust, but those women may not necessarily be emotionally connected to that guy. It's actually quite hard to have a connection with someone that is at the top of the leaderboard of life and has it made with no real struggles at all. That is why being average and optimizing yourself is actually the sweet spot. The whole point of life for men is not to get laid with random women but to form bonds with them and raise children with them. We wouldn't be here today if men just pursued self gratification and left knocked up bitches behind in caves to live in squallar by themselves.
