What it's like to be a 6'4 guy in India

[Parminder Singh]

This post may be eye-opening for Indian users insecure about their short height. The post serves as a reality check.

Social Context:

It is first of all important to understand the social dynamics of India, which I wrote about in-depth in this post: https://looksmax.org/threads/an-in-depth-look-at-the-dating-culture-of-india.1674957/

But long story short, India is a conservative, patriarchal, low-trust society where women are not that safe. Excluding metro cities, approaching women directly, PDA, and asking for a girl’s number are completely forbidden. Alpha behavior is mostly ineffective and men seduce women by slowly winning their trust. Pre-marital sex is rare, most people live with their parents. Women’s sexuality isn’t openly discussed.

My background:

I am a Punjabi Sikh dude. My standout feature is that I am 6'4 (194 cm) barefoot. But I have a pretty average face and average/lean build. I dress clean but not flashy. And I keep a well groomed beard that's not full.

My experience:

Most buildings, buses, and furniture r made for short men. I have to duck through doorways. I cant buy clothes or shoes from super market or local stores, i only buy from online stores or from established brands like Nike or Duke. Socially, people step aside when I walk. If I tell them to, let's say, pick something up from the ground or close the door, they do it. Other times, if let's says I am reaching for something and someone else is too, I show my hand and they stop and I reach that thing first. I can't escape being tall though, no matter my hobbies or what I do, I am mostly described as that "tall Sikh" or "tall quiet Sikh". There have been times when guys have walked past me and said if I was in their friend group, people would be scared even before any fight, sometimes they say this to me directly. Guys also sometimes tell me not to stand too close to them because I make them look short or because I scare them. Usually, I am chill but if I get even a lil angry, dudes step back immediately.

Once there was a time in Punjab where u could be selected in police if u were just tall, people still believe that, and poor or middle class people often tell me to join police force and how they'll accept me just because i am tall. Some educated folks tell me i should try to study and become a high ranking officer because it will suit me. Sometimes peers ask me how i got tall and i tell them the truth: family genetics, they ask me for advice on how to get taller and i tell them i have none because i never tried. People get suprised and make a disappointed expression when i tell them i dont wanna be an officer. its like individual choice vanishes if ur tall, they expect u to just take their advice. Especially pesky relatives who keep saying the same thing, and i end up insulting them for annoying me. Similarly, in school and college, I was constantly told to become an athlete. Even when I don't do anything, people register me, I learn this later when I interact with them. A downside has been that I can't let myself go, if I act too wild or goofy as a big guy, I get told not to act that way.

Regarding dating and women, it's a mixed bag. People (including women) do notice me when I walk in but they avert their eyes quickly. I've had a few girls engage with me, and two girls in particular approached me. I have had to block two girls because they kept texting me. I have had some girls ask me to come meet them at a spot (in college). I have never approached or flirted with a woman directly. On the other hand, I have also had some women be nervous with me or not respond well. But I don't know if my height plays any role in any of this, because none of them ever mentioned my height. I also went to college with a model girl whom I liked but she didn't like me back, although we had good rapport and I could many times get away with roasting her, like once, I laughed at her joke and called her a “bitch” (this is a huge offense in India, even casually). I have gotten away with calling some girls fat, getting angry at them, and once I pinched a girl's cheek in school and walked away without saying anything, and no negative consequences came on me. It also happens to me when women see me walking towards them, they sort of laugh, and if there r two girls, they glance at each other and make big eyes. At times, I've even had full-on arguments with a few girls.

 

[5.5psl]

dude wtf is this post its over for you doesnt matter if you are 5'4 or 6'4
the way you remember even the smallest convos especially with girls tells me how much of an incel you are lmfao

 

[asdvek]

 

[Parminder Singh]

dude wtf is this post its over for you doesnt matter if you are 5'4 or 6'4
the way you remember even the smallest convos especially with girls tells me how much of an incel you are lmfao

Maybe. I wasn't tryna impress u. Just wrote down all the instances that came to mind.

 

[aladdinmaxxer]

This post may be eye-opening for Indian users insecure about their short height. The post serves as a reality check.

Social Context:

It is first of all important to understand the social dynamics of India, which I wrote about in-depth in this post: https://looksmax.org/threads/an-in-depth-look-at-the-dating-culture-of-india.1674957/

But long story short, India is a conservative, patriarchal, low-trust society where women are not that safe. Excluding metro cities, approaching women directly, PDA, and asking for a girl’s number are completely forbidden. Alpha behavior is mostly ineffective and men seduce women by slowly winning their trust. Pre-marital sex is rare, most people live with their parents. Women’s sexuality isn’t openly discussed.

My background:

I am a Punjabi Sikh dude. My standout feature is that I am 6'4 (194 cm) barefoot. But I have a pretty average face and average/lean build. I dress clean but not flashy. And I keep a well groomed beard that's not full.

My experience:

Most buildings, buses, and furniture r made for short men. I have to duck through doorways. I cant buy clothes or shoes from super market or local stores, i only buy from online stores or from established brands like Nike or Duke. Socially, people step aside when I walk. If I tell them to, let's say, pick something up from the ground or close the door, they do it. Other times, if let's says I am reaching for something and someone else is too, I show my hand and they stop and I reach that thing first. I can't escape being tall though, no matter my hobbies or what I do, I am mostly described as that "tall Sikh" or "tall quiet Sikh". There have been times when guys have walked past me and said if I was in their friend group, people would be scared even before any fight, sometimes they say this to me directly. Guys also sometimes tell me not to stand too close to them because I make them look short or because I scare them. Usually, I am chill but if I get even a lil angry, dudes step back immediately.

Once there was a time in Punjab where u could be selected in police if u were just tall, people still believe that, and poor or middle class people often tell me to join police force and how they'll accept me just because i am tall. Some educated folks tell me i should try to study and become a high ranking officer because it will suit me. Sometimes peers ask me how i got tall and i tell them the truth: family genetics, they ask me for advice on how to get taller and i tell them i have none because i never tried. People get suprised and make a disappointed expression when i tell them i dont wanna be an officer. its like individual choice vanishes if ur tall, they expect u to just take their advice. Especially pesky relatives who keep saying the same thing, and i end up insulting them for annoying me. Similarly, in school and college, I was constantly told to become an athlete. Even when I don't do anything, people register me, I learn this later when I interact with them. A downside has been that I can't let myself go, if I act too wild or goofy as a big guy, I get told not to act that way.

Regarding dating and women, it's a mixed bag. People (including women) do notice me when I walk in but they avert their eyes quickly. I've had a few girls engage with me, and two girls in particular approached me. I have had to block two girls because they kept texting me. I have had some girls ask me to come meet them at a spot (in college). I have never approached or flirted with a woman directly. On the other hand, I have also had some women be nervous with me or not respond well. But I don't know if my height plays any role in any of this, because none of them ever mentioned my height. I also went to college with a model girl whom I liked but she didn't like me back, although we had good rapport and I could many times get away with roasting her, like once, I laughed at her joke and called her a “bitch” (this is a huge offense in India, even casually). I have gotten away with calling some girls fat, getting angry at them, and once I pinched a girl's cheek in school and walked away without saying anything, and no negative consequences came on me. It also happens to me when women see me walking towards them, they sort of laugh, and if there r two girls, they glance at each other and make big eyes. At times, I've even had full-on arguments with a few girls.

i have similar experience but i am 6ft3 barefoot

 

[Parminder Singh]

i have similar experience but i am 6ft3 barefoot

Ha! Dwarf.

 

[aladdinmaxxer]

Ha! Dwarf.

wdym saar?

 

[Parminder Singh]

wdym saar?

Aap bona ho

 

[aladdinmaxxer]

Aap bona ho

so over for me saaarrrr
plzzz gibe me some bobs and vagene saaarrr

 

[SplashJuice]

Wdym reality check? You described it like how tall people really have it, I think

 

[Parminder Singh]

Wdym reality check? You described it like how tall people really have it, I think

By reality check, I meant to show Indian dudes who hope to be 6'4 that its not that much of a revolutionary experience, and they are worried over nothing.

 

[SplashJuice]

By reality check, I meant to show Indian dudes who hope to be 6'4 that its not that much of a revolutionary experience, and they are worried over nothing.

It sounds revolutionary to me, by what you have described

 

[Parminder Singh]

It sounds revolutionary to me, by what you have described

How?

 

[SplashJuice]

How?

You can tell people what to do and boss them around + Women notice you + family approval
Short guys don't get any of this

 

[Parminder Singh]

You can tell people what to do and boss them around + Women notice you + family approval
Short guys don't get any of this

You're looking at it from a positive lens. I can't be myself fully and have to perform being stoic otherwise i get judged. I scare some people. No matter what i do, i am objectified and remebered as the tall guy. Women are still not dying over me.

 

[AsGoodAsItGets]

You don’t understand that if your had your exact same face and build, but if you were way shorter, your life would probably be horrible.

Keep the constants, change the variable you’re arguing for.

I understand you’re trying to help insecure men but there are places where short men (depending on what’s short in city) would be invisible, like say a crowded club.

Having social adeptness can go along way. Most players I know have had average faces, average heights.

But, let’s say the same average faced player friend of mine, if he was 6’4, he would have had way more insane results.

Also online, women select for trait like “show only 6 foot above men” like men would select for let’s say “between the ages of 20-25”. So short men do not even have the chance to shoot their shot in such scenarios.

I can tell you’re intelligent but it’s better if you focused on changing your own life for the better rather than place ladders in a bucket for crabs. It’s a humorous environment here, but you don’t want to get stuck. Like you’re thinking, you’re height doesn’t help much. It’s because your game is poor. Most people don’t acknowledge that here. That sense of social comfort in crowded situations is built with a well exposed childhood in a culture built for that or is built in sets over the years. You get comfortable over time, notice IOIs (indicators of interest), learn how to can go from point A to B, open to sex.

Also many happy relationships you see with a tall, well mannered, upper class man and a beautiful lady, she’s probably cheating on him with an unemployed but interesting average height average faced selfish fuck.

 

[Parminder Singh]

You don’t understand that if your had your exact same face and build, but if you were way shorter, your life would probably be horrible.

Keep the constants, change the variable you’re arguing for.

I understand you’re trying to help insecure men but there are places where short men (depending on what’s short in city) would be invisible, like say a crowded club.

Having social adeptness can go along way. Most players I know have had average faces, average heights.

But, let’s say the same average faced player friend of mine, if he was 6’4, he would have had way more insane results.

Also online, women select for trait like “show only 6 foot above men” like men would select for let’s say “between the ages of 20-25”. So short men do not even have the chance to shoot their shot in such scenarios.

I can tell you’re intelligent but it’s better if you focused on changing your own life for the better rather than place ladders in a bucket for crabs. It’s a humorous environment here, but you don’t want to get stuck. Like you’re thinking, you’re height doesn’t help much. It’s because your game is poor. Most people don’t acknowledge that here. That sense of social comfort in crowded situations is built with a well exposed childhood in a culture built for that or is built in sets over the years. You get comfortable over time, notice IOIs (indicators of interest), learn how to can go from point A to B, open to sex.

Also many happy relationships you see with a tall, well mannered, upper class man and a beautiful lady, she’s probably cheating on him with an unemployed but interesting average height average faced selfish fuck.

I disagree with the last paragraph. If you're talking about non-metro India, that scenario ain't true. Most women don't even have the means to meet men once they're married. The average home making wife is at home majority of the time, under the surveillance of the groom's family. Your scenario may be a thing when women work, but that requires for her to be in a workplace where "interesting" men are available.

 

[LTNUser]

I disagree with the last paragraph. If you're talking about non-metro India, that scenario ain't true. Most women don't even have the means to meet men once they're married. The average home making wife is at home majority of the time, under the surveillance of the groom's family. Your scenario may be a thing when women work, but that requires for her to be in a workplace where "interesting" men are available.

I'm 5'7
Give me some tips to grow taller

 

[InanimatePragmatist]

I literally do not want to know anything about india.

 

[Parminder Singh]

I literally do not want to know anything about india.

Have you ever tried walking into McDonald's and telling them that u definitely don't wanna eat anything?

 

[Parminder Singh]

I'm 5'7
Give me some tips to grow taller

I have none. I didn't do shit to grow tall, I just existed.

My grandfather was a 5'11 brigadier, my father is 6' 1 and was a powerlifter in his college days, and then I came along.

 

[theübermenschboy]

This post may be eye-opening for Indian users insecure about their short height. The post serves as a reality check.

Social Context:

It is first of all important to understand the social dynamics of India, which I wrote about in-depth in this post: https://looksmax.org/threads/an-in-depth-look-at-the-dating-culture-of-india.1674957/

But long story short, India is a conservative, patriarchal, low-trust society where women are not that safe. Excluding metro cities, approaching women directly, PDA, and asking for a girl’s number are completely forbidden. Alpha behavior is mostly ineffective and men seduce women by slowly winning their trust. Pre-marital sex is rare, most people live with their parents. Women’s sexuality isn’t openly discussed.

My background:

I am a Punjabi Sikh dude. My standout feature is that I am 6'4 (194 cm) barefoot. But I have a pretty average face and average/lean build. I dress clean but not flashy. And I keep a well groomed beard that's not full.

My experience:

Most buildings, buses, and furniture r made for short men. I have to duck through doorways. I cant buy clothes or shoes from super market or local stores, i only buy from online stores or from established brands like Nike or Duke. Socially, people step aside when I walk. If I tell them to, let's say, pick something up from the ground or close the door, they do it. Other times, if let's says I am reaching for something and someone else is too, I show my hand and they stop and I reach that thing first. I can't escape being tall though, no matter my hobbies or what I do, I am mostly described as that "tall Sikh" or "tall quiet Sikh". There have been times when guys have walked past me and said if I was in their friend group, people would be scared even before any fight, sometimes they say this to me directly. Guys also sometimes tell me not to stand too close to them because I make them look short or because I scare them. Usually, I am chill but if I get even a lil angry, dudes step back immediately.

Once there was a time in Punjab where u could be selected in police if u were just tall, people still believe that, and poor or middle class people often tell me to join police force and how they'll accept me just because i am tall. Some educated folks tell me i should try to study and become a high ranking officer because it will suit me. Sometimes peers ask me how i got tall and i tell them the truth: family genetics, they ask me for advice on how to get taller and i tell them i have none because i never tried. People get suprised and make a disappointed expression when i tell them i dont wanna be an officer. its like individual choice vanishes if ur tall, they expect u to just take their advice. Especially pesky relatives who keep saying the same thing, and i end up insulting them for annoying me. Similarly, in school and college, I was constantly told to become an athlete. Even when I don't do anything, people register me, I learn this later when I interact with them. A downside has been that I can't let myself go, if I act too wild or goofy as a big guy, I get told not to act that way.

Regarding dating and women, it's a mixed bag. People (including women) do notice me when I walk in but they avert their eyes quickly. I've had a few girls engage with me, and two girls in particular approached me. I have had to block two girls because they kept texting me. I have had some girls ask me to come meet them at a spot (in college). I have never approached or flirted with a woman directly. On the other hand, I have also had some women be nervous with me or not respond well. But I don't know if my height plays any role in any of this, because none of them ever mentioned my height. I also went to college with a model girl whom I liked but she didn't like me back, although we had good rapport and I could many times get away with roasting her, like once, I laughed at her joke and called her a “bitch” (this is a huge offense in India, even casually). I have gotten away with calling some girls fat, getting angry at them, and once I pinched a girl's cheek in school and walked away without saying anything, and no negative consequences came on me. It also happens to me when women see me walking towards them, they sort of laugh, and if there r two girls, they glance at each other and make big eyes. At times, I've even had full-on arguments with a few girls.

1m94 with or without your turban?

 

[Parminder Singh]

1m94 with or without your turban?

Without turban.