Parminder Singh
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This post may be eye-opening for Indian users insecure about their short height. The post serves as a reality check.
Social Context:
It is first of all important to understand the social dynamics of India, which I wrote about in-depth in this post: https://looksmax.org/threads/an-in-depth-look-at-the-dating-culture-of-india.1674957/
But long story short, India is a conservative, patriarchal, low-trust society where women are not that safe. Excluding metro cities, approaching women directly, PDA, and asking for a girl’s number are completely forbidden. Alpha behavior is mostly ineffective and men seduce women by slowly winning their trust. Pre-marital sex is rare, most people live with their parents. Women’s sexuality isn’t openly discussed.
My background:
I am a Punjabi Sikh dude. My standout feature is that I am 6'4 (194 cm) barefoot. But I have a pretty average face and average/lean build. I dress clean but not flashy. And I keep a well groomed beard that's not full.
My experience:
Most buildings, buses, and furniture r made for short men. I have to duck through doorways. I cant buy clothes or shoes from super market or local stores, i only buy from online stores or from established brands like Nike or Duke. Socially, people step aside when I walk. If I tell them to, let's say, pick something up from the ground or close the door, they do it. Other times, if let's says I am reaching for something and someone else is too, I show my hand and they stop and I reach that thing first. I can't escape being tall though, no matter my hobbies or what I do, I am mostly described as that "tall Sikh" or "tall quiet Sikh". There have been times when guys have walked past me and said if I was in their friend group, people would be scared even before any fight, sometimes they say this to me directly. Guys also sometimes tell me not to stand too close to them because I make them look short or because I scare them. Usually, I am chill but if I get even a lil angry, dudes step back immediately.
Once there was a time in Punjab where u could be selected in police if u were just tall, people still believe that, and poor or middle class people often tell me to join police force and how they'll accept me just because i am tall. Some educated folks tell me i should try to study and become a high ranking officer because it will suit me. Sometimes peers ask me how i got tall and i tell them the truth: family genetics, they ask me for advice on how to get taller and i tell them i have none because i never tried. People get suprised and make a disappointed expression when i tell them i dont wanna be an officer. its like individual choice vanishes if ur tall, they expect u to just take their advice. Especially pesky relatives who keep saying the same thing, and i end up insulting them for annoying me. Similarly, in school and college, I was constantly told to become an athlete. Even when I don't do anything, people register me, I learn this later when I interact with them. A downside has been that I can't let myself go, if I act too wild or goofy as a big guy, I get told not to act that way.
Regarding dating and women, it's a mixed bag. People (including women) do notice me when I walk in but they avert their eyes quickly. I've had a few girls engage with me, and two girls in particular approached me. I have had to block two girls because they kept texting me. I have had some girls ask me to come meet them at a spot (in college). I have never approached or flirted with a woman directly. On the other hand, I have also had some women be nervous with me or not respond well. But I don't know if my height plays any role in any of this, because none of them ever mentioned my height. I also went to college with a model girl whom I liked but she didn't like me back, although we had good rapport and I could many times get away with roasting her, like once, I laughed at her joke and called her a “bitch” (this is a huge offense in India, even casually). I have gotten away with calling some girls fat, getting angry at them, and once I pinched a girl's cheek in school and walked away without saying anything, and no negative consequences came on me. It also happens to me when women see me walking towards them, they sort of laugh, and if there r two girls, they glance at each other and make big eyes. At times, I've even had full-on arguments with a few girls.
Social Context:
It is first of all important to understand the social dynamics of India, which I wrote about in-depth in this post: https://looksmax.org/threads/an-in-depth-look-at-the-dating-culture-of-india.1674957/
But long story short, India is a conservative, patriarchal, low-trust society where women are not that safe. Excluding metro cities, approaching women directly, PDA, and asking for a girl’s number are completely forbidden. Alpha behavior is mostly ineffective and men seduce women by slowly winning their trust. Pre-marital sex is rare, most people live with their parents. Women’s sexuality isn’t openly discussed.
My background:
I am a Punjabi Sikh dude. My standout feature is that I am 6'4 (194 cm) barefoot. But I have a pretty average face and average/lean build. I dress clean but not flashy. And I keep a well groomed beard that's not full.
My experience:
Most buildings, buses, and furniture r made for short men. I have to duck through doorways. I cant buy clothes or shoes from super market or local stores, i only buy from online stores or from established brands like Nike or Duke. Socially, people step aside when I walk. If I tell them to, let's say, pick something up from the ground or close the door, they do it. Other times, if let's says I am reaching for something and someone else is too, I show my hand and they stop and I reach that thing first. I can't escape being tall though, no matter my hobbies or what I do, I am mostly described as that "tall Sikh" or "tall quiet Sikh". There have been times when guys have walked past me and said if I was in their friend group, people would be scared even before any fight, sometimes they say this to me directly. Guys also sometimes tell me not to stand too close to them because I make them look short or because I scare them. Usually, I am chill but if I get even a lil angry, dudes step back immediately.
Once there was a time in Punjab where u could be selected in police if u were just tall, people still believe that, and poor or middle class people often tell me to join police force and how they'll accept me just because i am tall. Some educated folks tell me i should try to study and become a high ranking officer because it will suit me. Sometimes peers ask me how i got tall and i tell them the truth: family genetics, they ask me for advice on how to get taller and i tell them i have none because i never tried. People get suprised and make a disappointed expression when i tell them i dont wanna be an officer. its like individual choice vanishes if ur tall, they expect u to just take their advice. Especially pesky relatives who keep saying the same thing, and i end up insulting them for annoying me. Similarly, in school and college, I was constantly told to become an athlete. Even when I don't do anything, people register me, I learn this later when I interact with them. A downside has been that I can't let myself go, if I act too wild or goofy as a big guy, I get told not to act that way.
Regarding dating and women, it's a mixed bag. People (including women) do notice me when I walk in but they avert their eyes quickly. I've had a few girls engage with me, and two girls in particular approached me. I have had to block two girls because they kept texting me. I have had some girls ask me to come meet them at a spot (in college). I have never approached or flirted with a woman directly. On the other hand, I have also had some women be nervous with me or not respond well. But I don't know if my height plays any role in any of this, because none of them ever mentioned my height. I also went to college with a model girl whom I liked but she didn't like me back, although we had good rapport and I could many times get away with roasting her, like once, I laughed at her joke and called her a “bitch” (this is a huge offense in India, even casually). I have gotten away with calling some girls fat, getting angry at them, and once I pinched a girl's cheek in school and walked away without saying anything, and no negative consequences came on me. It also happens to me when women see me walking towards them, they sort of laugh, and if there r two girls, they glance at each other and make big eyes. At times, I've even had full-on arguments with a few girls.
