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Since 2016, I discovered that my dad (63 years old) was cheating on my mother with girls that he met on dating APPs. My dad work requires him to travel a lot, so he did that everytime he was out. I was shocked, but, at that moment, I tried to forgive him. Then, I've realised that the way that he acted with my mother, was one of the reasons of her depression (him not loving her and not taking well-care of me by giving my mother the hard job).
Yesterday, I inspected his office, because I thought that was hiding something there. I discovered more than 6 diaries that he wrote between 2002/2008. In these diaries, he wrote a lot of sexist stuff (like labelling the girls that tried to flirt with him as whores) and he mentioned that he was having affairs with multiple girls (the way he described how he felt, how he talked about passion, etc., infuriated me). He also mentioned about having depression and about being adicted to weed. Later, in a box placed in his office, I found out two bags filled with weed.
My mother went through cancer in 2012, and she has depression. I believe that my father has something to do with her mental state. I can't tell this to my mum, as she would kill herself, because she has treatened to do it before.
My dad has been lying to us for 20 years, and he has been laughing at us for this whole time. He's a covert narcissist without empathy, but I can't hate him. I can't hate him, despite him being a piece of shit who made me an insecure person without social skills. What I'm truly asking is, how should I talk about this to him?
Yesterday, I inspected his office, because I thought that was hiding something there. I discovered more than 6 diaries that he wrote between 2002/2008. In these diaries, he wrote a lot of sexist stuff (like labelling the girls that tried to flirt with him as whores) and he mentioned that he was having affairs with multiple girls (the way he described how he felt, how he talked about passion, etc., infuriated me). He also mentioned about having depression and about being adicted to weed. Later, in a box placed in his office, I found out two bags filled with weed.
My mother went through cancer in 2012, and she has depression. I believe that my father has something to do with her mental state. I can't tell this to my mum, as she would kill herself, because she has treatened to do it before.
My dad has been lying to us for 20 years, and he has been laughing at us for this whole time. He's a covert narcissist without empathy, but I can't hate him. I can't hate him, despite him being a piece of shit who made me an insecure person without social skills. What I'm truly asking is, how should I talk about this to him?