what the fuck do i talk about with a girl

[Deleted member 116288]

had like 3 conversations with this girl. (went out of my way to be more low inhib) and this girl actually started talking to me but we've had 3 conversations and i honestly have no idea what to say

 

[VohnnyBoy]

gossip other people

 

[CD34]

let her talk, people love to talk about themselves

 

[Deleted member 116288]

gossip other people

how do u start talking about that tho? im pretty unfamiliar with goes on at my school rn since its summer and i havent seen anybody but a few people

 

[TYLER IN NARRATOR]

let her talk, people love to talk about themselves

most basic but great advice

 

[Deleted member 116288]

let her talk, people love to talk about themselves

its that stupid time period where both u and the girl have to start convos

 

[TYLER IN NARRATOR]

how do u start talking about that tho? im pretty unfamiliar with goes on at my school rn since its summer and i havent seen anybody but a few people

just let her talk

 

[CD34]

its that stupid time period where both u and the girl have to start convos

Ask bout her plans for the future idk i hate it

 

[Deleted member 116288]

just let her talk

this is online so we just snap and sometimes she starts one but i think she wants me to start some more

 

[VohnnyBoy]

how do u start talking about that tho? im pretty unfamiliar with goes on at my school rn since its summer and i havent seen anybody but a few people

i sometimes just ask them if they have any new gossips and it seems to work jfl

 

[Zeekie]

had like 3 conversations with this girl. (went out of my way to be more low inhib) and this girl actually started talking to me but we've had 3 conversations and i honestly have no idea what to say

Just be NT

but realistically talk about her as much as possible. The first interactions with a woman or anyone should be like an intel gathering mission, you need to get to know as much of the boring stuff, the hobbies, the music, friends, work, school, etc. so you can quickly move on to establishing a relationship and talk about the fun stuff.

But to get to that fun stage, you need that initial layer of information on the other person. So quite literally all you have to do is ask as much stuff about her as possible without making it sound like an interview, and intuitively you'll start to know how to progress the conversations later.

 

[TYLER IN NARRATOR]

its that stupid time period where both u and the girl have to start convos

talk about the stuff you've been doing or ur interests, movies, music, food, hobbies, dreams etc

 

[Zeekie]

Just be NT

but realistically talk about her as much as possible. The first interactions with a woman or anyone should be like an intel gathering mission, you need to get to know as much of the boring stuff, the hobbies, the music, friends, work, school, etc. so you can quickly move on to establishing a relationship and talk about the fun stuff.

But to get to that fun stage, you need that initial layer of information in the other person. So quite literally all you have to do is ask as much stuff about her as possible without making it sound like an interview, and intuitively you'll start to know how to progress the conversations later.

pro tip if you're extremely neurodivergent, ask chatGPT to make you a questioner to get to know a girl ahead of time, memorize it or even better have it on your phone notes and just go through each question as you talk.

 

[Deleted member 116288]

pro tip if you're extremely neurodivergent, ask chatGPT to make you a questioner to get to know a girl ahead of time, memorize it or even better have it on your phone notes and just go through each question as you talk.

ive done this before but gpt is worse than me they always say bs like "hiya u got any thing ur interested in sharing with ya boy"

 

[Deleted member 116288]

Just be NT

but realistically talk about her as much as possible. The first interactions with a woman or anyone should be like an intel gathering mission, you need to get to know as much of the boring stuff, the hobbies, the music, friends, work, school, etc. so you can quickly move on to establishing a relationship and talk about the fun stuff.

But to get to that fun stage, you need that initial layer of information on the other person. So quite literally all you have to do is ask as much stuff about her as possible without making it sound like an interview, and intuitively you'll start to know how to progress the conversations later.

k she started a convo with me 2 days ago so shes obvciously trying to talk ill try to start one today

 

[enriquecuador]

had like 3 conversations with this girl. (went out of my way to be more low inhib) and this girl actually started talking to me but we've had 3 conversations and i honestly have no idea what to say

She’s not an alien just talk to her about stuff your interested in if she asks, she should usually do a lot of the talking though

 

[Zeekie]

ive done this before but gpt is worse than me they always say bs like "hiya u got any thing ur interested in sharing with ya boy"

Yeah, there's also some filtering going on, ChatGPT is pretty dumb sometimes and give you the most awkward questions to ask like... "What's your comfort food?" nobody asks that in a normal human conversation But it sometimes does give you good question so yk, filtering, also you could reach on Reddit or Youtube, I dunno

 

[Deleted member 116288]

She’s not an alien just talk to her about stuff your interested in if she asks, she should usually do a lot of the talking though

im high inhib bro my bad i just dont do that much talking with new people

 

[enriquecuador]

im high inhib bro my bad i just dont do that much talking with new people

Take 2 shots beforehand

 

[Deleted member 116288]

Take 2 shots beforehand

this is online my bad shoulda specified

 

[enriquecuador]

this is online my bad shoulda specified

You can still do it if it’s on call or whatever to lower inhib

 

[Mystic]

gossip other people

Always a good option

 

[VohnnyBoy]

Always a good option

yep, hate bonding is real af

 

[Mystic]

yep, hate bonding is real af

Totally agree bro