When to be in a LTR with a girl

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When you find the right girl
 
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Yh but how long and idk how to approach the idea of a LTR anyways. The thing with me is I’ve never been in a relationship before only 1 night stands with random beckies in clubs or smth
 
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Yh but how long and idk how to approach the idea of a LTR anyways. The thing with me is I’ve never been in a relationship before only 1 night stands with random beckies in clubs or smth
You’ll know when the time comes
 
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when you feel like it
follow your hearbeat or some shit
 
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for me, when i have built sufficient historical sexual market capital to demonstrate desirability and flatten any ideas of desperation the counterparty may have about me (quite redpilled). if you've done that with ONS, then anytime now is good.
 
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for me, when i have built sufficient historical sexual market capital to demonstrate desirability and flatten any ideas of desperation the counterparty may have about me (quite redpilled). if you've done that with ONS, then anytime now is good.
I’ve met her 2 weeks ago been on 3 dates and tomrorow might be the fourth. We don’t talk a lot online but irl the dates are amazing
 
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I’ve met her 2 weeks ago been on 3 dates and tomrorow might be the fourth. We don’t talk a lot online but irl the dates are amazing
good progress, what's her implied SMV (ie forward looking smv; how easily can she find another guy of your SMV or above)?

golden rule - never invest more than she does, and generally don't invest too much. not talking much online often means you're not taking up significant mental bandwidth so understand thin ice. have a backup etc all that basic RP jazz.

3 dates in 2 weeks quite quick on its own, but coupled with not talking much online means it balances out.

to ATQ: way too early to be considering LTR at this stage.
 
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good progress, what's her implied SMV (ie forward looking smv; how easily can she find another guy of your SMV or above)?

golden rule - never invest more than she does, and generally don't invest too much. not talking much online often means you're not taking up significant mental bandwidth so understand thin ice. have a backup etc all that basic RP jazz.

3 dates in 2 weeks quite quick on its own, but coupled with not talking much online means it balances out.

to ATQ: way too early to be considering LTR at this stage.
She’s HMTB but got bullied in high school for being fat and was basically an outlier. I’m HMTN-LHTN 6 foot 1 she’s tall for a girl too around 5 foot 8.5.

I never show her I’m invested. I never view her ig stories or anything. I only call her or text her for a date and she’s down usually or she reschedules for another day.

During the dates it’s always amazing. We have good chemistry and I’ve kissed her twice picked her up etc. haven’t slayed yet

appreciate your advice bro
 
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She’s HMTB but got bullied in high school for being fat and was basically an outlier. I’m HMTN-LHTN 6 foot 1 she’s tall for a girl too around 5 foot 8.5.

I never show her I’m invested. I never view her ig stories or anything. I only call her or text her for a date and she’s down usually or she reschedules for another day.

During the dates it’s always amazing. We have good chemistry and I’ve kissed her twice picked her up etc. haven’t slayed yet

appreciate your advice bro
Just keep hanging out with her, there’s not much to it.

You’ll know when it’s time if you are both acting like a couple already but haven’t made anything official yet.

And then keep going with that LTR until something’s off and you can’t make it work no matter what. If that never happens then you marry her.

That’s the life path hahahaha
 
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I never view her ig stories or anything
toeing the low threshold of investment tho. you can't show investment but you have to show overt acceptance. not sure about your specific scenario but the most basic way i show acceptance is by viewing and liking stories.

HMTB but got bullied in high school for being fat and was basically an outlier.
has she realised her fair value and repriced herself accordingly? if not, fantastic opportunity to get an underpriced asset before the market prices it in. if she hasn't realised, there is risk of her leaving you for better men like a paddleboard suddenly shooting up out of the water. (very unethical) but you could try and prevent or retard the rate at which she realises her FV.
 
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Just keep hanging out with her, there’s not much to it.

You’ll know when it’s time if you are both acting like a couple already but haven’t made anything official yet.

And then keep going with that LTR until something’s off and you can’t make it work no matter what. If that never happens then you marry her.

That’s the life path hahahaha
You’re right. Any tips on texting more?
 
toeing the low threshold of investment tho. you can't show investment but you have to show overt acceptance. not sure about your specific scenario but the most basic way i show acceptance is by viewing and liking stories.


has she realised her fair value and repriced herself accordingly? if not, fantastic opportunity to get an underpriced asset before the market prices it in. if she hasn't realised, there is risk of her leaving you for better men like a paddleboard suddenly shooting up out of the water. (very unethical) but you could try and prevent or retard the rate at which she realises her FV.
Hmmm I might start viewing and liking stories then.

Also she misses me but she doesn’t make it obvious. Like on the second date after I dropped her off at the train station I said “I’ll see you next week maybe hopefully” and then she looked at me and said “wdym maybe” and looked like she was gonna cry. I started laughing.
 
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