Why are men such simps on the internet? In real life they seem pretty normal.

[supergoat972]

Men are just like that on the internet in many cases.

-Disgusting landwhale gets 100 matches and 50 messages on Tinder
-men get offended over landwhale/obese women jokes
-Some old lady getting thirsty simps in their DMs

When I go out in real life I see no such thing.

-I never saw a landwhale get hit on in real life. Most landwales are with other overweight/obese men or low income [mostly ethnic] men in person.
-Men laugh when you make fun of landwhales in real life (I make these jokes to the guys at my office secretly and they all laugh, not 1 person got offended)
-I've never seen some young guy try to fuck or hit on an elderly (65+ year old) woman in person.

Its shit you see on the internet, but in real life men act normally. Don't get it?

 

[Overlord-]

Men are just like that on the internet in many cases.

-Disgusting landwhale gets 100 matches and 50 messages on Tinder
-men get offended over landwhale/obese women jokes
-Some old lady getting thirsty simps in their DMs

When I go out in real life I see no such thing.

-I never saw a landwhale get hit on in real life. Most landwales are with other overweight/obese men or low income [mostly ethnic] men in person.
-Men laugh when you make fun of landwhales in real life (I make these jokes to the guys at my office secretly and they all laugh, not 1 person got offended)
-I've never seen some young guy try to fuck or hit on an elderly (65+ year old) woman in person.

Its shit you see on the internet, but in real life men act normally. Don't get it?

Losers who are to afraid to do anything in irl
And they also probably rarely go out

 

[FaceandBBC]

People act their true selves behind closed doors.

 

[supergoat972]

People act their true selves behind closed doors.

I don't think most men are simps.

 

[iana]

why is every man happy to claim theyd kill someone on the internet but normal irl?
i think niggas get primal when they know theres no repercussions to their actions

 

[supergoat972]

Losers who are to afraid to do anything in irl
And they also probably rarely go out

True.

 

[OlympicSizzler]

It's because they are high inhib in real life

 

[chucky]

A real man appreciates women of all sizes. You a real man or a pansy?

 

[supergoat972]

A real man appreciates women of all sizes. You a real man or a pansy?

Fat women are disgusting pigs who belong in a zoo.

 

[gymceltard]

I've never seen some young guy try to fuck or hit on an elderly (65+ year old) woman in person.

Short answer: online dating removes the social costs and changes the incentives, so men behave differently than they would face-to-face.

Here are the main reasons, without sugarcoating it:

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1. No social risk online

In real life, approaching a woman carries:
• Public rejection
• Embarrassment
• Reputation risk (friends, coworkers, bystanders)

Online:
• Rejection is silent and private
• No one sees you “miss”
• You can message 50 people in 5 minutes

When the cost of rejection drops to near zero, men widen their net.

⸻

2. Numbers game logic

Online dating is heavily skewed:
• Men outnumber women on most apps
• Response rates for men are low

Rational adaptation:

“Message more → lower standards → hope something sticks”

In real life, effort is higher per attempt, so men self-select more carefully.

⸻

3. Sex vs relationship filtering

Men often separate:
• Sex standards (lower)
• Relationship standards (higher)

Online dating blurs intent:
• Many men treat apps as “maybe sex, maybe nothing”
• They’ll engage women they’d never publicly pursue or commit to

In real life, approaching often implies intent, so standards rise.

⸻

4. Asymmetry in female selectivity

Women online are generally more selective than offline:
• Endless options
• Better-looking men reach them digitally than IRL

Men respond by:
• Casting a wider net
• Accepting lower odds per match

This pushes behavior that looks “desperate” but is actually adaptive.

⸻

5. Reduced humanization

Photos + text ≠ full person.
• Harder to feel “this is someone I’d be seen with”
• Easier to treat matches as abstract opportunities

In real life:
• Voice, body language, status, context all matter
• Men become more aware of compatibility and optics

⸻

6. Ego buffering

Online rejection can be rationalized:
• “She didn’t see it”
• “Algorithm didn’t show it”
• “She’s just picky”

In person, rejection feels personal → men protect ego by aiming higher-probability targets.

⸻

Bottom line

Men don’t suddenly like different women online.

They:
• Face lower costs
• Play volume instead of precision
• Separate sex interest from public/relationship interest
• Adapt to a skewed marketplace

So online behavior isn’t hypocrisy—it’s incentive-driven strategy.

If you want, I can also explain:
• Why women often experience the opposite effect
• Why this dynamic makes dating apps feel broken
• How this messes with both sexes psychologically

 

[supergoat972]

Short answer: online dating removes the social costs and changes the incentives, so men behave differently than they would face-to-face.

Here are the main reasons, without sugarcoating it:

⸻

1. No social risk online

In real life, approaching a woman carries:
• Public rejection
• Embarrassment
• Reputation risk (friends, coworkers, bystanders)

Online:
• Rejection is silent and private
• No one sees you “miss”
• You can message 50 people in 5 minutes

When the cost of rejection drops to near zero, men widen their net.

⸻

2. Numbers game logic

Online dating is heavily skewed:
• Men outnumber women on most apps
• Response rates for men are low

Rational adaptation:

“Message more → lower standards → hope something sticks”

In real life, effort is higher per attempt, so men self-select more carefully.

⸻

3. Sex vs relationship filtering

Men often separate:
• Sex standards (lower)
• Relationship standards (higher)

Online dating blurs intent:
• Many men treat apps as “maybe sex, maybe nothing”
• They’ll engage women they’d never publicly pursue or commit to

In real life, approaching often implies intent, so standards rise.

⸻

4. Asymmetry in female selectivity

Women online are generally more selective than offline:
• Endless options
• Better-looking men reach them digitally than IRL

Men respond by:
• Casting a wider net
• Accepting lower odds per match

This pushes behavior that looks “desperate” but is actually adaptive.

⸻

5. Reduced humanization

Photos + text ≠ full person.
• Harder to feel “this is someone I’d be seen with”
• Easier to treat matches as abstract opportunities

In real life:
• Voice, body language, status, context all matter
• Men become more aware of compatibility and optics

⸻

6. Ego buffering

Online rejection can be rationalized:
• “She didn’t see it”
• “Algorithm didn’t show it”
• “She’s just picky”

In person, rejection feels personal → men protect ego by aiming higher-probability targets.

⸻

Bottom line

Men don’t suddenly like different women online.

They:
• Face lower costs
• Play volume instead of precision
• Separate sex interest from public/relationship interest
• Adapt to a skewed marketplace

So online behavior isn’t hypocrisy—it’s incentive-driven strategy.

If you want, I can also explain:
• Why women often experience the opposite effect
• Why this dynamic makes dating apps feel broken
• How this messes with both sexes psychologically

Good point

 

[gymceltard]

Good point

It’s AI stupid ahh nigga

 

[supergoat972]

It’s AI stupid ahh nigga

I know, dumbass, but it made some good points.

 

[browncurrycel]

I don't think most men are simps.

 

[CelestialJackrabbit]

Men laugh when you make fun of landwhales in real life (I make these jokes to the guys at my office secretly and they all laugh, not 1 person got offended)

It's crazy how many of my friends I made fat jokes with ended up dating a fat chick lol

 

[supergoat972]

It's crazy how many of my friends I made fat jokes with ended up dating a fat chick lol

No high quality man would date a filthy landwhale.

I just hear about it on extreme right wing (such as blackpill forums) and extreme left wing forums(Reddit r/body positivity) from people who live clinically online (incels and sjw obese women who expect Chads because they match with them on Tinder) BUT I virtually never see these couples in real life.

The last few months, I only saw one handsome guy with a landwhale. He was a tall white guy and his significant other was an obese, red haired woman. An extremly ugly one at that too. That could have been his mom/sister/other family member though or a friend. They were not holding hands or kissing or anything. Besides that(assuming they were even together), its been MONTHS since I have seen such a couple. Its more common to see a 6'5" person than an obese woman with a high value man.