Why are people nice to me alone but bully me in groups?

[Demirs]

My friends usually treat me well when we’re alone, but when they’re together, they start making fun of me and putting me down. The same thing happens with some classmates and other people too.


Everyone seems to know who I am, but hardly anyone even says hello to me. I think they see the bullying as a joke, but it doesn’t feel funny to me. I don’t understand why people completely change when they’re around a group.


Has anyone else experienced this? Why do people act like this, and how did you deal with it?

 

[mangotimer]

because your a beta male

 

[not.lovable_Lawa]

My friends usually treat me well when we’re alone, but when they’re together, they start making fun of me and putting me down. The same thing happens with some classmates and other people too.


Everyone seems to know who I am, but hardly anyone even says hello to me. I think they see the bullying as a joke, but it doesn’t feel funny to me. I don’t understand why people completely change when they’re around a group.


Has anyone else experienced this? Why do people act like this, and how did you deal with it?

Its not your fault. Be alone. They want attention and want to be a clown. Just be alone or change ur “friends”

 

[Demirs]

Its not your fault. Be alone. They want attention and want to be a clown. Just be alone or change ur “friends”

I can’t really change my friends that easily because I already know almost everyone at my school. I go to a private school, and a lot of people are either immature or act superior because they think being rich makes them better than everyone else.

 

[not.lovable_Lawa]

I can’t really change my friends that easily because I already know almost everyone at my school. I go to a private school, and a lot of people are either immature or act superior because they think being rich makes them better than everyone else.

Then be alone or be a laughing stock. Choose

 

[Demirs]

Then be alone or be a laughing stock. Choose

I’m already alone, but I don’t want to stay that way. I shouldn’t have to choose between being isolated and being treated like a joke
I just want genuine friends who respect me.

 

[not.lovable_Lawa]

Then change ur friends

 

[Demirs]

Then change ur friends

I’m trying, but it’s not that simple when I already know almost everyone at my school. I can’t just magically find a completely new friend group overnight.

 

[not.lovable_Lawa]

Thats your mistake. Dont go for friend groups. Go for a friend.

 

[Gen1leman]

My friends usually treat me well when we’re alone, but when they’re together, they start making fun of me and putting me down. The same thing happens with some classmates and other people too.


Everyone seems to know who I am, but hardly anyone even says hello to me. I think they see the bullying as a joke, but it doesn’t feel funny to me. I don’t understand why people completely change when they’re around a group.


Has anyone else experienced this? Why do people act like this, and how did you deal with it?

Bro I myself was bullied by my so callee friend and alone we were fine but at a group he would make me look fool because I was too genuine I regret that I didn't fight him even if you lose you show yourself and others will know it, unfortunately at that age it common so you need to talk with people you trust how to deal with that and improve myself because I before was kidna afraid of conflict but eventually if someone is not afraid to say something to you say the same and more good luck man

 

[Demirs]

Thats your mistake. Dont go for friend groups. Go for a friend.

I don’t even have a friend group. I only play FPS games with two people, and they still gang up on me and make fun of me.

 

[sasha108]

My friends usually treat me well when we’re alone, but when they’re together, they start making fun of me and putting me down. The same thing happens with some classmates and other people too.


Everyone seems to know who I am, but hardly anyone even says hello to me. I think they see the bullying as a joke, but it doesn’t feel funny to me. I don’t understand why people completely change when they’re around a group.


Has anyone else experienced this? Why do people act like this, and how did you deal with it?

Fuck those scumbags. They're not your friends. Your honor is the only thing you truly have. Leave those people

 

[not.lovable_Lawa]

Bro how desperate are you. Be alone. Play solo. Dont be a fucking retard

 

[tentatio]

My friends usually treat me well when we’re alone, but when they’re together, they start making fun of me and putting me down. The same thing happens with some classmates and other people too.

My immediate impression is that they likely view you as a worthy way to medicate their boredom while they notice how easy you are to pick on in groups and are aware they will receive immediate backing from everyone. You need to change your perspective and forget about them man. Look down on them in your head rather than seeking their approval

 

[Demirs]

Bro how desperate are you. Be alone. Play solo. Dont be a fucking retard

I’m already alone most of the time, and I’m tired of it. Wanting a few genuine friends doesn’t make me desperate.

 

[Demirs]

My immediate impression is that they likely view you as a worthy way to medicate their boredom while they notice how easy you are to pick on in groups and are aware they will receive immediate backing from everyone. You need to change your perspective and forget about them man. Look down on them in your head rather than seeking their approval

Fuck those scumbags. They're not your friends. Your honor is the only thing you truly have. Leave those people

Bro I myself was bullied by my so callee friend and alone we were fine but at a group he would make me look fool because I was too genuine I regret that I didn't fight him even if you lose you show yourself and others will know it, unfortunately at that age it common so you need to talk with people you trust how to deal with that and improve myself because I before was kidna afraid of conflict but eventually if someone is not afraid to say something to you say the same and more good luck man

Thanks for the advice, all of you. I think you’re right they probably see me as an easy target in groups because I usually stay quiet and seek their approval. I need to stop caring about what they think, set boundaries, and distance myself from people who keep humiliating me.

For example, I was just sitting with my face resting against my arm. A girl who calls herself my best friend thought I was trying to flex, even though I wasn’t, and started sarcastically calling me “muscular” in front of the whole class. Then another friend joined in and made a crude sexual comment about me liking her he said I want to have sex with her. They acted like it was only a joke, but it was humiliating.


I don’t want to start physical fights, but I understand that staying completely silent makes them think they can continue. I’ll try to stand up for myself, respond calmly, and stop treating people like friends when they clearly don’t respect me. Thanks again.

 

[Demirs]

Thanks for the advice, all of you. I think you’re right they probably see me as an easy target in groups because I usually stay quiet and seek their approval. I need to stop caring about what they think, set boundaries, and distance myself from people who keep humiliating me.

For example, I was just sitting with my face resting against my arm. A girl who calls herself my best friend thought I was trying to flex, even though I wasn’t, and started sarcastically calling me “muscular” in front of the whole class. Then another friend joined in and made a crude sexual comment about me liking her he said I want to have sex with her. They acted like it was only a joke, but it was humiliating.


I don’t want to start physical fights, but I understand that staying completely silent makes them think they can continue. I’ll try to stand up for myself, respond calmly, and stop treating people like friends when they clearly don’t respect me. Thanks again.

There’s also a guy with acne who makes fun of the pimples on my face. I don’t even think I’m unattractive, and the ironic part is that he has similar skin problems himself. I could insult his appearance too, but I don’t want to become like them.

 

[jotzaa;]

Happens a lot. Its a constant cycle

bump

 

[sonic55555]

part and parcel of being ugly or short, or both

 

[Demirs]

part and parcel of being ugly or short, or both

Not short or ugly

 

[sasha108]

Thanks for the advice, all of you. I think you’re right they probably see me as an easy target in groups because I usually stay quiet and seek their approval. I need to stop caring about what they think, set boundaries, and distance myself from people who keep humiliating me.

For example, I was just sitting with my face resting against my arm. A girl who calls herself my best friend thought I was trying to flex, even though I wasn’t, and started sarcastically calling me “muscular” in front of the whole class. Then another friend joined in and made a crude sexual comment about me liking her he said I want to have sex with her. They acted like it was only a joke, but it was humiliating.


I don’t want to start physical fights, but I understand that staying completely silent makes them think they can continue. I’ll try to stand up for myself, respond calmly, and stop treating people like friends when they clearly don’t respect me. Thanks again.

End this shit

 

[proxxyy11]

the fact that i believe this is genuinely a universal experience for everyone is kinda funny

it literally just happens boyo, happens a lot to me too

 

[Gen1leman]

Thanks for the advice, all of you. I think you’re right they probably see me as an easy target in groups because I usually stay quiet and seek their approval. I need to stop caring about what they think, set boundaries, and distance myself from people who keep humiliating me.

For example, I was just sitting with my face resting against my arm. A girl who calls herself my best friend thought I was trying to flex, even though I wasn’t, and started sarcastically calling me “muscular” in front of the whole class. Then another friend joined in and made a crude sexual comment about me liking her he said I want to have sex with her. They acted like it was only a joke, but it was humiliating.


I don’t want to start physical fights, but I understand that staying completely silent makes them think they can continue. I’ll try to stand up for myself, respond calmly, and stop treating people like friends when they clearly don’t respect me. Thanks again.

Good luck man

 

[Demirs]

Good luck man

Thanks man

 

[antlers120]

My friends usually treat me well when we’re alone, but when they’re together, they start making fun of me and putting me down. The same thing happens with some classmates and other people too.


Everyone seems to know who I am, but hardly anyone even says hello to me. I think they see the bullying as a joke, but it doesn’t feel funny to me. I don’t understand why people completely change when they’re around a group.


Has anyone else experienced this? Why do people act like this, and how did you deal with it?

just be alone, nothing wrong with that

 

[vigor]

My friends usually treat me well when we’re alone, but when they’re together, they start making fun of me and putting me down. The same thing happens with some classmates and other people too.


Everyone seems to know who I am, but hardly anyone even says hello to me. I think they see the bullying as a joke, but it doesn’t feel funny to me. I don’t understand why people completely change when they’re around a group.


Has anyone else experienced this? Why do people act like this, and how did you deal with it?

this was my childhood
means you had low status in the group and became the group punching bag
most people are too cowardly to be horrible 1 on 1 but get bold when they have others around them

 

[YourLocalLMTN]

im guessing you are low dimo-short, you are the bullied one of your friend group, embrace you low dimorphism and become a femboy

 

[Demirs]

im guessing you are low dimo-short, you are the bullied one of your friend group, embrace you low dimorphism and become a femboy

I was obese I think that’s why

 

[YourLocalLMTN]

I was obese I think that’s why

at least you are not a low dimo manlet

 

[pleasevanity]

My friends usually treat me well when we’re alone, but when they’re together, they start making fun of me and putting me down. The same thing happens with some classmates and other people too.


Everyone seems to know who I am, but hardly anyone even says hello to me. I think they see the bullying as a joke, but it doesn’t feel funny to me. I don’t understand why people completely change when they’re around a group.


Has anyone else experienced this? Why do people act like this, and how did you deal with it?

every friend group needs someone to bully

 

[Brahmincel]

My friends usually treat me well when we’re alone, but when they’re together, they start making fun of me and putting me down. The same thing happens with some classmates and other people too.


Everyone seems to know who I am, but hardly anyone even says hello to me. I think they see the bullying as a joke, but it doesn’t feel funny to me. I don’t understand why people completely change when they’re around a group.


Has anyone else experienced this? Why do people act like this, and how did you deal with it?

You'll understand why yourself the moment you stop calling them 'friends'

 

[lng]

My friends usually treat me well when we’re alone, but when they’re together, they start making fun of me and putting me down. The same thing happens with some classmates and other people too.


Everyone seems to know who I am, but hardly anyone even says hello to me. I think they see the bullying as a joke, but it doesn’t feel funny to me. I don’t understand why people completely change when they’re around a group.


Has anyone else experienced this? Why do people act like this, and how did you deal with it?

They wanna impress others by making fun of you. Honestly drop them, people who put you down for validation are not your friends nor people you should surround yourself with.

 

[Demirs]

I even tried making new friends, but then my old “friends” got upset and acted like I had betrayed them. They said I was being dramatic. One guy I thought I was close with even acted like I had “sold him out” just because I missed two days of school. The ironic part is they never treated me like a real friend in the first place. It honestly feels like no matter what I do, someone finds a reason to turn it against me.