Why do Women prefer "Bad guys" over typical "Nice Guys"

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From an objective standpoint it doesn't really make sense, because the "nice guy" provides; (heavily investing into the relationship, doing all the things a typical "nice guy" does). Why is that most (if not all) women usually skip those guys over and usually hook up with men that usually don't care about her other than for sexual favours?

It's not really rare to hear women say "I broke up with him cause he was too nice", meanwhile mainstream media drilled the idea into us that chasing after a girl is the "gentleman thing to do", Examples of this are most movies, even cartoons like Tom and Jerry which we watched when we were little kids, The Male Character is always seen to chase after the girl. So basically the idea that as a man, you have to degrade yourself, throw away any self respect you have for the attention of a woman who might not even be Interessted in you, is drilled into your head from when you were a toddler.

(trying to get a girls attention in 2026)

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Despite all this though, she ends up dating the guy who is the complete opposite of the "nice guy". Is it just a "just in the moment" type of rush that fullfills them when they're doing something they percieve as something they shouldn't be doing? Or is it just the attraction factor that most "bad boy" archetypes have? :unsure:
 
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From an objective standpoint it doesn't really make sense, because the "nice guy" provides; (heavily investing into the relationship, doing all the things a typical "nice guy" does). Why is that most (if not all) women usually skip those guys over and usually hook up with men that usually don't care about her other than for sexual favours?

It's not really rare to hear women say "I broke up with him cause he was too nice", meanwhile mainstream media drilled the idea into us that chasing after a girl is the "gentleman thing to do", Examples of this are most movies, even cartoons like Tom and Jerry which we watched when we were little kids, The Male Character is always seen to chase after the girl. So basically the idea that as a man, you have to degrade yourself, throw away any self respect you have for the attention of a woman who might not even be Interessted in you, is drilled into your head from when you were a toddler.

(trying to get a girls attention in 2026)


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Despite all this though, she ends up dating the guy who is the complete opposite of the "nice guy". Is it just a "just in the moment" type of rush that fullfills them when they're doing something they percieve as something they shouldn't be doing? Or is it just the attraction factor that most "bad boy" archetypes have? :unsure:
Dnr nice avi
 
From an objective standpoint it doesn't really make sense, because the "nice guy" provides; (heavily investing into the relationship, doing all the things a typical "nice guy" does). Why is that most (if not all) women usually skip those guys over and usually hook up with men that usually don't care about her other than for sexual favours?

It's not really rare to hear women say "I broke up with him cause he was too nice", meanwhile mainstream media drilled the idea into us that chasing after a girl is the "gentleman thing to do", Examples of this are most movies, even cartoons like Tom and Jerry which we watched when we were little kids, The Male Character is always seen to chase after the girl. So basically the idea that as a man, you have to degrade yourself, throw away any self respect you have for the attention of a woman who might not even be Interessted in you, is drilled into your head from when you were a toddler.

(trying to get a girls attention in 2026)


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Despite all this though, she ends up dating the guy who is the complete opposite of the "nice guy". Is it just a "just in the moment" type of rush that fullfills them when they're doing something they percieve as something they shouldn't be doing? Or is it just the attraction factor that most "bad boy" archetypes have? :unsure:
Read it, good thread dont have an answer
 
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From an objective standpoint it doesn't really make sense, because the "nice guy" provides; (heavily investing into the relationship, doing all the things a typical "nice guy" does). Why is that most (if not all) women usually skip those guys over and usually hook up with men that usually don't care about her other than for sexual favours?

It's not really rare to hear women say "I broke up with him cause he was too nice", meanwhile mainstream media drilled the idea into us that chasing after a girl is the "gentleman thing to do", Examples of this are most movies, even cartoons like Tom and Jerry which we watched when we were little kids, The Male Character is always seen to chase after the girl. So basically the idea that as a man, you have to degrade yourself, throw away any self respect you have for the attention of a woman who might not even be Interessted in you, is drilled into your head from when you were a toddler.

(trying to get a girls attention in 2026)

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Despite all this though, she ends up dating the guy who is the complete opposite of the "nice guy". Is it just a "just in the moment" type of rush that fullfills them when they're doing something they percieve as something they shouldn't be doing? Or is it just the attraction factor that most "bad boy" archetypes have? :unsure:
ill answer this with a question would you rather watch breaking bad with or without the meth (which is more exciting)
 
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From an objective standpoint it doesn't really make sense, because the "nice guy" provides; (heavily investing into the relationship, doing all the things a typical "nice guy" does). Why is that most (if not all) women usually skip those guys over and usually hook up with men that usually don't care about her other than for sexual favours?

It's not really rare to hear women say "I broke up with him cause he was too nice", meanwhile mainstream media drilled the idea into us that chasing after a girl is the "gentleman thing to do", Examples of this are most movies, even cartoons like Tom and Jerry which we watched when we were little kids, The Male Character is always seen to chase after the girl. So basically the idea that as a man, you have to degrade yourself, throw away any self respect you have for the attention of a woman who might not even be Interessted in you, is drilled into your head from when you were a toddler.

(trying to get a girls attention in 2026)

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Despite all this though, she ends up dating the guy who is the complete opposite of the "nice guy". Is it just a "just in the moment" type of rush that fullfills them when they're doing something they percieve as something they shouldn't be doing? Or is it just the attraction factor that most "bad boy" archetypes have? :unsure:
want what we cant have, want things that are bad for us, hate ourselves etc.
 
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ill answer this with a question would you rather watch breaking bad with or without the meth (which is more exciting)
obviously with!!
 
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maybe bad boys are more confident/ takes more risks, but who knows really cus u can be bad boy without being a total asshole but for those idk

maybe also because they dont give them everything they want and nice guys are more obedient jfl
 
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cuz i rather have a guy who can cheat on me and then come back with me when he feels like it because its hot and its like roleplay
 
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maybe bad boys are more confident/ takes more risks, but who knows really cus u can be bad boy without being a total asshole but for those idk

maybe also because they dont give them everything they want and nice guys are more obedient jfl
what makes a "bad boy" really a "bad boy" though? is it just the impression you make or is it just you fulfilling a womans weird sex fantasy?
 
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Ugly men are more compliant and submissive because society shoves them into the corner

Good looking men are socially pushed to be of positions of power and to take more risks

Its not a bad boy, good boy thing, its an attractive/ugly thing, pretty obvious
 
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I started acting cocky n like an asshole around women n stopped trying to act nice n performative.
They truly like to be downgraded
 
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Because women want stimulation and excitement
 
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Women instinctively want a men to make them feel protected. That’s why they often discriminate against shorter guys, because they know that they look weak compared to taller men. “Bad guys” are usually seen as dangerous, tough, extroverted, thugs, that would never let anyone touch their girl. Nice guys are viewed as the complete submissive opposite version of that.
 
Women instinctively want a men to make them feel protected. That’s why they often discriminate against shorter guys, because they know that they look weak compared to taller men. “Bad guys” are usually seen as dangerous, tough, extroverted, thugs, that would never let anyone touch their girl. Nice guys are viewed as the complete submissive opposite version of that.
bro that doesnt make any sense, how does nice guy = cuckhold. (but then again we're talking about women dating logic I shouldnt have expected it to make sense)😨
 
nice guys are boring and feminine

however, even as a bad boy you're supposed to be nice, just to some extent
 
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From an objective standpoint it doesn't really make sense, because the "nice guy" provides; (heavily investing into the relationship, doing all the things a typical "nice guy" does). Why is that most (if not all) women usually skip those guys over and usually hook up with men that usually don't care about her other than for sexual favours?

It's not really rare to hear women say "I broke up with him cause he was too nice", meanwhile mainstream media drilled the idea into us that chasing after a girl is the "gentleman thing to do", Examples of this are most movies, even cartoons like Tom and Jerry which we watched when we were little kids, The Male Character is always seen to chase after the girl. So basically the idea that as a man, you have to degrade yourself, throw away any self respect you have for the attention of a woman who might not even be Interessted in you, is drilled into your head from when you were a toddler.

(trying to get a girls attention in 2026)

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Despite all this though, she ends up dating the guy who is the complete opposite of the "nice guy". Is it just a "just in the moment" type of rush that fullfills them when they're doing something they percieve as something they shouldn't be doing? Or is it just the attraction factor that most "bad boy" archetypes have? :unsure:
why do people smoke,drink, do drugs, skydive, its exiting a fun even though it could have a very negative effect on you.
 
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cuz ibad boys ussually look better and have that "spice" factor
 
Because girls that want to have sex and give birth are actually self harmers, and they need "bad guys" that harm them
 
From an objective standpoint it doesn't really make sense, because the "nice guy" provides; (heavily investing into the relationship, doing all the things a typical "nice guy" does). Why is that most (if not all) women usually skip those guys over and usually hook up with men that usually don't care about her other than for sexual favours?

It's not really rare to hear women say "I broke up with him cause he was too nice", meanwhile mainstream media drilled the idea into us that chasing after a girl is the "gentleman thing to do", Examples of this are most movies, even cartoons like Tom and Jerry which we watched when we were little kids, The Male Character is always seen to chase after the girl. So basically the idea that as a man, you have to degrade yourself, throw away any self respect you have for the attention of a woman who might not even be Interessted in you, is drilled into your head from when you were a toddler.

(trying to get a girls attention in 2026)

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Despite all this though, she ends up dating the guy who is the complete opposite of the "nice guy". Is it just a "just in the moment" type of rush that fullfills them when they're doing something they percieve as something they shouldn't be doing? Or is it just the attraction factor that most "bad boy" archetypes have? :unsure:
its cuz foids are evil unless ur chad
 
They don't. It's just a redpiller meme. Women like attractive men regardless of personality.
 
From an objective standpoint it doesn't really make sense, because the "nice guy" provides; (heavily investing into the relationship, doing all the things a typical "nice guy" does). Why is that most (if not all) women usually skip those guys over and usually hook up with men that usually don't care about her other than for sexual favours?
I made a thread on this:Comfy:
Thread 'The psychological explanation of women choosing bad guys over nice guys. GTFIH'
https://looksmax.org/threads/the-ps...oosing-bad-guys-over-nice-guys-gtfih.1855309/
 
From an objective standpoint it doesn't really make sense, because the "nice guy" provides; (heavily investing into the relationship, doing all the things a typical "nice guy" does). Why is that most (if not all) women usually skip those guys over and usually hook up with men that usually don't care about her other than for sexual favours?

It's not really rare to hear women say "I broke up with him cause he was too nice", meanwhile mainstream media drilled the idea into us that chasing after a girl is the "gentleman thing to do", Examples of this are most movies, even cartoons like Tom and Jerry which we watched when we were little kids, The Male Character is always seen to chase after the girl. So basically the idea that as a man, you have to degrade yourself, throw away any self respect you have for the attention of a woman who might not even be Interessted in you, is drilled into your head from when you were a toddler.

(trying to get a girls attention in 2026)

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Despite all this though, she ends up dating the guy who is the complete opposite of the "nice guy". Is it just a "just in the moment" type of rush that fullfills them when they're doing something they percieve as something they shouldn't be doing? Or is it just the attraction factor that most "bad boy" archetypes have? :unsure:
After gaining some experience talking to women I think it's SOMEWHAT oversimplified when people say women only go after "bad" guys. It's not necessarily because of the badness. Esp if she's a high value girl she probably wouldn't want to associate with someone whos a lowlife drug taking person (unless hes hot then the chad rule applies for short term stuff)

But what I realized is they're often gravitated towards "bad" guys due to the PROXY traits they have. They're attracted to the attitude of not having any shits to give, or the extreme confidence many of them have. They aren't afraid to speak their mind unlike "nice guys" who often are meek and shy and can't even express their sexuality. They more want a guy who is charismatic funny and isn't afraid of taking risks. For example for me I am pretty nerdy with my niches but I found some women gravitated towards me because I don't really hold back when I talk, and I know how to flirt and make them laugh now. I suppose I also have some "risk taking" traits too. Like speeding, and I'm lightskin so I sometimes thugmaxx by wearing streetwear or playing rap on my stories on IG. I suppose they like how I'm multi dimensional

TLDR: It's less they like "bad guys" and more they like traits associated with "bad guys" such as confidence, charisma masculine, not afraid of showing their sexuality
 
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because society is hell for our natrual human emotions and actions so when foids see a bad guy deep down in their brain their thinking "he does not follow the rules, he is natrual"
 

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