Why don’t I feel good about myself

[John_Sory74]

I went out tonight for the first time in a while, got a couple compliments from guys and girls and a hookup with some girl while sober (only got her ig in the end).
I thought doing this would make me feel a bit more confident or good about myself but I feel the same way. Do I just need to keep going out and getting hookups and talking to women or will nothing fill this fuckass void that I can’t even explain properly

 

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[John_Sory74]

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So real

 

[barii66]

I went out tonight for the first time in a while, got a couple compliments from guys and girls and a hookup with some girl while sober (only got her ig in the end).
I thought doing this would make me feel a bit more confident or good about myself but I feel the same way. Do I just need to keep going out and getting hookups and talking to women or will nothing fill this fuckass void that I can’t even explain properly

girls and dudes wont make u happy if ur not happy urself bro

 

[harmonytingfam]

nothing will ever fill the void.

cup is never full.

 

[John_Sory74]

this bp shit has sent me down a rabbit hole of always wanting more (probably helped me just as much as fucked me)I guess I gotta learn where to draw the line on what’s realistic and what’s not or maybe I’m just having a depressing post going out “comedown”

 

[Whirr22222]

Its simple. It doesnt make you feel good because you were likely at the club, with extremely low value girls, which is meaningless in comparison to an actual relationship.

 

[IrishSlayer1483]

I went out tonight for the first time in a while, got a couple compliments from guys and girls and a hookup with some girl while sober (only got her ig in the end).
I thought doing this would make me feel a bit more confident or good about myself but I feel the same way. Do I just need to keep going out and getting hookups and talking to women or will nothing fill this fuckass void that I can’t even explain properly

nigga you might be like me a narcissist. will always need validation to secure yourself. despite things going well

do you relate symptomatically?

 

[harmonytingfam]

nigga you might be like me a narcissist.

 

[John_Sory74]

nigga you might be like me a narcissist. will always need validation to secure yourself. despite things going well
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do you relate symptomatically?

in terms of needing validation to secure myself I guess so but everything else not so much, but then again I question myself because in terms of woman this hookup was my first in like 5 months, maybe I used different ways other than woman to validate myself like obsessing crazy over my looks in hopes for a compliment or smth to make myself feel like im desirable

 

[Arwin12]

nigga you might be like me a narcissist. will always need validation to secure yourself. despite things going well
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do you relate symptomatically?

yeah boyo you both are narcissist because you need validation. you just attention seeker

 

[IrishSlayer1483]

bro this shit is not cringe fucking patrick bateman shit its hellish i will always need validation no matter my success and am incapable of love

 

[SQL2VD]

I went out tonight for the first time in a while, got a couple compliments from guys and girls and a hookup with some girl while sober (only got her ig in the end).
I thought doing this would make me feel a bit more confident or good about myself but I feel the same way. Do I just need to keep going out and getting hookups and talking to women or will nothing fill this fuckass void that I can’t even explain properly

you just need to find a girlfriend, theres plenty threads out there which can give you a guide on how to approach a girl and ask her out

 

[IrishSlayer1483]

yeah boyo you both are narcissist because you need validation. you just attention seeker

im diagnosed but sure be like that

 

[barii66]

nigga you might be like me a narcissist. will always need validation to secure yourself. despite things going well
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do you relate symptomatically?

i relate alot

i try to cope with that fact but i seek validation alot

 

[ltngymcell]

I went out tonight for the first time in a while, got a couple compliments from guys and girls and a hookup with some girl while sober (only got her ig in the end).
I thought doing this would make me feel a bit more confident or good about myself but I feel the same way. Do I just need to keep going out and getting hookups and talking to women or will nothing fill this fuckass void that I can’t even explain properly

ngl prolly hormonal issue

 

[Arwin12]

im diagnosed but sure be like that

send real papers

 

[harmonytingfam]

bro this shit is not cringe fucking patrick bateman shit its hellish i will always need validation no matter my success and am incapable of love

is that why you don't give out rep

it all makes sense now

 

[John_Sory74]

yeah your onto something I got her ig and left to go smoke outside with my mate and I come back and she’s with some Tyrone lookin mf with a whole ass puffer and hoodie up in the club. I probably gave this girl too much of my headspace (even though it was minimal) which led me to feel like I didn’t even accomplish anything (because she was most likely a whore)

Its simple. It doesnt make you feel good because you were likely at the club, with extremely low value girls, which is meaningless in comparison to an actual relationship.

 

[Arwin12]

i relate alot

i try to cope but i seek validation alot

every .org member is like this we all like this doesnt mean we all narcissist

 

[IrishSlayer1483]

i relate alot

i try to cope but i seek validation alot

this shit chronic i got no choice i will always be insecure and need to feel superior irrationally.

even in my most grandiose of moments i will want people to see me like how i feel so its a validation feedback lop regardless of confidence

 

[John_Sory74]

I don’t think it’s that black and white mate

yeah boyo you both are narcissist because you need validation. you just attention seeker

 

[Arwin12]

I don’t think it’s that black and white mate

i been through it too and still. i think we are just giga insecure

 

[brahminboss2.0]

go

I went out tonight for the first time in a while, got a couple compliments from guys and girls and a hookup with some girl while sober (only got her ig in the end).
I thought doing this would make me feel a bit more confident or good about myself but I feel the same way. Do I just need to keep going out and getting hookups and talking to women or will nothing fill this fuckass void that I can’t even explain properly

going through the same shit bro, this will eventually go away once u leave the bp and stop tryna make urself perfect

 

[barii66]

every .org member is like this we all like this doesnt mean we all narcissist

yea thats true

if we reach our desires and dreams itll be fixed (partly)

 

[IrishSlayer1483]

is that why you don't give out rep

it all makes sense now

i give rep sporadically it depends it usually has a purpose i dont just give it for a response

 

[John_Sory74]

go

going through the same shit bro, this will eventually go away once u leave the bp and stop tryna make urself perfect

Fr, I know I’m NT and have been my whole life but this bp shit is like frying my brain and ability to communicate with women (there’s a couple other things that could be the reason too)

 

[IrishSlayer1483]

every .org member is like this we all like this doesnt mean we all narcissist

no even in my most grandiose and high i feel like this i need how i feel about myself to be affirmed its a feed back loop i have no choice

 

[harmonytingfam]

i give rep sporadically it depends it usually has a purpose i dont just give it for a response

 

[IrishSlayer1483]

send real papers

all my papers of my diagnosese are at my moms house i dont live with her when im threre for christmas ill take pics this shit not a flex its hellish.

meanwhile heres my adhd meds


neurodivergence will forever have its challenges i dont wish this on anyone

 

[John_Sory74]

no even in my most grandiose and high i feel like this i need how i feel about myself to be affirmed its a feed back loop i have no choice

Where does one draw the line wanting validation and feeling good when your seen in a positive way, and full blown narcissism

 

[IrishSlayer1483]

Where does one draw the line wanting validation and feeling good when your seen in a positive way, and full blown narcissism

go to a psychiatrist. i am devoid of empathy my whole life and only see people for value not love not even my family which i wish it wasnt the case

 

[TerminatorGenisys9]

I went out tonight for the first time in a while, got a couple compliments from guys and girls and a hookup with some girl while sober (only got her ig in the end).
I thought doing this would make me feel a bit more confident or good about myself but I feel the same way. Do I just need to keep going out and getting hookups and talking to women or will nothing fill this fuckass void that I can’t even explain properly

You feel like shit because ur sober the girls are drunk and that’s when you get complimented. It feels like she wouldn’t do the same if she were sober, so what you need to do is get a job go to more social events, do volunteering, join an org, talk to a girl in class idk just a place where both of yall are sober. Had a girl ask for my insta while I just woke up completely sober she was sober too at an org lunch and that’s the only time I felt good about a girl coming on to me because she was sober

 

[John_Sory74]

go to a psychiatrist. i am devoid of empathy my whole life and only see people for value not love not even my family which i wish it wasnt the case

Thanks for the advice man, hope you find peace or somewhat of a solution with ur situation bro

 

[Arwin12]

all my papers of my diagnosese are at my moms house i dont live with her when im threre for christmas ill take pics this shit not a flex its hellish.

meanwhile heres my adhd meds
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neurodivergence will forever have its challenges i dont wish this on anyone

yeah wtv i want narcissism disorder proof not adhd but good luck