renos
i want love not lust
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We live in a time where sleeping with as many people as possible is seen as a flex, as something we should be proud of if we do it.
Especially on this site, many people want to ascend with the goal of being able to sleep with more people.
And I get it. We’re wired for validation, and sadly sex is one of the highest forms of it today.
But I’m here to challenge that.
Not from a place of copium and bitterness, but from observation, logic, and science.
Not just physically, skin to skin, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
It’s a total surrender. A shared vulnerability.
That’s sacred.
We’ve just forgotten it.
-Even in most religious traditions, sex was never seen as dirty, it was seen as holy, when practiced within love and commitment.
Something meant to unite souls, not just bodies.
"The more sexual partners someone has before marriage, the higher the risk of divorce"
Study link
And no, there were no gender differences in this pattern.
If you train your brain to treat sex as disposable, how will you suddenly flip the switch when it’s time for something real?
Your neural pathways are wired for detachment.
You’ve practiced disconnection so much, commitment feels unnatural.
It’s a poor substitute.
You can fill your nights with bodies and still wake up feeling empty.
Because that hole inside you? It’s not shaped like lust.
It’s shaped like connection, yearning for real love
Or do you want a deep bond, a stable love, a family you don’t want to run from?
But real freedom is being able to choose someone and build something that lasts.
To wake up next to the same face and still feel peace, joy, and meaning.
That’s not boring. That’s beautiful.
We’re not “winning.”
We’re numbing.
We’re coping.
We’re avoiding our own emptiness by pretending meaningless sex will fill it.
Slaying isn’t cool.
It’s often a symptom of something unhealed.
True power is in restraint.
In choosing depth over distraction.
In saying:
It’s being so whole that you can give yourself to one person, fully and fearlessly.
Without needing to prove anything.
That’s intimacy.
That’s what lasts.
- in love, renos (also known as milchbubi88)
Especially on this site, many people want to ascend with the goal of being able to sleep with more people.
And I get it. We’re wired for validation, and sadly sex is one of the highest forms of it today.
But I’m here to challenge that.
Not from a place of copium and bitterness, but from observation, logic, and science.
Sex Isn’t Just Physical
Sex is the closest you can get to another human being.Not just physically, skin to skin, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
It’s a total surrender. A shared vulnerability.
That’s sacred.
We’ve just forgotten it.
-Even in most religious traditions, sex was never seen as dirty, it was seen as holy, when practiced within love and commitment.
Something meant to unite souls, not just bodies.
More Partners = Higher Divorce Risk
A study published in the National Library of Medicine found this:"The more sexual partners someone has before marriage, the higher the risk of divorce"
Study linkAnd no, there were no gender differences in this pattern.
-Why This Happens
Because habits matter.If you train your brain to treat sex as disposable, how will you suddenly flip the switch when it’s time for something real?
Your neural pathways are wired for detachment.
You’ve practiced disconnection so much, commitment feels unnatural.
Sex ≠ Love
Sex isn’t a replacement for love.It’s a poor substitute.
You can fill your nights with bodies and still wake up feeling empty.
Because that hole inside you? It’s not shaped like lust.
It’s shaped like connection, yearning for real love
Ask Yourself Honestly
Do you want to be 40, jaded, still chasing novelty until nothing excites you?Or do you want a deep bond, a stable love, a family you don’t want to run from?
Real Freedom is Choosing Love
We think “freedom” means no attachment.But real freedom is being able to choose someone and build something that lasts.
To wake up next to the same face and still feel peace, joy, and meaning.
That’s not boring. That’s beautiful.
Hard Truths
Most of us aren’t proud of our body counts.We’re not “winning.”
We’re numbing.
We’re coping.
We’re avoiding our own emptiness by pretending meaningless sex will fill it.
Slaying isn’t cool.
It’s often a symptom of something unhealed.
True power is in restraint.
In choosing depth over distraction.
In saying:
The Ultimate flex
The real flex isn’t how many people you’ve slept with.It’s being so whole that you can give yourself to one person, fully and fearlessly.
Without needing to prove anything.
That’s intimacy.
That’s what lasts.
- in love, renos (also known as milchbubi88)
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