WHY IM SO HIGH INHIB

[Deleted member 6095]

Ever since I was a kid my choice never really mattered unless I left my parents bubble. Everything was forced upon me. Now they have the audacity to say I don't make enough choices WHEN THEY SHUT DOWN EVERYTHING I TRY TO DO. The only reason I'm not completely socially retarded is because I basically lived at my friend's house from 8-13.

When I'm cooking and my mom comes in she CONTROLS everything and starts criticizing my every action making me feel terrible.

With my dad I can't even present him information he doesn't want to hear without him calling me a smartass or uneducated.

Now being forced to be around them at all times has reverted my previous decently open self at college to a loner who can never talk.

My parents are 20 years YOUNGER than most parents of people my age. But they act OLDER. Fucking immigrant culture makes them so outdated they can't support anything I want to do or have done. They don't even listen to me bc of their culture saying AGE>ALL.

VALIDATION BREEDS CONFIDENCE. When all your choices are ridiculed or RECIEVED with negative emotions one becomes emotionally stunted.

I won't ever recover from this.

 

[Danish_Retard]

It is what it is. Sulking on an obscure incel forum won't do you any good, what are your plans to correct this?

 

[Deleted member 6095]

It is what it is. Sulking on an obscure incel forum won't do you any good, what are your plans to correct this?

All I can do is cold approach and move out tbh. I am cybersecurity maxxing RN. When I get a steady income of 20k a month (before taxes), then I will gtfo

 

[Lux]

High inhibition is different from what your describing.

 

[Deleted member 6095]

High inhibition is different from what your describing.

How so? I can't present any of my ideas or thoughts for fear of rejection, and this translates to out of my home aswell. I thought that's what inhibition was?

 

[Corperal]

Everyone is dealt with different cards in live, most of the things are out of our control.
Stop wining on a incel forum and start tackling the problem my brother.

 

[Patrick Baitman]

Vaccines

 

[Deleted member 6095]

Everyone is dealt with different cards in live, most of the things are out of our control.
Stop wining on a incel forum and start tackling the problem my brother.

I mean that's the point of inceldom lmao. We were dealt shit cards leading us into this situation. They often are stacked aswell, meaning that the results from your negative traits grow exponentially.

Chad doesn't even fucking care about his parents because he KNOWS he has options outside of them.

I am forced to grovel and lick their boots because of how I am.

Life can't just be all about self improvement. It's important to explain emotions too imo.

 

[Deleted member 6305]

Didn't you have your rebel years?

 

[Lux]

How so? I can't present any of my ideas or thoughts for fear of rejection, and this translates to out of my home aswell. I thought that's what inhibition was?

Maybe you are high inhibition but the root of the problem sounds like low serotonin/ self worth from being bullied by your parents. You can fix high inhibition/ anxiety with alcohol, xanax, beta blockers, & other drugs. I'm getting the feeling these wouldn't help you.

 

[Deleted member 6095]

Didn't you have your rebel years?

If you define rebel years as me saying anything that disagreed with my parents and then them just shutting off my internet. I was never a druggie alcohol kid. Never hung out with people irl. Didn't want to make myself dumber or anything in the future.

Probably did me more harm than good

 

[Deleted member 6305]

If you define rebel years as me saying anything that disagreed with my parents and then them just shutting off my internet. I was never a druggie alcohol kid. Never hung out with people irl. Didn't want to make myself dumber or anything in the future.

Probably did me more harm than good

You should actually, wouldn't make them take your good behavior for granted

 

[Gonthar]

Have you tried telling your parents: "Dude! Just chill..."....?

 

[Deleted member 6095]

Have you tried telling your parents: "Dude! Just chill..."....?

They don't care lmao. They want to groom me into a perfect child. When I try to retaliate they just take away my phone and stuff.

 

[Gonthar]

They don't care lmao. They want to groom me into a perfect child. When I try to retaliate they just take away my phone and stuff.

Hold on, how old are you?

 

[Deleted member 6095]

Hold on, how old are you?

19

 

[Gonthar]

19

It's time to move then. Just go and don't look back, get your own place and live free.