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The idea that one's appearance influences their life choices and opportunities is one that is not only self-evident but also blatantly obvious. It is observed as early as childhood where Children prefer attractive faces to unattractive faces, where the ugly child does not receive as much attention and/ or social acceptance as the attractive one, and so on. The implications become much more numerous and significant with age as individuals become part of a more complex social structure. So looks begin to influence sexual success, workplace success, social perception, individual perception, personal accountability (legal system) etc....
Take a moment and think of it. Picture a male supermodel and an ugly deformed man. Everyone without exception is going to perceive the handsome man as being better than the ugly one. People see the best in him simply because of the fact that he is handsome. Our brains are awed by the flawlessness and perfection of his face. Dopamine is released. We can't help but stare at him in wonder and admiration. We immediately recognize his genetic superiority (perhaps our brain even links it to a better upbringing and better overall health). He is immediately perceived as being intelligent, brave, socially capable, gentle, charming, so on. The ugly man is seen as inferior in every way possible. The unevenness and pronouncedness (couldn't find a better word to convey this thought) of his face leads to him being perceived as primitive, unintelligent, incompetent, brutish, unempathetic, socially handicapped, "creepy", sickly, etc. And nothing can change this perception. You may get to know and befriend him and discover that he is none of the above. But you will never see him the same way as you would a conventionally attractive man. Something just doesn't feel right. This ingrained animal instinct stays there.
So the point of me writing this is to show ridiculous it is that society somehow still believes in the "personality trumps looks" narrative. That those who emphasize and prioritize physical attraction are somehow shallow or simple-minded. How the f*ck do men believe these women when they lie to their faces and tell them that "oh, for me, like, it's all about the personality, looks aren't that important haha". I just don't understand.
How is this not basic societal wisdom? How is it not made clear to us from early on that the most attractive among us are the ones who will enjoy the highest standard of living? That attractive faces are naturally seen as trustworthy? That everyone wants to mate with an attractive person? That sexual attraction is based purely on physical appearance?
No amount of social conditioning and modern-day virtue signalling can trump hundreds of thousands of years of evolutionary preferences. So why isn't lookism / looks theory an accepted and widely promulgated social truth.......
Take a moment and think of it. Picture a male supermodel and an ugly deformed man. Everyone without exception is going to perceive the handsome man as being better than the ugly one. People see the best in him simply because of the fact that he is handsome. Our brains are awed by the flawlessness and perfection of his face. Dopamine is released. We can't help but stare at him in wonder and admiration. We immediately recognize his genetic superiority (perhaps our brain even links it to a better upbringing and better overall health). He is immediately perceived as being intelligent, brave, socially capable, gentle, charming, so on. The ugly man is seen as inferior in every way possible. The unevenness and pronouncedness (couldn't find a better word to convey this thought) of his face leads to him being perceived as primitive, unintelligent, incompetent, brutish, unempathetic, socially handicapped, "creepy", sickly, etc. And nothing can change this perception. You may get to know and befriend him and discover that he is none of the above. But you will never see him the same way as you would a conventionally attractive man. Something just doesn't feel right. This ingrained animal instinct stays there.
So the point of me writing this is to show ridiculous it is that society somehow still believes in the "personality trumps looks" narrative. That those who emphasize and prioritize physical attraction are somehow shallow or simple-minded. How the f*ck do men believe these women when they lie to their faces and tell them that "oh, for me, like, it's all about the personality, looks aren't that important haha". I just don't understand.
How is this not basic societal wisdom? How is it not made clear to us from early on that the most attractive among us are the ones who will enjoy the highest standard of living? That attractive faces are naturally seen as trustworthy? That everyone wants to mate with an attractive person? That sexual attraction is based purely on physical appearance?
No amount of social conditioning and modern-day virtue signalling can trump hundreds of thousands of years of evolutionary preferences. So why isn't lookism / looks theory an accepted and widely promulgated social truth.......