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Why optimizing your looks won't get you more women
My problem with looksmaxers is that they put far too much emphasis on looks and don't account for the fact that congruent social skills must be possessed with better appearance, because there is an expectation placed on attractive men to behave a certain way when interacting with women. While they enhanced their appearance, they did not develop the game/social skills to go along with it, and this confuses women.
This is something many men who self improve can't predict until it occurs, and that's incongruence. The good well groomed, built, and attractive man behaving in a manner that is incongruent with who he presents. That is, he is not behaving or speaking like a man who attractive, built, and well groomed. Normally, many guys who optimize their looks (looksmaxers) don't realize that while they will get more attention from women after their hard work, that they must possess adequate and congruent social skills and an understanding of women and female nature to go along with that.
Imagine looking like Michael B. Jordan, approaching a woman and being timid, stuttering, and being boring and logical in conversation and not simulating her emotions. It wouldn't make sense, right?
So, when guys who become attractive after putting in work approach women and they behave in a way that is incongruent with who he presents (awkward, bad social skills, can't make her laugh) a massive red flag is raised because they immediately assume something is wrong with him because he is not who he presents himself to be. They are comparing you to less attractive guys who were more confident, had better social skills, were more funny despite being most likely considerably less attractive.
Being attractive allows you to put your foot in the door and hold it their for a little bit longer (women will give you more opportunities to build attraction with them) but ultimately if you don't possess the necessary understanding of women, game, or social skills that a guy should have who is attractive it's a wrap. Sometimes, if you are a woman's physical type, you will get dates, but her emotions still need to be stimulated in order for her to desire to stay with you.
You should absolutely work optimize every aspect of your life you can, but this alone will not get you very far. You may be able to sleep with women, but if the social skills (*game)* isn't there, you won't sustain women.
Edit: I literally mentioned this in the post but I guess not everyone read all of it: looks can get you women, and even get you laid, but looks alone are not enough to sustain women, and looks alone aren't enough to make a woman want to sleep with you
Furthermore, I literally wrote that all men should optimize their looks
You should absolutely optimize your looks.but that alone is not going to get you women or get you laid
Edit 2: this is coming from someone who is jacked and ripped.
I made this short, so read this for a more thorough understanding of why good looking men struggle with women: https://open.substack.com/pub/jacke...h?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web
TL;DR After increasing your looks or becoming attractive after not being attractive, you must have adequate social skills typically associated with someone with your looks.
My problem with looksmaxers is that they put far too much emphasis on looks and don't account for the fact that congruent social skills must be possessed with better appearance, because there is an expectation placed on attractive men to behave a certain way when interacting with women. While they enhanced their appearance, they did not develop the game/social skills to go along with it, and this confuses women.
This is something many men who self improve can't predict until it occurs, and that's incongruence. The good well groomed, built, and attractive man behaving in a manner that is incongruent with who he presents. That is, he is not behaving or speaking like a man who attractive, built, and well groomed. Normally, many guys who optimize their looks (looksmaxers) don't realize that while they will get more attention from women after their hard work, that they must possess adequate and congruent social skills and an understanding of women and female nature to go along with that.
Imagine looking like Michael B. Jordan, approaching a woman and being timid, stuttering, and being boring and logical in conversation and not simulating her emotions. It wouldn't make sense, right?
So, when guys who become attractive after putting in work approach women and they behave in a way that is incongruent with who he presents (awkward, bad social skills, can't make her laugh) a massive red flag is raised because they immediately assume something is wrong with him because he is not who he presents himself to be. They are comparing you to less attractive guys who were more confident, had better social skills, were more funny despite being most likely considerably less attractive.
Being attractive allows you to put your foot in the door and hold it their for a little bit longer (women will give you more opportunities to build attraction with them) but ultimately if you don't possess the necessary understanding of women, game, or social skills that a guy should have who is attractive it's a wrap. Sometimes, if you are a woman's physical type, you will get dates, but her emotions still need to be stimulated in order for her to desire to stay with you.
You should absolutely work optimize every aspect of your life you can, but this alone will not get you very far. You may be able to sleep with women, but if the social skills (*game)* isn't there, you won't sustain women.
Edit: I literally mentioned this in the post but I guess not everyone read all of it: looks can get you women, and even get you laid, but looks alone are not enough to sustain women, and looks alone aren't enough to make a woman want to sleep with you
Furthermore, I literally wrote that all men should optimize their looks
You should absolutely optimize your looks.but that alone is not going to get you women or get you laid
Edit 2: this is coming from someone who is jacked and ripped.
I made this short, so read this for a more thorough understanding of why good looking men struggle with women: https://open.substack.com/pub/jacke...h?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web
TL;DR After increasing your looks or becoming attractive after not being attractive, you must have adequate social skills typically associated with someone with your looks.
