Why the fuck am I so autistic when my dad is with me?

[Turanid_Bull]

I am normally a pretty normal dude in terms of nt and all that. But when I am with my dad and lets say I have to talk to a third guy, I become really autistic. This doesn't happen with anyone else. He is literally the only person I am afraid of in my life and because of this I cannot connect with him. I am friends with my mom and siblings and cousins and other family members but with my dad there is always this barrier and its really weird. He has a temper and takes everything too seriously and because of this i cannot make any jokes or talk about anything that isn't about school, my future or religion. I am so tired of this shit. I want a dad who is more than just a religious teacher and a professional consultant.

 

[Deleted member 6129]

Dn read

 

[CristianT]

Dn read

 

[Alexanderr]

Is he taller than you?

 

[Deleted member 1338]

seems like a toxic father to me, your father is supposed to be your best friend.

 

[Deleted member 39]

My parents are very open, I could talk about anything. But I'm still very high inhib and autistic, when talking to others, to the point I can't form proper sentences when I'm speaking

 

[Deleted member 6129]

seems like a toxic father to me, your father is supposed to be your best friend.

Remove that faggot from your avi

 

[medialcanthuscel]

 

[sandcelmuttcel]

i feel u op

 

[Lelek]

same tbh

 

[Turanid_Bull]

Is he taller than you?

2 cm taller. It's not really about height.

seems like a toxic father to me, your father is supposed to be your best friend.

I am close friends with 3 people and my mom. Practically really distant with my dad. Sometimes I can't wait to leave for university just to be away from him. It is really subtle. Like he won't ever beat me but he will easily make me uncomfortable. Like he asks me if i want to do something and when i say i don't, then he will talk for a few minutes and then tell me to do it anyway. He does this thing where he says he doesnt force me to do anything and then immediately gets upset when i do my own thing. He is very nice until things don't happen his own way and its really "creepy" in a weird way. Creepy is the wrong word because I am not scared when I am with him but you just don't know when the veil of niceness will go away.

He is very close to new experiences and having fun. He is religous too and because of this I missed out on a ton of good experiences of having socialising with people a lot during middle school and hs.

I don't know. It's difficult to describe everything here. I just feel very constrained when I am with him.

I look back at myself and I think the reason for my autistic behaviour is because I have been conditioned to be shot down whenever I am myself (with him), so now I get very cold and like a robot when I am with him because I know that when I show my own preferences and opinions he will either react negatively or not care.

 

[Deleted member 1338]

2 cm taller. It's not really about height.

I am close friends with 3 people and my mom. Practically really distant with my dad. Sometimes I can't wait to leave for university just to be away from him. It is really subtle. Like he won't ever beat me but he will easily make me uncomfortable. Like he asks me if i want to do something and when i say i don't, then he will talk for a few minutes and then tell me to do it anyway. He does this thing where he says he doesnt force me to do anything and then immediately gets upset when i do my own thing. He is very nice until things don't happen his own way and its really "creepy" in a weird way. Creepy is the wrong word because I am not scared when I am with him but you just don't know when the veil of niceness will go away.

He is very close to new experiences and having fun. He is religous too and because of this I missed out on a ton of good experiences of having socialising with people a lot during middle school and hs.

I don't know. It's difficult to describe everything here. I just feel very constrained when I am with him.

I look back at myself and I think the reason for my autistic behaviour is because I have been conditioned to be shot down whenever I am myself (with him), so now I get very cold and like a robot when I am with him because I know that when I show my own preferences and opinions he will either react negatively or not care.

he seems like a sociopath tbh, I'm sorry but I don't think he love you I think he just love to be on control. it gives him some sort of satisfaction. is he like that toward everyone in your family or just you?

 

[Alexanderr]

2 cm taller. It's not really about height.

It all makes sense now.
You subconsciously feel like genetic trash when near your dad because you’re not taller than him. Usually sons will be taller than their dads but this isn’t the case with you.
I’d never be intimidated by someone significantly shorter than me, unless they held a weapon and even then, it’d be the weapon intimidating me.

Conclusion: The cure to your autism is lifts or LL.

Case closed.

Ah, yet another aspie saved by Dr. Alexanderr

 

[Turanid_Bull]

he seems like a sociopath tbh, I'm sorry but I don't think he love you I think he just love to be on control. it gives him some sort of satisfaction. is he like that toward everyone in your family or just you?

He certainly likes the control, but its not like he doesn't love us either. He is like this to everyone in the family, but to me and my mom the most. He is also pretty much a heavy boomer. Like forget about the memes. He is out of touch and I don't mean with bullshit like whatever is happening with celebrities and whats popular or anything of that sort, but he is out of touch with whats going on around him. He won't stop talking for sometimes literally hours to me and then right after that goes to his tv where he falls asleep on the couch at 2 and then the next day tells me he needs to change his schedule because he has a headache for some reason.

I am the only one in the family who never watches tv (i hate tv). I am the only one who reads. I am the only one who is routinely working out and cycling and taking care of his diet. I am the only one who's basically thinking hard about his life and planning ahead. It's really funny because I actually follow his advice and he always makes the mistakes he tells me not to do. However, he won't realise any of this.

We are a muslim family so he will read a few pages from the kuran and act like he is superior to me because me reading 100 pages a day is somehow not as good as him reading a book he cannot understand every now and then. He keeps mentioning how on top of my ligical mind i need to supplement my soul. It's so dreadful and if it was someone else i would tell them to fuck off, but because its my dad I can't otherwise he will fuck me up. If this is what the average 40 year old is like then I am guessing life isn't really gonna be as hard as they say. These people are just making it worse for themselves by their laziness. My whole life I've never seen him finish a book or do sports for more than 3 times a year. His body has become soft and if not for his good frame he would look pathetic. He misses his deadlines and makes many other mistakes where if i made them he would berate me for 10s of minutes.

It all makes sense now.
You subconsciously feel like genetic trash when near your dad because you’re not taller than him. Usually sons will be taller than their dads but this isn’t the case with you.
I’d never be intimidated by someone significantly shorter than me, unless they held a weapon and even then, it’d be the weapon intimidating me.

Conclusion: The cure to your autism is lifts or LL.

Case closed.

Ah, yet another aspie saved by Dr. Alexanderr

Believe men man it's not about height at all. I am used to being with people who are 20 cm taller than me. 2 cm is nothing and we are basically a the same eye level when we talk.

 

[Deleted member 1338]

It all makes sense now.
You subconsciously feel like genetic trash when near your dad because you’re not taller than him. Usually sons will be taller than their dads but this isn’t the case with you.
I’d never be intimidated by someone significantly shorter than me, unless they held a weapon and even then, it’d be the weapon intimidating me.

Conclusion: The cure to your autism is lifts or LL.

Case closed.

Ah, yet another aspie saved by Dr. Alexanderr

I'm 6'1 my father and all of my brothers are +6'3, I never feel intimidation from them, just my mom because she has anger management issues. I always avoid her.

I think you just need to grow some balls if you feel intimation from others looks.

 

[SpearOfOrion]

I also act like an autist in front of ceratain people. Weird.

 

[Dutcher]

Same op my dad is a not so smart boomer

 

[FootLongDong]

Search for a sugar daddy autistic faggot

 

[Turanid_Bull]

Same op my dad is a not so smart boomer

It's funny cuz now ive realised this, this is supposed to be my mentor?

Take away religion which I don't believe in and professional work experience, I am more knowledgable and insightful than him in most other things. It's crazy. And believe me this isn't just my youthful insolence talking here. Rn my hope is to just leave and make my own life and be the individual I want to be. Otherwise this life I am living rn would be unbearable.

 

[crosshold]

same

 

[Deleted member 3323]

OP I was the exact same way with my father and I still am afraid of him somewhat but whay really helped is actually trying to connect with him.

 

[Dutcher]

It's funny cuz now ive realised this, this is supposed to be my mentor?

Take away religion which I don't believe in and professional work experience, I am more knowledgable and insightful than him in most other things. It's crazy. And believe me this isn't just my youthful insolence talking here. Rn my hope is to just leave and make my own life and be the individual I want to be. Otherwise this life I am living rn would be unbearable.

Legit bro my dad hobbies is watching the news and sleeping. No knowledge about anything else. He doesn’t give a shit about me. Never taught me anything “manly” or anything at all. I just want to get away from him and become my own man

 

[balding17yomanletcel]

NOT A SINGLE FUCKING WORD

 

[middayshowers]

over for meek abusedcels

 

[Deleted member 4209]

ur dad is alpha

 

[Elias]

Offtopic @Lorsss

 

[Deleted member 685]

Be glad you have a dad