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beyondwego
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everyone always pushes this idea that being super flirty and acting like u really want a girl right off the bat is gone get u the girl.
here is the actual reality of how attraction works.
when u act overly available and throw all your cards on the table immediately, u completely kill the mystery. human psychology is wired to value things that take a little bit of effort to get. if she knows exactly where she stands with u from day one and knows u are already completely sold on her, there is zero challenge.
a lot of times, when u just throw validation at someone for free, it doesn't make them like u more. it just gives them an ego boost. they get all the benefits of feeling wanted without actually having to invest any energy back into u.
that's why that advice is a trap. it makes u look like u have no options and no boundaries.
if u actually want to build attraction, u have to match energy. u can show interest, but u don't just hand over all your attention and validation for nothing. keep some mystery, focus on your own life, and make them actually work for your time.
stop giving it away for free.
here is the actual reality of how attraction works.
when u act overly available and throw all your cards on the table immediately, u completely kill the mystery. human psychology is wired to value things that take a little bit of effort to get. if she knows exactly where she stands with u from day one and knows u are already completely sold on her, there is zero challenge.
a lot of times, when u just throw validation at someone for free, it doesn't make them like u more. it just gives them an ego boost. they get all the benefits of feeling wanted without actually having to invest any energy back into u.
that's why that advice is a trap. it makes u look like u have no options and no boundaries.
if u actually want to build attraction, u have to match energy. u can show interest, but u don't just hand over all your attention and validation for nothing. keep some mystery, focus on your own life, and make them actually work for your time.
stop giving it away for free.
