Why We Seek Validation?

[randomvanish]

Let's say that a person only focus on his success with working/studying.
Either studying for the best jobs or launching a business and work only for the success. Not caring what others think.
And of course being succesful comes with money.
So you can buy stuff, even get stacies with money. (for only sex of course)

Then why we want "love", intimacy and validation from others.
Geniunely, why you want to mog by your look and get validation from others by your look ?

 

[WadlowMaxxing]

self validation

 

[Deleted member 5048]

I seek validation cause I am insecure, narcy, I'm an abused dog

 

[Troika]

Because looking good opens up a lot doors that would normally be closed off to an average looking person

 

[randomvanish]

self validation

why ?
looks are much harder to get then being rich in these days.
you cannot just be a chad if your base is not good enough. so you need to self validate yourself just by your looks since you can get easier ways like money,status etc.

 

[randomvanish]

Because looking good opens up a lot doors that would normally be closed off to an average looking person

like what ? being an instagrammer ?
Except that looks' effects are limited in real world. because majority of people are "average".

 

[Deleted member 11053]

Cause its easier to get validation from other people than ourselves. We tend to be harder on ourselves than others but if we are harder on ourselves it's cause we place big expectations on ourselves, other peoples not so much they dont expect too much from us so imo you should always try to seek validation from yourself if you want great results.

 

[Troika]

looks' effects are limited in real world. because majority of people are "average".

The majority of people being average is even more reason to looksmax. If simply being over the curve is enough to standout, why wouldn't you do what you can to improve your looks?

 

[randomvanish]

Cause its easier to get validation from other people than ourselves. We tend to be harder on ourselves than others but if we are harder on ourselves it's cause we place big expectations on ourselves, other peoples not so much they dont expect too much from us so imo you should always try to seek validation from yourself if you want great results.

i understand that but i just want to know why looks ?
don't you feel dopamine rush if you see more money on your account?
or being top of your job as your skills are expanded ?
or buying a new house, new car etc.
why looks ? because it's risky, hard to get and generally never enough. since majority of this forum at best average.

 

[Deleted member 11053]

i understand that but i just want to know why looks ?
don't you feel dopamine rush if you see more money on your account?
or being top of your job as your skills are expanded ?
or buying a new house, new car etc.
why looks ? because it's risky, hard to get and generally never enough. since majority of this forum at best average.

Idk tbh im not really sure

 

[Favela_cake]

Let's say that a person only focus on his success with working/studying.
Either studying for the best jobs or launching a business and work only for the success. Not caring what others think.
And of course being succesful comes with money.
So you can buy stuff, even get stacies with money. (for only sex of course)

Then why we want "love", intimacy and validation from others.
Geniunely, why you want to mog by your look and get validation from others by your look ?

I was actually thinking about this today. I don't think there's a logical explanation for it thb.

 

[Favela_cake]

Don't know if you're religious but christianity talks alot about this

 

[Deleted member 6341]

I don't care that much about validation. I just want to get an attractive, HQNP loyal white girlfriend. But to do that, I have to get surgeries and become good-looking.

 

[Curlbrahhh]

Everything in life is about validation, conciously and subconsciously.People study reallll hard to get a good degree that equals a higher status. Getting higher status= more validation.Why do you want a better job,get into a good college, a bigger house, car, better clothes, better cellphone, etc? To impress others(more specifically females) so your chances of reproducing are higher.Our main biological goals in life are to survive and reproduce...Validation from others is essential for both.

 

[Deleted member 6341]

So you can buy stuff, even get stacies with money. (for only sex of course)

I can't. No amount of money can make me attractive enough to date Eva Cudmore. Good looking girls in real life can not be obtained through money alone.