kurd
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On average, guys and girls usually cheat for different reasons.
Guys tend to cheat more for physical stuff or just wanting something new.
Girls, though, are more likely to cheat when something’s missing emotionally or mentally.
Main reasons:
Feeling emotionally disconnected
Wanting attention or validation
Thinking there might be someone “better” out there (emotionally or socially)
Slowly drifting away before anything physical even happens
Justifying it in their head like “I’m not being treated right” or “something’s missing”
For a lot of women, cheating doesn’t just randomly happen physically it usually starts in their mind first, like catching feelings or forming an emotional connection with someone else.
Most of the time, it’s not super deep thinking in the moment, it’s more like emotional justification.
Stuff like:
“This feels good right now”
“It’s not even that serious anymore”
“I’m not gonna get caught”
There’s usually also a kind of mental disconnect from the relationship. Like, she’s already checked out emotionally, so it doesn’t feel as “real” or wrong in the moment.
Afterwards, it depends on the person. Some feel guilty pretty quickly, others just keep justifying it, and some don’t really feel bad at all or the guilt hits way later.
Red flags (patterns to pay attention to)
Always needing attention or validation from other people
Not really having clear boundaries with other guys
Hot and cold emotionally, like you never know where you stand
Overlapping relationships or messy timelines with exes
Never taking accountability, everything is always someone else’s fault
Thrives off attention or constantly seeks it
Always talking bad about exes, calling all of them “toxic”
Jumping from person to person without taking time alone
Complicated family stuff that still affects how they act
How to avoid this situation
Choose based on character, not just looks
Watch what she does, not just what she says, anyone can say the right things, but actions early on tell you everything
If you notice red flags, don’t ignore them hoping it’ll change just move on
Don’t tolerate disrespect or weak boundaries from the start
Trust your gut if something feels off
Keep your own standards and self respect, don’t lower them just to keep someone
Also, where you meet someone can matter, but it’s not black and white. Meeting someone at a club or on a dating app doesn’t automatically mean they won’t take you seriously but those environments can sometimes be more casual.
If you’re looking for something real, you’re more likely to find it in places where people are focused on growth or stability, like school, work, hobbies, or religious communities.
Cheating is always a choice made by the person who does it. It is never the fault of the partner.
No one is “forced” to cheat, women will alot of the time gaslight you saying it is your fault for them cheating, or lie about it, or start crying so you feel bad for them..
At the same time, you should reflect not to blame yourself, but to learn:
Did I ignore red flags?
Did I tolerate behavior I shouldn’t have?
Did I stay too long after things changed?
Do not negotiate your self respect
Begging or chasing rarely fixes betrayal.
You really think your girl respects you if you let shit let go, like her being disrespectful to you? You need to make it known to her from the start, that you can walk off any moment and replace her fucking ass. Don’t tolerate disrespect.
Judge actions, not apologies.
Anyone can say sorry, but real accountability is about actually changing over time.
Most of the time, the strongest move is just walking away.
No need for revenge, that just drags things out.
TL;DR:
You’re not responsible for someone else betraying you.
You are responsible for your standards, your boundaries, and what you choose to tolerate.
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