ElySioNs
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This is a follow up to my previous post where I worried my wife was having an affair because our sex life was non existent. I was also worried she was putting so much effort into her appearance I wondered if she was having an affair. Thanks to comments from my previous post I decided to have a good conversation with my wife even though I was scared. To her credit she tried to push through some of her issues.
The following is going to seem a bit random but they are the main points from the conversation. If any of this seems familiar or makes sense to people I’d love to know.
The first thing is, we are having sex again, but I don’t feel we are out of the DB woods and I expect to be back there soon. So I’m tackling now. My wife said she is somewhat attracted to me now that I’ve lost the excess 10lb I put on during lockdown. However she also told me she has a very high sex drive that means she horny a lot but doesn’t want sex with me. In some ways she feels it’s misleading to me to have sex with me when she’s not horny about me.
She also said that she had been thinking of ending our marriage around the time our DB began. I still don’t understand the big issue beyond she’s less attracted to me.
Right now, she feels we are communicating on a deeper level and are on a much better path. What gutted me though was she followed that up with that things are getting good now, but if in a few years our marriage is over we can both say we’ve given it our best.
She has repeated this a few times now. Each time it hurts, as she is saying she loves me so much and how much better our relationship is now.
There is another part of this conversation that I just don’t get. She said that I put too much sexual pressure on her, by which she means that I don’t talk about other women. She said she felt that I was the only woman I was attracted to.
She asked me to talk about which of her friends were hot. I was incredibly worried about being honest but when I was she was really happy and receptive.
We are having sex on occasion but I don’t expect this to continue. I’m really pleased she feels we are making “progress” but I don’t feel confident.
The biggest shock is to discover that she is HL and apparently easy turned on. Yet it’s rarely for me (as she feels having sex with me when she not into me is disrespecting me)
The following is going to seem a bit random but they are the main points from the conversation. If any of this seems familiar or makes sense to people I’d love to know.
The first thing is, we are having sex again, but I don’t feel we are out of the DB woods and I expect to be back there soon. So I’m tackling now. My wife said she is somewhat attracted to me now that I’ve lost the excess 10lb I put on during lockdown. However she also told me she has a very high sex drive that means she horny a lot but doesn’t want sex with me. In some ways she feels it’s misleading to me to have sex with me when she’s not horny about me.
She also said that she had been thinking of ending our marriage around the time our DB began. I still don’t understand the big issue beyond she’s less attracted to me.
Right now, she feels we are communicating on a deeper level and are on a much better path. What gutted me though was she followed that up with that things are getting good now, but if in a few years our marriage is over we can both say we’ve given it our best.
She has repeated this a few times now. Each time it hurts, as she is saying she loves me so much and how much better our relationship is now.
There is another part of this conversation that I just don’t get. She said that I put too much sexual pressure on her, by which she means that I don’t talk about other women. She said she felt that I was the only woman I was attracted to.
She asked me to talk about which of her friends were hot. I was incredibly worried about being honest but when I was she was really happy and receptive.
We are having sex on occasion but I don’t expect this to continue. I’m really pleased she feels we are making “progress” but I don’t feel confident.
The biggest shock is to discover that she is HL and apparently easy turned on. Yet it’s rarely for me (as she feels having sex with me when she not into me is disrespecting me)
