Wife told me about an American woman pushing a British man to marry by 30

[Xangsane]

She is 28, he is 29. Both are white. Dating for a few years. Young professionals. The woman is asking the man to engage and marry because she wants it by 30, otherwise she is threatening to leave. Man doesn’t seem keen, and wants to cohabit until 40ish then marry.

Unsurprisingly she’s from Louisiana.

She is blonde HTB, he is low MTN.

Whose side are you on?

 

[Xangsane]

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[Xangsane]

@ltn_looksminner why the woman?

 

[Deleted member 91663]

Whose side are you on?

"I am not altogether on anybody's side, because nobody is altogether on my side"- Treebeard

 

[ltn_looksminner]

@ltn_looksminner why the woman?

If she is HTB and the man is MTN then she is the one who sets the rules as she technically has the looks authority (sounds corny ) , but besides she has the right to ask for a marriage as she needs to secure her life , there’s no guarantee that the mtn nigga is gonna marry her later on

 

[Xangsane]

"I am not altogether on anybody's side, because nobody is altogether on my side"- Treebeard

Huh

 

[Brus Wane]

Everytime I see a @Xangsane post I am baffled

How can a married man post so much here ... married man with a job and all that shit too

Funny that some lousiana chick wants to lock down some Brit...is he aristocrat tier?
Most UKcels are football and pint enjoyers ... who even wants to get married these days

 

[Xangsane]

If she is HTB and the man is MTN then she is the one who sets the rules as she technically has the looks authority (sounds corny ) , but besides she has the right to ask for a marriage as she needs to secure her life , there’s no guarantee that the mtn nigga is gonna marry her later on

Exactly. A lot of Northern Europeans for some reason prefer to cohabit than marry
It’s bizarre yet makes sense that many American and even Aussie foids seem more eager to be married than their Northern European counterparts
Including males
wtf I’m surprised

Everytime I see a @Xangsane post I am baffled

How can a married man post so much here ... married man with a job and all that shit too

I don’t even post here much these days.

Funny that some lousiana chick wants to lock down some Brit...is he aristocrat tier?
Most UKcels are football and pint enjoyers ... who even wants to get married these days

She works in the UK.

 

[Xangsane]

Exactly. A lot of Northern Europeans for some reason prefer to cohabit than marry
It’s bizarre yet makes sense that many American and even Aussie foids seem more eager to be married than their Northern European counterparts
Including males
wtf I’m surprised

I don’t even post here much these days.

She works in the UK.

Here northern euros drag it out unless if you’re brown
Not saying Americans are like browns but they do get married earlier than uk and northern euros

 

[Brus Wane]

Exactly. A lot of Northern Europeans for some reason prefer to cohabit than marry
It’s bizarre yet makes sense that many American and even Aussie foids seem more eager to be married than their Northern European counterparts
Including males
wtf I’m surprised

I don’t even post here much these days.

She works in the UK.

Europe is cohabitation land

There's even a legal way to cohabit in Sweden... it's like an official thing with benefits but not as strong as marriage

I think it's a good idea

Marriage is just asking for way too much government involvement

 

[Deleted member 91663]

If she is HTB and the man is MTN then she is the one who sets the rules as she technically has the looks authority (sounds corny ) , but besides she has the right to ask for a marriage as she needs to secure her life , there’s no guarantee that the mtn nigga is gonna marry her later on

It's not about who's right or wrong. Whoever has more leverage over the relationship will prevail.

 

[Xangsane]

Europe is cohabitation land

There's even a legal way to cohabit in Sweden... it's like an official thing with benefits but not as strong as marriage

I think it's a good idea

Marriage is just asking for way too much government involvement

And keep in mind browns might be keeping the ages down


In 2023, the average age at first marriage in Norway was 39.9 years for men and 37.3 years for women



In 2023, the average age at first marriage in Sweden was 36.8 years for men and 34.9 years for women

 

[Xangsane]

It's not about who's right or wrong. Whoever has more leverage over the relationship will prevail.

She needs to GTFO imo.

 

[Brus Wane]

And keep in mind browns might be keeping the ages down


In 2023, the average age at first marriage in Norway was 39.9 years for men and 37.3 years for women



In 2023, the average age at first marriage in Sweden was 36.8 years for men and 34.9 years for women

These stats can't be relied up though


Like I said, most euro people don't marry anymore

They just settle, have kids, start a family and then tie the knot years later when it doesn't really matter they just have a wedding because they have the money

 

[POZZO]

The woman is in the right but it is nuanced and not all details are offered.
The man needs to seriously think about what he wants for his future because if the woman wants a family it's either with him or she's wasting her time on him.

 

[Deleted member 91663]

She needs to GTFO imo.

Depends, maybe the guy is a top income earner.

She's 29, starting to get on a bit. It will take a significant time investment to find another viable long term relationship.
In that time frame, her fertility window will start to close and her looks will decline.

It's a game of poker. Do you cash in or go for broke?

 

[Deleted member 125888]

Men are always right. Women are never right.

 

[Xangsane]

These stats can't be relied up though


Like I said, most euro people don't marry anymore

They just settle, have kids, start a family and then tie the knot years later when it doesn't really matter they just have a wedding because they have the money

Unless if they’re ethnic or EE
or if one person in the relationship is ethnic

The woman is in the right but it is nuanced and not all details are offered.
The man needs to seriously think about what he wants for his future because if the woman wants a family it's either with him or she's wasting her time on him.

EXACTLY
Wife said she’s the type to be an idealist in love
and she also expects him after marriage they move back to the US
And wants to ensure the children are raised Christian but not necessarily practicing
She is a non practicing christian

Depends, maybe the guy is a top income earner.

She's 29, starting to get on a bit. It will take a significant time investment to find another viable long term relationship.
In that time frame, her fertility window will start to close and her looks will decline.

It's a game of poker. Do you cash in or go for broke?

Both earn about the same. Both young professionals
She is very keen on marriage by 30 hence she’s pushing for engagement and marriage otherwise she is threatening to leave. Wife says she’s got another option (an Australian living in the UK) on the back burner who is better looking than the British MTN and is willing to commit to her, but wife says she’s not sure if the Aussie will offer her “stability” because he’s “too hot” and doesn’t have a degree, despite him repeatedly offering her a faster track to marriage
She has started to see him behind the British guy because she doesn’t trust the him with the dragged out commitment
I’m assuming the Aussie is HTN

 

[Xangsane]

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[Xangsane]

@SecularIslamist

 

[Xangsane]

@SecularIslamist

 

[Deleted member 80130]

The man is right

 

[Xangsane]

The man is right

Y

 

[Deleted member 80130]

Y

Men have too much to lose in marriage

Divorce rape etc

 

[Xangsane]

Men have too much to lose in marriage

Divorce rape etc

Jova

 

[Deleted member 80130]

Jova

I lied to a girl I was going to move in with her and stole money

was thhat bad?