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Don’t.
Just don’t.
Look, I am a straight woman who likes men, I have good social skills and am very sociable. I’m happy to talk to strangers, to meet strangers for coffee, and to date.
You know what I’m not happy to do?
Engage with strange men who approach me in the street for anything except directions.
My automatic reaction to any man who hits on me in the street is that he’s creepy as fuck, has no social skills, is desperate enough to hit on women he doesn’t know, and is possibly dangerous.
Even if he looked sort of interesting or even sexy, I would still avoid him, because of the whole hitting-on-strange-women-in-the-street thing. A man who would do that is likely to turn violent or abusive if he’s rejected.
You want to date women, go to where women are happy to socialise: munches, church socials, college bars, parties, meet-ups, etc.
Women in the street on on their way to somewhere. They have things to do and those don’t include you. Stop interrupting their day and find better ways to date.
Edit, for the men who keep insisting that it’s fine to hit on women in the street because it’s a “numbers game”.
Is catcalling women okay? Are you okay with standing back and telling passing women what you would like to do to their genitals? No? Even though it’s a numbers game and one woman in a thousand might like it?
So how is it different coming up to them in person and telling them that they physically appeal to you? If anything, it’s worse in person, because you are close enough to hurt us if you don’t like our response. The fact that one woman in a hundred might say yes doesn’t change the fact that you have upset 99 other women for no reason except that you want to.
Just don’t.
Look, I am a straight woman who likes men, I have good social skills and am very sociable. I’m happy to talk to strangers, to meet strangers for coffee, and to date.
You know what I’m not happy to do?
Engage with strange men who approach me in the street for anything except directions.
My automatic reaction to any man who hits on me in the street is that he’s creepy as fuck, has no social skills, is desperate enough to hit on women he doesn’t know, and is possibly dangerous.
Even if he looked sort of interesting or even sexy, I would still avoid him, because of the whole hitting-on-strange-women-in-the-street thing. A man who would do that is likely to turn violent or abusive if he’s rejected.
You want to date women, go to where women are happy to socialise: munches, church socials, college bars, parties, meet-ups, etc.
Women in the street on on their way to somewhere. They have things to do and those don’t include you. Stop interrupting their day and find better ways to date.
Edit, for the men who keep insisting that it’s fine to hit on women in the street because it’s a “numbers game”.
Is catcalling women okay? Are you okay with standing back and telling passing women what you would like to do to their genitals? No? Even though it’s a numbers game and one woman in a thousand might like it?
So how is it different coming up to them in person and telling them that they physically appeal to you? If anything, it’s worse in person, because you are close enough to hurt us if you don’t like our response. The fact that one woman in a hundred might say yes doesn’t change the fact that you have upset 99 other women for no reason except that you want to.
