Woman who was drugged and unconscious dumps BF who refused to spend $200 on her to be transported to hospital on a taxi

[Xangsane]

 

[Xangsane]

My 23F bf 24M didn’t want to pay 200$ to save my life

I was at a bar with my bf and his friends a while ago. We all had a great time, dancing on tables, singing and drinking. I remember feeling totally fine one second, and the next I got VEEERY unsteady, and I lost connection with my body. I got confused and scared, but then just SO CALM. It was all types of weird. This is seconds here and there I remember, most things that happened doesn’t exist in my memory.

I became unconscious, and according to my bf, the few times I opened my eyes they looked very scared. He was told to get a taxi and get me to the emergency room fast. He managed to get me into the taxi and it started to drive. My boyfriend told me that during the drive the driver told him that he would have to pay 200$ extra if I threw up. Thren my bf said fuck no, stopped the driver and wanted to WALK to the emergency room. I was still unconscious, and he didn’t know why, or if my life was at risk.

Luckily for him, the police was driving around and saw me laying on the ground. They asked him what’s up, and drove us to the emergency room with blue lights on and fast.
They took it very seriously and without them my bf would have been lucky to even get me to the emergency room. Turns out I got drugged that night.

It got worse, as he forced me to walk with shaky legs from the emergency room the day after. A walk that should have been 20min took me 2hours. Even started talking about the fact that he could have gotten drugged too, and that maybe he got a little dugged??? Even though he didn’t feel weird at all that night???

THEN he started to talk about him paying the taxi 40$ for the little drive and how much that was! Like he wanted me to pay him back or something?? He constantly stated that it was 40$ and how sick that was. (It’s the normal price around here.)

He looked up symptoms related to being drugged, and found that long term symptoms would mostly be trauma. The next weekend I had to be with his friends again and some people I didn’t know. They talked about that night and even made joked a little around me being drugged. (Not a lot but I felt awful.)

He also ignored me once when I said someone was following me. He was never scared of letting me walk around in town at night, but if a female friend did it, then he would have to follow her. He argues when I’m scared instead of making me feel better or protecting me. Other than that he’s a kind man that doesn’t want to hurt people but like..
This can NOT be normal??? Is this a relationship worth it? I’m scared I’m overreacting but keep in mind that most of this is told from his perspective, as I don’t remember that night.

EDIT: I forgot to say that I asked him what he would have done differently if this happened today, and paying the taxi was not on the list.

EDIT 2: I said it in the comments, but it’s difficult to even see it at this point. I just have to say that he did call for an ambulance, but they didn’t come. According to him it was one of the first things he did. But he told them I was conscious and so they didn’t feel the need to come. An ambulance is basically free here, meaning it would have saved him some money. He would have no reason not to call.

Some people also said that I should have payed him back for the taxi, and I agree based on the information I gave you. But I was the one that payed for drinks that night, and I spent A LOT more than 40$ on him, in total I spent 176$ to be exact.

Edit 3: I also want to say thank you for all the feedback! It feels both awful and good having my feeling validated. In a way I wanted you guys to tell me that I was overreacting and that he really tried his best. Seeing that you also find this situation a little fucked up makes me feel less crazy though haha. And yeah.. I’ll dump him. I think it will be the best for the both of us.

 

[Xangsane]

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[Deleted member 30942]

It depends
If I had been dating her for a long time I would absolutely pay the fair( if I had the money ofc)
But we hadn't been together for long
200 dollars is a lot of money

 

[Xangsane]

It depends
If I had been dating her for a long time I would absolutely pay the fair( if I had the money ofc)
But we hadn't been together for long
200 dollars is a lot of money

Do you think she overreacted?

 

[Deleted member 30942]

Do you think she overreacted?

Again
Depends
But if they were long term partners then not really
Her life could have been in danger

 

[Xangsane]

Again
Depends
But if they were long term partners then not really
Her life could have been in danger

They seemed to have been long term partners

 

[Deleted member 30942]

They seemed to have been long term partners

I see
Well then the boyfriend was a bit selfish imo

 

[Xangsane]

I see
Well then the boyfriend was a bit selfish imo

I agree
What if she had a heart attack or a burst AAA?

 

[Xangsane]

@Brus Wane why

 

[Deleted member 30942]

I agree
What if she had a heart attack or a burst AAA?

Exactly my point
Her life could've been in danger

 

[Xangsane]

Exactly my point
Her life could've been in danger

I would have spent the $200 also because of my health anxiety not just on me, but on others.

 

[Deleted member 30942]

I would have spent the $200 also because of my health anxiety not just on me, but on others.

True

 

[Xangsane]

True

It's so important to save up for expensive private health care as well because waiting list times in the NHS are so bad @tents

 

[Deleted member 30942]

It's so important to save up for expensive private health care as well because waiting list times in the NHS are so bad @tents

Brutal
And they always make fun of Americans for not having free healthcare when they can't even access their own

 

[Brus Wane]

@Brus Wane why

Honestly I'd have just gone with option 4 :

Sit with her for at least 30 mins or so to assess her condition (and let her puke if needed) before doing dumb shit like rushing her to the hospital.

As far as I can tell, she didn't faint or anything (just slipped into temporary unconsciousness) nor did she request to be taken anywhere.

Assuming this is the USA, bitch could have been warded and charged like $5000 and if she's not insured she would be complaining that her bf was a pussy and rushed her to the hospital because he panicked and now she's in deep debt yada yada yada....

Also, bitching about your bf on Reddit is a giga red flag. Either work it out with him or dump his ass, you entitled whore.

No one owes you a cab fare.

Come to think of it, maybe he should have just called an ambulance and left her with the bill. If it was someone I cared about like my family I'd definitely have dialled 911 or some shit.

Kek hard @ getting an uber when someone looks like they gon pass out from poppin too much molly.

 

[Deleted member 18879]

It's so important to save up for expensive private health care as well because waiting list times in the NHS are so bad @tents

From what I’ve heard on jaw surgery forums it’s just the orthodontists that are shit so private for them I got a consult with maxfac in a month on NHS Jfl idk where people get this idea from

 

[Xangsane]

Honestly I'd have just gone with option 4 :

Sit with her for at least 30 mins or so to assess her condition (and let her puke if needed) before doing dumb shit like rushing her to the hospital.

As far as I can tell, she didn't faint or anything (just slipped into temporary unconsciousness) nor did she request to be taken anywhere.

Assuming this is the USA, bitch could have been warded and charged like $5000 and if she's not insured she would be complaining that her bf was a pussy and rushed her to the hospital because he panicked and now she's in deep debt yada yada yada....

Also, bitching about your bf on Reddit is a giga red flag. Either work it out with him or dump his ass, you entitled whore.

No one owes you a cab fare.

Come to think of it, maybe he should have just called an ambulance and left her with the bill. If it was someone I cared about like my family I'd definitely have dialled 911 or some shit.

Kek hard @ getting an uber when someone looks like they gon pass out from poppin too much molly.

Even if she did drugs a few seconds is still a matter of life and death.

I would have spent the $200 also because of my health anxiety not just on me, but on others.

What if she had a heart attack or a burst AAA?

 

[Xangsane]

From what I’ve heard on jaw surgery forums it’s just the orthodontists that are shit so private for them I got a consult with maxfac in a month on NHS Jfl idk where people get this idea from

What about other specialities?

Brutal
And they always make fun of Americans for not having free healthcare when they can't even access their own

My mum had to wait 17 hours in A+E after a spinal cord injury (she already had too many issues with her spine and she's overweight with high blood pressure)

 

[Brus Wane]

Even if she did drugs a few seconds is still a matter of life and death.

Well then I would like to correct myself.

Call ambulance > leaving her to die.

But I'd leave her to die over that goofy ass cab + walk idea. Jfl.

Negative IQ bf.

 

[Deleted member 30942]

What about other specialities?

My mum had to wait 17 hours in A+E after a spinal cord injury

Brootal

The taxes in the UK are still so high
Despite them having this kind of healthcare

 

[Xangsane]

Well then I would like to correct myself.

Call ambulance > leaving her to die.

But I'd leave her to die over that goofy ass cab + walk idea. Jfl.

Negative IQ bf.

Thoughts?

EDIT 2: I said it in the comments, but it’s difficult to even see it at this point. I just have to say that he did call for an ambulance, but they didn’t come. According to him it was one of the first things he did. But he told them I was conscious and so they didn’t feel the need to come. An ambulance is basically free here, meaning it would have saved him some money. He would have no reason not to call.

Some people also said that I should have payed him back for the taxi, and I agree based on the information I gave you. But I was the one that payed for drinks that night, and I spent A LOT more than 40$ on him, in total I spent 176$ to be exac t.

 

[Xangsane]

Brootal

The taxes in the UK are still so high
Despite them having this kind of healthcare

The taxes you pay while working jobs are brutal

 

[Deleted member 30942]

The taxes you pay while working jobs are brutal

Everyone has to leave the UK
It's gonna collapse soon

 

[Brus Wane]

Thoughts?

Oh shit OK I didn't see that.

Well I try not to make a habit of taking the foid's side but fuck this guy is a douchebag.

Sounds like an absolute dork.

She paid for drinks + ambulance is free?

Homie looking sus af innit.

 

[Enfant terrible]

i thought women detect a bad personality

 

[Deleted member 18879]

What about other specialities?

My mum had to wait 17 hours in A+E after a spinal cord injury (she already had too many issues with her spine and she's overweight with high blood pressure)

yep, i think maxfac is one of the fastest especially if youre clinically recessed. ortho and neurology is the worst with the highest wait time

 

[Xangsane]

yep, i think maxfac is one of the fastest especially if youre clinically recessed. ortho and neurology is the worst with the highest wait time

It took Mum many months to be diagnosed with a new back issue.
The doc also told me when I asked about my twitching (which has 98% gone) said I'd have to wait till march next year to see a neuro jfl and it wasn't worth it