Would you guys attend your grand aunts funeral?

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

I'm currently in this situation where I don't know wether to attend the funeral which is in Poland (I'm currently in Denmark), I would have to spend 4 days in Poland which would put me behind on work as it hasn't been planned (cancer), and I just managed to catch up to my work from the last time I suffered from stress. For context: Ive spend a lot of time with her when I was younger and we were quite close, and we've had a lot of good memories together, but I'm afraid that I would get back into a cycle of stress again. I usually never attend funerals as I'm always content with the fact that they are dead and I feel like funerals are just a way to make the people that had forgotten them or so forth, feel bad and just a way to make it up to them. (I'm a atheist and very logical thinking individual, so I don't believe in afterlife or anything like that). My worry would also be what my family would think if I didn't attend. Any advice?

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

Tagging some of my hombres: @currylightskin @Xangsane @Lars @Enfant terrible

 

[Xangsane]

Tagging some of my hombres: @currylightskin @Xangsane @Lars @Enfant terrible

Yes. She's family after all.

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

Yes. She's family after all.

And this would also be your answer if you weren't religious?

 

[currylightskin]

Should definitely attend Niko . These are the little things we will regret not doing years later . So don't take the wrong decision. Attend the funeral and take a break for a couple of days

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

I would go- I’m not religious but never missed a funeral of family

Poland to Denmark isn’t that far- like 1-2 hour flight isn’t it?

 

[Deleted member 9801]

Nah

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

Should definitely attend Niko . These are the little things we will regret not doing years later . So don't take the wrong decision. Attend the funeral and take a break for a couple of days

Thank you for the advice, I've never really regretted not going to any other funerals of family members (I have a huge family on my mother's side and they're all up in the age range), it's just a bit different as she was closer to me than the rest, so I guess people would expect me to go, but to me personally I would feel like just going because I would be expected to. But I know it would look bad If I didn't attend

 

[Deleted member 2729]

You should go

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

I would go- I’m not religious but never missed a funeral of family

Poland to Denmark isn’t that far- like 1-2 hour flight isn’t it?

It is, but I would have to stay 4.5 days because I would be one of the designated drivers as we would need an another car and so forth

 

[Marco Polo]

Nah

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

It is, but I would have to stay 4.5 days because I would be one of the designated drivers as we would need an another car and so forth

Can’t you fly rather than drive?

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

Can’t you fly rather than drive?

I would have to take my mom's dog with me and isn't able to fly, also it more convenient to drive down there if we're in a group as I would have to fly to Prague for the closest airport and get transportation from there

 

[the BULL]

no, don't conform. funerals means shit, she's not gonna be personally upset

 

[Enfant terrible]

if you are close yeah

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

no, don't conform. funerals means shit, she's not gonna be personally upset

To some people they do mean a lot and I respect that, i did still attend my ex's grandfather's funeral for emotional support but I don't think my family would need it as much (and it was in the same country). But my biggest fear is probably not me regretting not going, but me regretting that I went. I would prefer to have good memories as the last thing and not me being bitter after some time duo to the fact that I went

 

[Deleted member 19896]

Nope.

 

[Deleted member 19896]

To some people they do mean a lot and I respect that, i did still attend my ex's grandfather's funeral for emotional support (it was in the same country). But my biggest fear is probably not me regretting not going, but me regretting that I went. I would prefer to have good memories as the last thing and not me being bitter after some time duo to the fact that I went

then just go nigga what's to think about

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

then just go nigga what's to think about

That it would heavily effect my work the next 2-3 weeks after that (possibly longer) as I wouldn't be able to work in that time period so that I can stand in front of a casket and get back

 

[Deleted member 19896]

That it would heavily effect my work the next 2-3 weeks after that (possibly longer) as I wouldn't be able to work in that time period so that I can stand in front of a casket and get back

Flip a coin

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

Flip a coin

Honestly might if I don't come to a conclusion this evening

 

[Deleted member 18924]

It depends how close you two are.

 

[Deleted member 19499]

My grand aunt lives across the world from me and I've only seen her legit twice in my entire life so idgaf about her or her death tbh.

 

[Deleted member 19896]

Honestly might if I don't come to a conclusion this evening

when in doubt ask yourself what would o'pry do in this situation?

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

It depends how close you two are.

When I was younger (5-7 yrs) we used to spend a lot of time together, after that I saw her ocassionally when I was in Poland to see the rest of the family which was about once a year

 

[Deleted member 18924]

When I was younger (5-7 yrs) we used to spend a lot of time together, after that I saw her ocassionally when I was in Poland to see the rest of the family which was about once a year

I would go, tbh.

 

[Xangsane]

And this would also be your answer if you weren't religious?

Yes

 

[Moggie]

Feel its too distant a relationship tbh, I only go for people that I actually knew well and dont go just because family, might be because I have a large family and feuding is common, not my style but cant help that people do not get along.

 

[HerpDerpson]

Wouldn't attend my parents' funeral.

 

[AlexBrown84]

Yes why not easyjet flights are cheap

I wonder what I’ll do if I’m in asia when one of my family members in america dies

 

[ItsOVERBuddyBoyos]

Yes. She's family after all.

Should definitely attend Niko . These are the little things we will regret not doing years later . So don't take the wrong decision. Attend the funeral and take a break for a couple of days

You should go, work will always be there. This is your time to spend with family and celebrate her life.