Would you rather grow up abused or neglected

[Prøphet]

Ive been through both during my childhood

The abuse was extremely painful but at least it pushed me toward growth and hardened me and taught me who I am

The neglect wasn’t as painful in the moment but over time just taught me to neglect myself which lead to so many lost years due to self hatred and self abandonment

I think abuse is overall more painful but at least it pushes you toward something

Neglect isa bit less painful, but it feels totally meaningless

Maybe abuse damages you more while neglect damages your life more

 

[iroh]

Ive been through both during my childhood

The abuse was extremely painful but at least it pushed me toward growth and hardened me and taught me who I am

The neglect wasn’t as painful in the moment but over time just taught me to neglect myself which lead to so many lost years due to self hatred and self abandonment

abuse would have more long term physical effects than neglecting

id rather my parents hate me but still feed me and allow me to grow up healthy compared to a parent who starves me and constantly beats me resulting in me growing irregularly

 

[NorWayItsOver]

Ive been through both during my childhood

The abuse was extremely painful but at least it pushed me toward growth and hardened me and taught me who I am

The neglect wasn’t as painful in the moment but over time just taught me to neglect myself which lead to so many lost years due to self hatred and self abandonment

Both are very bad, but i would rather grow up neglected. If your abused, your often neglected as well

 

[avena]

you gave the answer

 

[tansel]

can you start tagging me in ur posts man

i barely see any of them

 

[Tenres]

I think abuse can be a bit more constructive, neglect is freedom but it leads you to having to develop many skills other people have all at once

 

[Prøphet]

can you start tagging me in ur posts man

i barely see any of them

Nigga you would get like 10 tags a day then

Be careful what you wish for

 

[g4rlic]

Ive been through both during my childhood

The abuse was extremely painful but at least it pushed me toward growth and hardened me and taught me who I am

The neglect wasn’t as painful in the moment but over time just taught me to neglect myself which lead to so many lost years due to self hatred and self abandonment

I think abuse is overall more painful but at least it pushes you toward something

Neglect isa bit less painful, but it feels totally meaningless

Maybe abuse damages you more while neglect damages your life more

I think you might neglect yourself cuz of abuse. because you've been through both it might be hard to seperate which one caused what in ur psyche.

imo neglect is just better probably. neglect is freedom and probably brings you closer to yourself than abuse, you just kind of understand that people aren't always going to be there and you move on. there is still pain but not as severe. mogs even more if you can find alternative role models in your life you might be more immature in someways however

abuse is real damage. you can become successful with both but abuse will always come at a cost. when you are abused you aren't successful cuz of your own ambitions you are just at constant odds with the ppl who hurt you and their expectations of you. even if you find another role model or friends the negative reinforcement will always kind of prevail. the pain stays with you and makes you dysfunctional maybe even gives you some personality disorders worst case scenario some kind of narc or sociopath

 

[LA_vxmpk1NG]

Abuse toughens u up neglect just makes you an insecure loner so abuse

 

[tansel]

Nigga you would get like 10 tags a day then

Be careful what you wish for

i literally want that dude

 

[isis_Bleach]

neglected is way worse . everybody knows foids use sexual abuse as a way to flex “oh men cant keep their hands off me”