You are not your name

[Gargantuan]

I know it sounds silly, but hear me out.

You never chose your name.
It was chosen for you, without your consent, assigned before you could even speak, before you even knew what “you” meant. A sound selected by others to summon your attention. From then on, you learned to respond to that sound, to the expectations that came with it, to the role built around it.

Your name isn’t your identity. It’s a control mechanism. Once something has a label, it can be managed, described, judged, placed, etc.
That’s how they keep you legible: family, school, government, all anchored on the same signal. Say the name and voila, you trigger the persona.
Most people will spend their whole lives defending a word someone else gave them, that's just fucking WILD when you think about it.

It's all conditioning. If you ever want to test it, stop answering for a while, internally, not socially. Let the name hang unanswered in your mind.
Watch what’s left when you don’t come running. That’s the first glimpse of freedom.

Just some lifefuel for namecels. You can still change it legally if it bugs you, but neither option defines you.
"You" cannot be defined by a sound, let alone be reduced to it.

 

[Glorious King]

i dunno why people call me CHAD

Even though my name is Jabari smith JR the 3rd

 

[sub5mumbaifinalboss]

my name is my identity

 

[Glorious King]

on a serious note

great point, good thread

 

[FaceandBBC]

 

[Finnishmogger]

Do you think having a ”good name” matters

 

[optimisticzoomer]

There’s a man at my work called Meredith

 

[sub5mumbaifinalboss]

Do you think having a ”good name” matters

yes

name halo

 

[Gargantuan]

Do you think having a ”good name” matters

It only matters to the degree you still identify with it. In the end, it’s just social currency, not true essence.
Alexander or Chad only sounds better than Eugene or Bert because the collective script assigns it a higher status/stronger archetype, or whatever you want to call it.

But when you strip it all down, both are just vibrations with cultural residue. If you’re operating inside the world, sure, some names get better reception. But if you’re trying to see beyond the play, neither name matters at all.

 

[PlzEndIt]

After surgery ascension, I am definitely changing my name. Probably to Tyrone or Jordan

 

[Gamerspyy786]

Just some lifefuel for namecels.

Thanks

I literally made a thread being upset about the fact I’m a namecel (kinda, tbh my old oneitis said she liked it, idk if she was serious about it tho)

 

[Finnishmogger]

It only matters to the degree you still identify with it. In the end, it’s just social currency, not true essence.
Alexander or Chad only sounds better than Eugene or Bert because the collective script assigns it a higher status/stronger archetype, or whatever you want to call it.

But when you strip it all down, both are just vibrations with cultural residue. If you’re operating inside the world, sure, some names get better reception. But if you’re trying to see beyond the play, neither name matters at all.

There was a study where white names got like 50% more interviews than someone like Jamal.

 

[jaaba]

I know it sounds silly, but hear me out.

You never chose your name.
It was chosen for you, without your consent, assigned before you could even speak, before you even knew what “you” meant. A sound selected by others to summon your attention. From then on, you learned to respond to that sound, to the expectations that came with it, to the role built around it.

Your name isn’t your identity. It’s a control mechanism. Once something has a label, it can be managed, described, judged, placed, etc.
That’s how they keep you legible: family, school, government, all anchored on the same signal. Say the name and voila, you trigger the persona.
Most people will spend their whole lives defending a word someone else gave them, that's just fucking WILD when you think about it.

It's all conditioning. If you ever want to test it, stop answering for a while, internally, not socially. Let the name hang unanswered in your mind.
Watch what’s left when you don’t come running. That’s the first glimpse of freedom.

Just some lifefuel for namecels. You can still change it legally if it bugs you, but neither option defines you.
"You" cannot be defined by a sound, let alone be reduced to it.

I think the concept of self is far more fluid than many claim, your so called “personality” is constantly changing and pretty much nobody actually knows who they are they just think they do.

When talking about “who they are” a lot of people just list off things they like, or how social they are which can change drastically in very short time frames.

The most accurate representation of who you are is probably your appearance, it’s what everyone thinks of you as; when someone thinks of you they don’t think of the word that is your name they imagine your face. It also negates how you are treated and your character eventually moulds to those social experiences so even “personality” is a direct representation of your appearance. Your names pretty irrelevant, unless you have a super retarded name like tarquin or some shit lol

 

[Vermilioncore]

There’s a man at my work called Meredith

There was a black slut at mine called Cyrax

 

[flippasav]

I have a unisex name as an ethnic which I share with white foids

 

[Hernan]

I have a unisex name as an ethnic which I share with white foids

i'm guessing sam?

 

[Debetro]

Name is kind of irrelevant
Surname does tell about your roots and/or certain characteristics of your predecessors

 

[flippasav]

i'm guessing sam?

Yessir

 

[Gargantuan]

I think the concept of self is far more fluid than many claim, your so called “personality” is constantly changing and pretty much nobody actually knows who they are they just think they do.

When talking about “who they are” a lot of people just list off things they like, or how social they are which can change drastically in very short time frames.

The most accurate representation of who you are is probably your appearance, it’s what everyone thinks of you as; when someone things of you they don’t think of the word that is your name they imagine your face. It also negates how you are treated and your character eventually moulds to those social experiences so even “personality” is a direct representation of your appearance. Your names pretty irrelevant, unless you have a super retarded name like tarquin or some shit lol

I agree, identity isn’t solid but fluid. Most people mistake their current behavioural configuration for a fixed self.
Appearance is just another layer of that same adaptive loop, the external interface through which the ego presents itself.

What most people call “me” is just a bundle of reactions trying to keep coherence between how they look, how they’re treated, and how they expect to be treated. The part that can see that process doesn’t shift with mood or body, that’s the observer behind the ego.
The ego’s just software maintaining recognisability. Useful for interaction, but not who we really are.

 

[KD6Imp33]

i'm guessing sam?

I knew a guy who was named Michelle.
Poor guy.

 

[KD6Imp33]

Name is kind of irrelevant
Surname does tell about your roots and/or certain characteristics of your predecessors

Wasn't surname invented after Napoleon demanded it?
After he slaughtered through Europe.

 

[Rothschild]

I know it sounds silly, but hear me out.

You never chose your name.
It was chosen for you, without your consent, assigned before you could even speak, before you even knew what “you” meant. A sound selected by others to summon your attention. From then on, you learned to respond to that sound, to the expectations that came with it, to the role built around it.

Your name isn’t your identity. It’s a control mechanism. Once something has a label, it can be managed, described, judged, placed, etc.
That’s how they keep you legible: family, school, government, all anchored on the same signal. Say the name and voila, you trigger the persona.
Most people will spend their whole lives defending a word someone else gave them, that's just fucking WILD when you think about it.

It's all conditioning. If you ever want to test it, stop answering for a while, internally, not socially. Let the name hang unanswered in your mind.
Watch what’s left when you don’t come running. That’s the first glimpse of freedom.

Just some lifefuel for namecels. You can still change it legally if it bugs you, but neither option defines you.
"You" cannot be defined by a sound, let alone be reduced to it.

dnr but water

 

[Klasik616]

I know it sounds silly, but hear me out.

You never chose your name.
It was chosen for you, without your consent, assigned before you could even speak, before you even knew what “you” meant. A sound selected by others to summon your attention. From then on, you learned to respond to that sound, to the expectations that came with it, to the role built around it.

Your name isn’t your identity. It’s a control mechanism. Once something has a label, it can be managed, described, judged, placed, etc.
That’s how they keep you legible: family, school, government, all anchored on the same signal. Say the name and voila, you trigger the persona.
Most people will spend their whole lives defending a word someone else gave them, that's just fucking WILD when you think about it.

It's all conditioning. If you ever want to test it, stop answering for a while, internally, not socially. Let the name hang unanswered in your mind.
Watch what’s left when you don’t come running. That’s the first glimpse of freedom.

Just some lifefuel for namecels. You can still change it legally if it bugs you, but neither option defines you.
"You" cannot be defined by a sound, let alone be reduced to it.

Water

 

[IwillRope2024]

My true name is Tyrone BigDicksson.