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You don't want to hear this. Because it's easier to think that circumstances are to blame: parents, looks, money, city, country, society. Anyone, damn it, except you.
But that's a lie. And you know it yourself. Because deep down you understand: if you're unhappy with your life - it's not because the world decided so. It's because you decided so. By your actions or your inaction.
Circumstances don't always determine
Yes, you may have bad starting data. Yes, someone was born into a rich family, with good looks, in a great country. Yes, that's very unfair. But circumstances are not always a sentence. They are a starting position, not the finale. I don't deny that a starting position can be so horrible that giving up is the most reasonable decision. But there are very few people here for whom things are so terrible.
You didn't choose where to be born. Didn't choose your looks. Didn't choose your IQ. You didn't choose anything, but you choose what to do with it. Every day, every minute. And if you do nothing - that's also a choice. A choice in favor of everything staying as it is.
Yes, you may have bad starting data. Yes, someone was born into a rich family, with good looks, in a great country. Yes, that's very unfair. But circumstances are not always a sentence. They are a starting position, not the finale. I don't deny that a starting position can be so horrible that giving up is the most reasonable decision. But there are very few people here for whom things are so terrible.
You didn't choose where to be born. Didn't choose your looks. Didn't choose your IQ. You didn't choose anything, but you choose what to do with it. Every day, every minute. And if you do nothing - that's also a choice. A choice in favor of everything staying as it is.
You are not a victim
As long as you believe that life just happens to you - you've already lost. Because in that case you're not acting, you're only responding to blows.
As soon as you accept that life is what you do, not what is done to you — everything changes. Not instantly, but it changes. Because then you stop waiting for someone to come and fix it. And you start fixing it yourself.
As long as you believe that life just happens to you - you've already lost. Because in that case you're not acting, you're only responding to blows.
As soon as you accept that life is what you do, not what is done to you — everything changes. Not instantly, but it changes. Because then you stop waiting for someone to come and fix it. And you start fixing it yourself.
I see these threads
I see threads with titles: "I hate myself," "life is terrible," "I don't want to live." I open them, and there it is: "I have no friends," "I'm addicted," "no girlfriend, but I really want one."
You are to blame for this yourself. Because every one of your decisions led you here. Every day and every choice.
You didn't want friends - you sat at home. You didn't want to be addicted - but you picked up what breaks and kills you. You wanted a girlfriend - but did nothing to meet one. You waited for it to come on its own, but it never does.
And now you're writing a thread. And waiting for someone to say: "yeah, bro, it's hard for you" or "no, you're not to blame." But you are to blame for choosing to change nothing, every day.
I see threads with titles: "I hate myself," "life is terrible," "I don't want to live." I open them, and there it is: "I have no friends," "I'm addicted," "no girlfriend, but I really want one."
You are to blame for this yourself. Because every one of your decisions led you here. Every day and every choice.
You didn't want friends - you sat at home. You didn't want to be addicted - but you picked up what breaks and kills you. You wanted a girlfriend - but did nothing to meet one. You waited for it to come on its own, but it never does.
And now you're writing a thread. And waiting for someone to say: "yeah, bro, it's hard for you" or "no, you're not to blame." But you are to blame for choosing to change nothing, every day.
What to do
Stop looking for who's to blame. Even if they exist. Even if it's true. Looking for who's to blame doesn't change your life. It only gives you an excuse to do nothing.
Admit what and where you fucked up. Not to finish yourself off. But to see the point from which you can move. Until you admit the problem is in you - you can't solve it.
Start small. Right now, even if it's just standing up and cleaning your room. A small action breaks this cycle.
Stop waiting. No one will ever come. You are not the main character in this life. Not a friend, not a woman, not a psychologist, not the forum. Everyone is always busy with themselves. You should be busy with yourself too. And not waiting for someone to take care of you.
Stop looking for who's to blame. Even if they exist. Even if it's true. Looking for who's to blame doesn't change your life. It only gives you an excuse to do nothing.
Admit what and where you fucked up. Not to finish yourself off. But to see the point from which you can move. Until you admit the problem is in you - you can't solve it.
Start small. Right now, even if it's just standing up and cleaning your room. A small action breaks this cycle.
Stop waiting. No one will ever come. You are not the main character in this life. Not a friend, not a woman, not a psychologist, not the forum. Everyone is always busy with themselves. You should be busy with yourself too. And not waiting for someone to take care of you.
What will happen if you accept this
It will become scary. Because if you're responsible for your life - then there's no one to blame. It's all on you - that's hard. But it's also liberating. Because if it's all on you - then you can change it.
And then something appears that wasn't there before - responsibility. Which works even when you don't feel like anything. Because you know: if not you — then no one.
It will become scary. Because if you're responsible for your life - then there's no one to blame. It's all on you - that's hard. But it's also liberating. Because if it's all on you - then you can change it.
And then something appears that wasn't there before - responsibility. Which works even when you don't feel like anything. Because you know: if not you — then no one.
And lastly
You can read this and forget it. You can close the thread and go back to the same. That's your choice too, but you're responsible for it too. So the question is not what I told you. The question is what you'll do with it.
You are responsible for what your life is right now. What will you do next?
You can read this and forget it. You can close the thread and go back to the same. That's your choice too, but you're responsible for it too. So the question is not what I told you. The question is what you'll do with it.
You are responsible for what your life is right now. What will you do next?
I translated my thread from my language into English, there may be errors
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Dnr=faggot
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